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55 Richmond, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 10:13pm
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Norwegian (Fluently), Chinese (Poorly), Spanish (Okay), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Do you like men who are confident, but not egotistical, young at heart, but evolved/mature, are really interesting, much traveled, yet with little-to-no baggage, side-splittingly funny, yet not too sarcastic or dark, can climb lung searing mountains with nary a shrug and when he arrives at the top can start a fire with two sticks, and then prepare a multi-course meal from scratch, or at the least can dress up to the nines as soon as returning, loves chocolate, a perfect gentleman who can treat you like a real lady but who loves strong, independent women, is an ardent conversationalist, but knows not to be too talkative, exercises like an Olympic runner, but isn't a sports nut, is a real striver, super successful in his work but has plenty of time for finding that perfect soul mate, (usually on Tuesdays when the moon is full) is a real tiger in bed, loves women, yet is scrupulously faithful, a real "guy guy" yet sensitive, is tremendously creative, yet is sober, down-to-earth and who simply wants to keep it "real"

well..... I'm that guy.... who really likes chocolate

Btw, i didn't put an actual age range, (so the default is 18-99) you'll know if we're in the right age range, people usually get my age wrong by quite a bit, and the delusional stated age and desired age ranges I often see here are quite a hoot.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
lived overseas many years, speak other languages, gainfully employed doing the spatial epidemiology of of health equity and climate change in CA and I'm a working poet (hence the day job). My photos are current and my age is accurate. I suppose I could say something funny, tell you how much I love being outside, exercising often, going out dancing, appreciating being alive, etc, but that's hardly news or distinguishing.
No accounting for the vagaries of taste, chemistry, and the like - so this is just a start.
I like being in long term relationships, kissing, public and non-public displays of derision, I mean affection, sex, the usual. Think loving and being loved are foundational to human existence.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
playing the hell out of the harmonica, writing the hell out of english, and I seem to keep my head when things start getting really bad.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
that I'm tall/too tall, attractive/not attractive
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
watch TV all the time, commercials are great! I mean everyone loves reality TV, right? And I mean, what can you say about the old two and a half men? And I love eating vegan raised veal and my old Leopard fur jacket is wearing thin, anyone know where I can get a new one.? I love reading books about self-unimprovement- self-destruction.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
in a fetal position, drooling and rocking in front of my computer opened to an on-line dating site. "my precious, my precious...."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I still count numbers on my fingers, I would use my toes but I lost the lot of them on K2......funny story.

or that it's cringe worthy when you see answers here like "well it wouldn't be private then would it?" or "I'll tell you later..." Puh-lease.

so little playfulness, creativity, courage, at the least, make it up!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
if you're have (most of) your teeth, (or at least good dentures) aren't throwing gang signs (too obviously)
and if you're wicked creative, smart, brave, kind
and un-apologetically the opposite of puritanical, I'm game