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37 Salem, NJ Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Jul 5, 2013
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, and might want more

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Let me be clear: I'm not looking for anything sexual.

I don't have casual sex, one night stands, or fwb scenarios with anyone I do not know for less then four years.

Can you tell I'm tired of the trolls? I don't care how genuinely awesome you are - all of my sex-first based relationships have failed me miserably. I'm far too complex an individual, with too many layers. I'm too old and world-wise for the petty high school games. Sex doesn't equal love. Sex is the iciing on the cake, in my personal opinion. It's the sugar that makes the coffee sweet. The gold at the end of the rainbow, so to speak. *shrugs*

I'm interested in making new friends mostly. I've lost touch with a lot of my old friends from moving, them moving, or being mutual friends with various ex's of mine. I need head space, not to become a head-case, when it comes to ex's. Yeah, I don't want to be "that kind of ex". Ya know the whacko
psycho ex-girlfriend".

The relationship with my kids' dad left me in an emotional limbo. Don't expect me to be won over. This is not a challenge scenario, this is me being up front and honest.

Could I seriously date someone if I wanted to, sure.

Am I interested in it at this time. Not really. Dates that are "no-expectations" work best at this time.

Could it happen, perhaps. Attraction is what it is, and does what it does - the heart has funny ways about it, ya know?

Push it in the initial stages and I don't care how truly awesome you really are, I will ban/block you.

Now that I've gotten that clear, feel free to read on. It's long, so if you message me with a tl;dr attitude our conversation will be short at best. :?


Honesty and openness is best no matter what in which type of relationship one finds oneself involved. This is something of a mantra I carry around with me all the time. I don't care for the "white lies to make someone feel good" thing. If my hair looks bad, for the love of pete tell me so I can fix it! If you smell bad, I will tell you, so you can fix it. ;)

However, this means I can hurt feelings when I don't mean to, even with a side joke or witty remark. If you don't have "thick skin" or are not at peace with yourself, this may mean bad feelings for us both. Just to be warned, I honestly do not mean to be "mean".

I also have an odd sense of dark humor. I laugh at things that may not be appropriate Again I know this isn't exactly kosher, so I try to limit it. Heh. ^.^

My sense of humor is a bit twisted and weird as well. Part of that comes from being a gamer. ;)

I went to art school and have a BS in Computer Animation. I want to go back for a teaching degree and/or finish my studies in Environmental Science. Yes... Yes Olivia, I am a nerd. An artist nerd.

I languish for time to do art, and with kids around me so often doing animation is tough due to parental responsibilities overshadowing everything. If I could find other art buddies (especially ones with kids around my kids' ages), I'd be in heaven! XD Note, art for me is NOT a hobby - it is who I am, what I love, my greatest passion. Art, theater, crafts, music, even amazingly cool-looking architecture (like what came about during the Bauhaus movement in Germany).

Oh and I'm a German-phile. And a StG nut with a dash of Klingon. Fantasy. I like to write - but really have horrible grammar. No really. I write like I talk. ;) The list goes on.


I am a mom, think mama bear or mama wolf. There is no getting between me and my kids. My current relationships with their dad is currently strained, and I am currently estranged. Not of my choice, but out of sanity's sake for both of us.

To be perfectly clear: I'm not looking for one night stands NOR long-term anything (except friends). Too much baggage. Just finding nice guys (or gals) to chill with so that I don't feel so all alone is about all I can handle at this stage. I need to get my head clear, and my heart free - I'm wise enough in that to know I'd only ruin things with someone else until I fix my own issues.

That first step is just getting outside the house again. :)

What am I looking for? Nothing much really. Maybe some general company that is outside of my current circle of friends: new faces and new friends. I'm a gregarious sort of person, I love people.

I don't trust easily, but for those who have earned it, they have also earned a loyal friend for life. I have various "circles" of friends, and some of them are closer to me then my own family.

I have a passion for life and all things in it, for good or for bad.

I'm a gamer -as noted above. I play various rpg games from tabletop to LARP. I use to run a WWtA LARP as the HST. I used to be a Camirilla Club member running the Forsaken venue. If you know what that is, awesome, if not, go find out. I've played DnD, but still am not familiar with the system. GURPS RPG, The Gnoll ate my Baby, SLA Industries, Ring World, and the new WTF by White Wolf Game Studios are also games I've played.

However, gaming is a hobby first. Due to that mentality, I haven't been to a LARP or gamed in more then a year. Too much more important stuff on my plate ya know? ;)

I'm also a member of the SCA, and love the heraldic arts and design (hoping to become a herald, sad that they aren't warranted anymore). I brew down in Media from time to time and have my own kit. I've produced one batch (to date) of fine mead, and am looking to make more. My persona is Viking. ;)

I <3 dragons and wolves. I <3 Werewolves of all kinds, but prefer the feral "more wolf like" rather then the monstrous "ugly" type. I'm an an avid fan of everything werewolf related, from modern mythos to old accounts of rabid werewolf attacks in old Europe. Werewolf movies are a favorite, obviously. I am also an avid fan of all things dragon-related, and wolf-related.

