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37 M Jackson Heights, NY

My Details

Last Online
Apr 15
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from law school
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them

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My self-summary
I'm interested in social justice and spiritual growth, or radical spirituality--the combination of the two. I value relating with others as a way to grow and learn from one another.

I'm interested in all sorts of connections. I am in an open relationship, and am up for getting to know new people and seeing what happens in the present -- whether that be or turn into something romantic, sexual, friendly or otherwise.
What I’m doing with my life
Taking responsibility, saying yes to what is, exercising compassion, taking leaps of faith, playing with form, breathing deeply. Managing the vegetables.
I’m really good at
Making things I think about appear. Speaking truth to power. Making brunch.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I listen rather than speak.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav, The Alchemist, The Work by Byron Katie, A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, The Untethered Soul, Way of the Peaceful Warrior, Steve Pavlina, The Power of Less, The Self-Aware Universe, Whipping Girl, Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?, Thinking Class, Exile & Pride, 1491, Lies My Teacher Told Me, Are Prisons Obsolete?, Conquest, Speciesism, all things Malcolm Gladwell (love the audio versions), A Complaint-Free World, Pronoia, The Reader, The Gnostic Gospels. Fiction rarely excites me, but I'm open to suggestions.

Movies: 127 Hours, The Apartment, El Sexo de los Ángeles, Beautiful Boxer, Children of Heaven, The Lives of Others, The Man from Mallorca, Run Lola Run, Gattaca, Shabnam Mausi, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice, Constantine's Sword, The Business of Being Born, The Corporation, Dog Day Afternoon, The Brady Bunch Movie, Guys and Balls (cute triad!), Iron Ladies, Bend It Like Beckham, What the #$*! Do We (K)now!?, anything that's a documentary or based on a true story, and fiction typically only if it's non-US.

TV: Stopped watching for 2005 as a New Year's resolution and haven't gone back. On DVD I have seen Big Love and Morgan Spurlock's insightful 30 Days series.

Audio: This American Life, Radiolab, Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me!, The Moth, Insights at the Edge, How to Do Everything, audio books. Old people music: Billy Bragg, The Police, New Order, Simon & Garfunkel, and yes, per the screen name, Neil Young. I also like G.W. McLennan, Bishop Allen, Fury in the Slaughterhouse and other random bands.

Food: vegetables, green smoothies, hearty salads, Ethiopian, Indian, General Tso's Tofu. This list is not comprehensive.
The six things I could never do without
I spend a lot of time thinking about
social justice
the nature of reality
personal development
where can I get Vegan Treats?

Also, how it will come to pass that I meet the two people who comprise my ideal relationship: a triad where we are all into each other (and can still date other people). I was born poly, what can I say?
On a typical Friday night I am
running, out seeing a film, having a home-cooked meal with a friend, or recovering from the work week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am trans. (Trans like Buck Angel sans muscles and tattoos.) And a robot in disguise. (That and that I have an irrational aversion to Transformers. I am, and will always be, a Gobot man.)
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 32–47
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you are interested in the following:
meeting up,
anything in this profile,
playing board games (often the German variety),
going on a bike ride,
watching documentaries,
attending storytellings,
eating vegan food,
going on a hike,
being in a triad,
not being in a triad,
working for social justice, or
comparing notes about the world beyond the five senses.