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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30-48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 30
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 6" (1.68m)
Special Diet
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
My self-summary
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I'm interested in social justice and spiritual growth, or radical spirituality--the combination of the two. I value relating with others as a way to grow and learn from one another.

I'm up for getting to know new people and seeing what happens, but if sex is your primary goal, I'm not your man.

I live with my boyfriend, so if you think both of us are cute, we're doubly interested in meeting you.

I'm also always looking for people who want to play board games, so definitely message me if you are into that!
What I’m doing with my life
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Taking responsibility, saying yes to what is, exercising compassion, taking leaps of faith, playing with form, breathing deeply. Managing the vegetables.
I’m really good at
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Making things I think about appear. Speaking truth to power. Making brunch.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I listen rather than speak.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav, The Alchemist, The Work by Byron Katie, A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, The Untethered Soul, Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Steve Pavlina, The Power of Less, The Self-Aware Universe, Whipping Girl, Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?, Thinking Class, Exile & Pride, 1491, Lies My Teacher Told Me, Are Prisons Obsolete?, Conquest, Speciesism, all things Malcolm Gladwell (love the audio versions), A Complaint-Free World, Pronoia, The Reader, The Gnostic Gospels. Fiction rarely excites me, but I'm open to suggestions.

Movies: 127 Hours, The Apartment, El Sexo de los Ángeles, Beautiful Boxer, Children of Heaven, The Lives of Others, The Man from Mallorca, Run Lola Run, Gattaca, Shabnam Mausi, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice, Constantine's Sword, The Business of Being Born, The Corporation, Dog Day Afternoon, The Brady Bunch Movie, Guys and Balls (cute triad!), Iron Ladies, Bend It Like Beckham, What the #$*! Do We (K)now!?, anything that's based on a true story, and fiction typically only if it's non-US.

TV: Stopped watching for 2005 as a New Year's resolution and haven't gone back. I have seen Big Love and Morgan Spurlock's insightful 30 Days series. I did watch OITNB of course.

Audio: This American Life, Radiolab, Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!, The Moth, Insights at the Edge, How to Do Everything, audio books. Old people music: Billy Bragg, The Police, New Order, Simon & Garfunkel, and yes, per the screen name, Neil Young. I also like G.W. McLennan, Bishop Allen, Fury in the Slaughterhouse and other random bands.

Food: vegetables, green smoothies, hearty salads, Ethiopian, Indian, General Tso's Tofu. This list is not comprehensive.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
social justice
the nature of reality
personal development
where can I get Vegan Treats?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Seeing a play, traveling, hanging out with friends or the bf, resting up for the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am trans. (Trans like Buck Angel sans muscles and tattoos.) And a robot in disguise. That and that I have an irrational aversion to Transformers. I am, and will always be, a Gobot man.
You should message me if
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you are interested in the following:
meeting up,
anything in this profile,
playing board games (often the German variety),
watching documentaries,
attending storytellings,
going to terrible standup comedy,
eating vegan food,
going on a hike,
being my other boyfriend,
not being my other boyfriend,
working for social justice, or
comparing notes about the world beyond the five senses.