I love the outdoors, but due to my increasing asthmatic condition I'm not in the shape I need to do even light hiking (although my heart is in it!) I do need to get out of the house more, though. :)

I am an eclectic spiritualist. I was raised Christian, but have adopted various others bits and pieces into my own spirituality. I tend towards more pagany-Wiccan like belief systems in general with a dash of Totemic influences. I am balanced between logic/science and faith in most aspects. I believe there is something bigger out there then me, and I am merely a mortal. So to "define" it within the context of any /religion/ is foolish in my opinion. I believe in what I believe, you believe as you do, and ya know what? They might be the same thing wrapped up in a different container. So who am I to judge? Still looking to learn more from proper teachers though. ;)

I am tolerant to a certain degree, expect for stupid people. If you make my brain bleed from the level of moronic and self-destructive ways.., yeah don't bother me. Thanks.

Also, for the weight-conscious, I am a bit on the overweight side. 5'9" and was at 225lbs. Mostly all baby-weight gain after having my daughter about a year ago.

I -will- eventually shed it back to 140 or 150lbs. *shakes a fist in determination*

From My Facebook Profile:
You want to know about me? Riiight.
I like Lots..

I am loyal, honest, and creative.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I got my BS in Computer Animation ( a Science degree in an Art major. o.O heheh ). Couldn't find work in my fields of expertise. Disney flooded the market with professionals of //several// more years of experience then I at the time of my graduation.

I picked up some Graphic Design experience, as well as self-taught web-design ( front-end, not programming ). I do what freelance Web-design I can grab to boost my personal portfolio. I also offer character commissions for personal rp characters as well.

I'm currently looking for work. I had been recently employed at Overdevest Nurseries - a GREAT job. But being a single mom made it difficult to get to work on time regularly. Not to mention the days off for appointments and such. This economy is not forgiving of the single parent's needs.

I want to get my Masters in Teaching. Then perhaps go for a degree in Art Therapy for kids and adults with certain forms of disabilities like Aspeger's and Autism.

Dream-Goal. I got to get my slate cleared first. ;)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Advice, Compassion, Empathy.

Art, creative mentality, creative problem solving.

I love music, but have not learned to produce it ( and I can't sing *sniffs* even though I try *winces* ). I love singing in the shower when a tune pops into my head. I mostly sing in the car and play air guitar, or air piano. ;)

Dominating a conversation, so I tell people don't feel bad about telling me to shut up from time to time. ;) I take no offense.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes and my personality.

People tell me how remarkable my eyes are. Since I can't see them without a mirror ( insert humor ), I don't know what they mean. ;) heh.

I have a weird sense of humor, and often will twist conversational topics into various other meanings. I'm not quick or overly witty, but I /think/ I'm a lot of fun. ;) But then I would, as I have to live with myself everyday. ;) *chuckles* Kidding. ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(A) (( by Author )) Mercedes Lackey, Steven Brust, Stephen King, Anne McCaffery, Jean M. Auel (( Genre )) Sci-Fi-High-Fantasy Hybrids, Horror ( werewolves are key ;) ), High Fantasy, some Historic Fiction, High-Fantasy (( Subject )) Dragons, werewolves, classic themes twisted, classic stories twisted, human nature, character-driven plot and development.

(B) Classic and Computer Animation Movies ( ie American classified "Family" Movies ) <--- My degree is in animation. duh. ;)
Classic Movies.
Horror films.
Stupid Movies to laugh at ( MFig Snake on a MFing PLANE!!! )
(( Titles ))
The Game
Dog Soldiers
Secret Garden
Gone with the Wind
Brother Bear
Lady and the Tramp
The Bear

(C) Music huh? How about what I DON'T like? *chuckles* Music moves me in ways I can't even begin to describe. But there is a trend in the last 10 years of the hip-hop and rap music that just doesn't appeal. There are some groups and songs I ejoy, but not enough to constitute listening to it on a regular basis. I'm also not a big Country fan, but there are a number of billy-rock songs that I like.

I was raised on Classic Rock like; Aerosmith, Queen, and Black Sabbath. I grew up on Heavy Metal, Grunge, ane New Wave. I started clubbing to Goth-Industrial, and have been into that ever since. Its not ALL emo. ;) Techno-industrial is best to dance in the dark by!

From My Facebook Profile:

Books: Redwall Series, more.

Movies: Too Many to count..

TV Shows: Star Trek TNG.

Music: Goth / Industrial, Classic Rock, Grunge, etc.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, Family, Art, Means to Express myself, Passion, Books
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Philosophical ideas, religious beliefs, spirituality, and other sundry things. I may not be a super-intelligence, I may not be a trivia encyclopedia, I may not uber-smart, but I like having my mind stimulated by serious conversation from time to time. :)

Or just stimulated ( I watched a lot of TLC and Discovery or Animal Planet ).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If I'm not working, I want to be out and about. I like socializing, talking, listening, laughing, and just being out and away from the house.

Heh. I used to keep a pillow, a sheet, and a change of clothes in my car because of all the times I would be away from my house. Either on a car trip, visiting a friend, or out to hang with a group of friends.., I like to not be home on Friday nights.

I also from time to time like sitting with a friend and playing video games, whether I'm good at them or not. :) I <3 Crazy Taxi.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I like uber hot showers.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You have actually gotten this far and what I've typed sounds interesting. Even if you don't want to do anything but chat about geeky gamer stuff. :) Or even better geeky art stuff.