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31 / M / Straight / Single

San Leandro, California

His Details

Last Online
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Ethnicity
Black
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Sign
Pisces and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Student
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Okay), LISP (Okay), Yiddish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Disclaimer: I've decided to do a complete revision here. Now that I'm in the final stages of my PhD, I've realized a few hard truths. In the interest of being very honest with myself and anyone else who happens to read this, I've decided that the future is so uncertain that I should not advertise myself as looking for anything long-term. Would it be cool to find someone long-term? Sure. But given that I'll be pretty focused on writing my dissertation and then looking for jobs both domestic and international, it might be a bit irresponsible to make any pretenses towards the long-term. In short, I'd love to find someone who wants to make the most of whatever time we might have together. Cooking dinner, exploring nature on longish trips, laughing at stupid shit... sign me up for all that.

Why should you even bother pay attention to my profile? Well, for starters, I generally smell nice in person (who doesn't like a guy who smells nice?). I'm pretty open and honest about my feelings. I can cook fairly well (and like to cook for other people... hint-hint...). Children and animals tend to like me (I like to think this has something to do with a positive, non-creepy, non-threatening aura I'm kicking off...). I'm a feminist and queer-friendly (in that a large number of my friends are queer-identified). I love to travel, listen to live music, be outdoors, and generally soak up life...

Sub-Disclaimer: I'm a very warm person and I'm pretty in tune with my emotions. I don't do well with people who are too emotionally guarded. Also, I tend to err on the side of emotional honesty, so if you are someone who would prefer not to talk about such things or not work through issues sooner than later, I'm probably one of the worst connections you could make. See, just being honest about who I am. :)
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently a PhD student. I'd also love to try my hand at creating electronic music (need money to buy equipment... And, let's face it, a swift kick in the ass). Really interested in doing more with my time... Suggestions accepted as far the whole "doing more" thing is concerned.
I’m really good at
Contradicting myself
Not contradicting myself
Missing obvious clues
Getting people dancing
Finding humor in stuff
Seeming very poised when I'm not
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes and lips (eyes are hazel and lips are "very kissable", which is basically code for people saying I have big lips...)

Weight loss (people who haven't seen me in awhile love to point this out, even if it's not true...)

The fact that I'm prone to non sequiturs...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I've chopped most of this section down. We can talk for more depth

Books: Invisible Man, The Tin Drum, Nest, The Wretched of the Earth, War Without Mercy, Souls of Black Folk, National Lampoon's Presents True Facts: The Big Book, short stories by Charles Johnson or D.H Lawrence, The Interpreter of Maladies

Movies: Anything Scorsese, Don't Be a Menace to South Central While Drinking Your Juice in the Hood, James Bond Films (especially the Roger Moore Ones), Fight Club, Clockwork Orange, Network, Alien, Blade Runner, タンポポ, 家族ガーム, The remake of Sabrina (it gets me all misty eyed...), Quick Change

Music: I love music. Chances are we like some of the same stuff. I listen to a lot of electronic music, Hip Hop, Jazz, and some indie stuff.

Food: This really depends on my mood. I'm down to try anything new. Fresher is always better in my opinion. Always on the lookout for new CSA farmbox recipes. :)
The six things I could never do without
Music
Family and friends
Laughter
Reflection
Physical contact (not always sexual)
Lunch (very necessary)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Good times (not the show)...

How I'm going to get that paper published...

Things that taste good...

Why 90% of women (I haven't checked on men) on this site seem to have one of the following types of photos on their profile: Fake mustache, in air jump, dining shot, travel/nature shot...
On a typical Friday night I am
Out with friends. Unless I've cooked something. Then I'm in with friends. Unless I'm not. Then I'm somewhere else.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I cried at the end of Howard the Duck (it was 27 years ago and I really don't have any idea why I did now that I think about it...)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
After sitting down and looking at the types of women I've gotten along very well with, a few things trends seemed pretty clear. By no means am I saying that I'm looking for someone with all of the following qualities, but here are a few things that I tend to be drawn towards:

-Women who are older than I am
-Professionals (doctors, lawyers, businesswomen, etc.)
-Artistic women (musicians, visual artists, actors, etc.)
-Very strong-willed women (with opinions they aren't shy about sharing)
-Women who are sexually confident (in terms of knowing what turns them on)
-Women who love sports (especially football and basketball)
-Women who live healthy lives
-Women who are techie/crafty
-Women who can hold their liquor
-Queer women
-Women who are passionate and compassionate

Also, if you happen to be a woman in an open relationship, I'd really love to hear from you.