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tredeger

39 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 18–44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 23
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Education
University
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
UPDATE: At the moment, my life is consumed by the startup I co-founded; I'm in the middle of a kickstarter campaign and there's a lot of silly video of me there. It's probably the best way to get a sense of me (for better or worse) and you can see it here .


I'm a work in progress.

I think 'LMNOP' is the best part of the alphabet. Seriously, say it out loud; it's musical.

I love words. And logic and science. But I also love the arts and intuition and the ineffable.

Here, I've written you a (very) short story:
_From Things I've Learned with My Time Machine_
Dinosaur does NOT taste like chicken.

My dating philosophy:
I'm vehemently opposed to the Hollywood checklist mentality toward finding "the one". You end up projecting impossible expectations on people, blinding yourself to who they really are, and disappointed when the illusion inevitably falls away. Letting go of expectation lets you focus on really learning all about the new person - which is wonderful, exciting and fun. But still not enough.
In a really successful connection, you discover yourself as well as the other. I believe in measuring relationship success by what the other person teaches you about yourself that no one else could or would (and reciprocating). Revealing hidden places in you that only they can reach is the true gift of their uniqueness, and by this measure, even fleeting relationships can be beautiful and life changing.

(And by 'love words' I mean that I recently had a conversation with a friend about whether 'corn on the cob' was a hapax legomenon and that corn is redundant to 'on the cob', reducing the signal:noise ratio by half. Said conversation degenerates inexorably into a list of things we'd like to see on the cob. Like ice cream.)
What I’m doing with my life
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I moved to the Bay Area in 2007 to work for Dreamworks on an animated film (Madagascar 2 - NOT a great movie) and stayed in the area when my contract ended. I freelance and always have a bunch of my own creative projects in the works. My personal work is varied - I am writing a young adult science fantasy novel; I paint abstract and abstract representational "structural" canvases (photos coming soon); I am trying to create a whimsical online cooking/whatever show (sort of Martha Stewart goes to Burning Man); I am patent pending and trying to manufacture a novel plush toy that's a sort of fuzzy Mr. Potato Head (photos soon). Basically, a lot of my time is spent making stuff that hasn't been before.

I'm trying to be present in the moment and really cultivate my connections to the people in my life.

I'm trying to explore more new things and challenge myself physically, socially and intellectually. Recently I've gotten into the circus arts pretty heavily (aerial silks, handstands, acroyoga, etc.) and met lots of eclectic, wonderful people.

I'm trying to be grateful for everything.

I'm trying to treat each moment as an opportunity to make a worthy memory.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Communication.
Problem solving.
Learning and trying new things.
Listening (but I'm always working on getting better at this).
Mastering skills that are fundamentally obsolete in the modern world (like dip pen handwriting).
Animals that hate everyone tend to love me. I'm inordinately proud of this; it's my superpower.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
are my energy, enthusiasm, intelligence and curiosity. It takes a little longer to discover my patience, grounded nature and ability to listen really closely.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Food!
Great food is a central part of my life both nutritionally and socially. I inherited my mother's kitchen last year and to honor her I've been learning to cook and bake. I make pretty mean pies - blueberry with lemon zest and lavender, cherry with almond extract and peach with vanilla and ginger.

My signature dish is Salmon Persephone (my own invention) and when the ingredients are in season I'm nigh irresistible. If you can identify the secret seasonal ingredient by the name alone, I'm already in like with you.

I relish eating in and eating out and making memories over meals. In good restaurants, I sometimes let the chef prepare whatever s/he pleases. You can get some of the very best meals this way. Favorite restaurants in the area include Gather and the Slanted Door.

I avoid the term foodie but the fact that you can go to a dozen farmer's markets a week in the Bay Area has definitely spoiled me and made me sensitive to which varietal peach/strawberry/pluot/etc. is best any given week of the year.

Dance:
Very high on my list of personal interests is acroyoga and attending the ballet. We are so privileged to have such a world class company in SF Ballet. My favorite story ballet is R&J (especially with SVP) and my favorite choreographers include Chris Wheeldon and Wayne Macgregor. If you know who these people are, message me now!

Books/Authors:
Jorge Luis Borges, Alfred, Lord Tennyson, Greg Egan, William Gibson, Audrey Niffenegger, Rilke, Samuel R. Delany, Philip Pullman, Neil Gaiman, Christina Meldrum, W H Auden, Neal Stephenson, Norman Maclean, ...and the list goes on and on...

Film/TV:
(N.B.: I haven't owned a television since moving to the Bay Area)
American Graffiti, Blade Runner, 500 Days of Summer, Serendipity, Serenity, Aliens, The Lover (L'Amant), Let the Right One In, Love Actually, Kissing Jessica Stein, An American in Paris, The Ice Storm, Before Sunrise/Sunset, Jurassic Park, Breakfast at Tiffany's, Broadcast News, The English Patient, Pirates of the Caribbean, Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan, City Of Lost Children, The Professional, The Fifth Element, Resevoir Dogs, Spirited Away, Iron Man, Finding Nemo, Kung Fu Panda, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Edward Scissorhands, Stranger than Fiction, Swingers, The Prestige, Forgetting Sarah Marshall, The Sting, The Last Seduction, Dangerous Liaisons, Bridge to Terabithia, The Princess Bride, Brick, Beautiful Girls...
(I am, incidentally, a total sucker for time travel themed love stories - Somewhere in Time, The Lakehouse, The Time Traveler's Wife - though the book was far superior, The Jacket)
Joss Whedon, 30 Rock, Rome, Modern Family, House, Mad Men, Firefly, Glee, Bones, The West Wing, Sports Night, Eureka, The L Word, Big Guy & Rusty the Boy Robot, Dr. Horrible...

Music:
Lots of stuff, I'm more open to new music than I am well versed in what is out there. If you introduce me to something soul stirring, I'll bake you a pie. Just in terms of regular listening, I find myself oscillating between a lot of female singer/songwriter types like Missy Higgins, Sarah Mclachlan, Brandi Carlile, the Story, Katie Melua, Sia, Poe, Jem, etc. and stuff like Tom Waits, Elliot Smith, Nick Cave, Zevon, Springsteen, etc.

William Shatner's cover of Pulp's Common People is pure genius. Michel Gondry's music video for Cibo Matto's Sugar/Water gets me every time. And when you say "Sex and Rock & Roll" I'm thinking of Susanna Hoffs of the Bangles.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Love
2. Friendship
3. Art
4. Science
5. Curiosity
6. The Unknown
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...everything. I'm trying to over think less. And I'm trying to find a balance between being present in the moment and respecting my concerns about the future. I'm definitely in search of my brain's still-point. But you might enjoy watching the gears turn - it can be quite the show.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
spending time with friends or ...
writing or...
painting or..
baking or...
adventuring or...??
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've recently discovered I'm a lot less finished growing up than I thought. It's a bit frightening but exciting as well.

Also, if I had a minion I could conquer the world.
You should message me if
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you think we have something to discover from each other. You're interested in fearless conversation, going on new adventures, and exploring the possibilities.

Or if you fall somewhere along the line between Liz Lemon and Audrey Hepburn.