Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I've been reflecting on myself for decades and I'm still not good
at discerning how I come across to others. I expect people consider
me smart and competent, but this does little to indicate their more
Lately, I have been throwing around the idea of a laid-back
external personality coupled with a confident internal sense of
self. Obviously, more can be said, like I'm self-employed,
athletic, father of two young men, husband to one great woman with
whom I have an open relationship. We like Dan Savage's concept of
monogamish. It applies well to us.
I am iconoclastic, inquisitive, and physical.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Once the triathlon season is over, I start to run more than swim
and bike, getting ready for a few fall road races. I like how my
athletic body feels, and the intensity of this relationship I have
with my body pleases me. Bought skate skies a few years back and
actually look forward to snow.
More generally, since the boys have fledged, there is more time to
pursue new interests. My wife, for example, bought me a new camera,
and I am finding its many possibilities complicated and rewarding.
Another interest is finding new friends. I think happiness has a
lot to do with the quality of one's relationships, and so I am
interested in people who share themselves well.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at staying physically active both at work and play. I can
build a pretty mean bed as well as other things that go into
And in terms of relationships, I'm good at listening, at being
honest, and letting the horses run free when both riders feel
comfortable letting go of the reins.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People notice me? Perhaps when I'm riding my bike, decked out in
gear, cutting in front of them at a stop sign. (So bad!)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My shelves are full. Recently added a free book library on my
boulevard with the intent to lower the number of books we own.
Success has been marginal as neighbors keep dropping off
One book: Kundera's THE UNBEARABLE LIGHTNESS OF BEING did the trick
for me. I really liked the interplay of the intellectual and the
Read DOUBT by J. M. Hecht last winter - a nice historical review of
religious skepticism through the ages.
Mishima, Duras, Murikami, Plath, Emily Dickenson.... Generally, I'm
drawn to rich reflections of experience.
As for movies....don't see many. Apocalypse Now stands out as a
Lately, I've been on a deep house/electronica music kick. Right now
I have a Bossa Nova station humming.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
"to do without"...? Well, air would be a tough to do without, but I
think the question asks after a different need - perhaps like:
'What six things are crucial to your happiness?' Well, I need to be
physically active, I need quiet, I need good friends, good sex, my
family, my wife.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The harmony of the planets.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Often Friday night is hitting the gym after work and then tracking
down a good meal. Last Friday, for example, L*** and I enjoyed the
weather and sat outside at the Republic; we nibbled on some great
mussels, a bruschetta plate and two fancy beers.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are interested in an occasional biking/running/swimming/nordic
skiing partner and/or you are interested in hanging out at a coffee
shop, getting to know someone comfortable letting the conversation
sink to a level where life is richer. Or if you are interested in
exploring your submissive side with a benevolent Dom. If you'd
enjoy such things, please drop me a line. I also welcome notes from
those curious, angry, or disposed to argue with any opinions I have
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