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54 Richmond, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18-99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 9:05am
Straight, Sapiosexual
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
6' 4" (1.93m)
Body Type
Judaism but it’s not important
Post grad
Has kid(s)
English, Norwegian (Fluently), Chinese (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Do you like men who are confident, but not egotistical, young at heart, but evolved/mature, are really interesting, much traveled, yet with little-to-no baggage, side-splittingly funny, yet not too sarcastic or dark, can climb lung searing mountains with nary a shrug and when he summits can start a fire with two sticks, and then prepare a multi-course meal from scratch, or at the least can dress up to the nines as soon as returning, loves chocolate, a perfect gentleman who can treat you like a real lady but who loves strong, independent women, is an ardent conversationalist, but knows not to be too talkative, exercises like an Olympic runner, but isn't a sports nut, is a real striver, super successful in his work but has plenty of time for finding that perfect soul mate, (usually on Tuesdays when the moon is full) is a real tiger in bed, loves women, yet is scrupulously faithful, a real "guy guy" yet sensitive, is tremendously creative, but sober, down-to-earth and who simply wants to keep it "real."

well..... I'm that guy.... who really likes chocolate
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
lived overseas many years, speak other languages, gainfully employed doing the spatial epidemiology of of health equity and climate change in CA and I'm a working poet (hence the day job). My photos are current and I suppose I could say something funny, tell you how much I love being outside, exercising often, going out dancing, appreciating being alive, etc, but that's hardly news or distinguishing.
No accounting for the vagaries of taste, chemistry, and the like - so this is just a start.
I like being in long term relationships, (often quite non-traditional, open, polyamorous) kissing, public and non-public displays of derision, I mean affection, sex, the usual. Think loving and being loved are foundational to human existence, but um, that's also not very original or earth shaking.

I'm starting to sail again and I often swim in the bay
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
1) overestimating how good I am at anything in particular
2) underestimating the truly humiliating and mortifying nature of on-line dating.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
that I'm kind (not sure why, but I've been repeatedly told this), or more prosaically, I'm tall/not tall, attractive/not attractive, etc And whether it's objectively true or not, people get my age wrong by quite a few years, are surprised for whatever reason.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
watch TV all the time, commercials are great! I mean everyone loves reality TV, right? And I mean, what can you say about the old two and a half men? And I love eating vegan raised veal and my old Leopard fur jacket is wearing thin, anyone know where I can get a new one.?

(I'm using this as an excuse to list people I really like, more for my own use than trying to scare/impress/bore you)

Writers and thinkers, artists and other jokers: Proust, Beckett, Plath, Gerald Stern, R Crumb, Gary Larson, Gerstler, Philip Roth, Goya, Foucault, Derrida, Einstein, Wittgenstein, Richard Rorty, Philip Pullman, Lao Tzu, David Foster Wallace, Bellow, Renoir (the film maker) Habermas, Marx, Hegel, Gerstler, Delueze, Langston Hughs, Jimmie Baldwin, RIlke, Sexton, Elizabeth Kolbert, Chomsky, Anita Desai, Arundhati Roy, Wallace Stevens, Charles Simic, Rebeca Solnit. Le Guinn, Saramago, Coetzee, Joyce Carol Oates, Bulgakov, Nabokov, Kafka, Adorno, Tom Waits, Zappa, Zeppelin, reverend gary davis, Mississippi John Hurt, Hot Tuna, Francis Bacon, Jon Stuart, Cindy Sherman, Pippoloti Rist, Marilyn Robinson, Hume, Dead Can Dance, Arvo Part, Eddie Vedder, Townes Van Zandt. Munch, Forest Gander, David Rivard. Kim Wilson, Gary Primich. PK Dick. Robert Musil, Bosch, Bau Haus
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
someone else's passport, (I'm an international spy)
my yoga mat......not
dark energy (nothing like dark chocolate, but also a constituent element of the universe)
gluten anything
Coelecanths (obviously)
that's all I got.........
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
in a fetal position, drooling and rocking in front of my computer opened to an on-line dating site. "my precious, my precious...."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I still count numbers on my fingers, I would use my toes but I lost the lot of them on K2......funny story.

or that it's cringe worthy when you see answers here like "well it wouldn't be private then would it?" or "I'll tell you later..." Puh-lease.

so little playfulness, creativity, courage, at the least, make it up!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
if you're have (most of) your teeth, (or at least good dentures) aren't throwing gang signs (too obviously)
and if you're wicked creative, smart, brave, kind
and un-apologetically the opposite of puritanical, I'm game

And you'll notice I didn't put an age range, you'll know if you're in the ball park.