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46 • Canberra, Australia • Woman
I’m looking for
- Ages 28–55
- Near me
- Who are single
- For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Mar 2, 2011
- 5′ 6″ (1.68m)
- Body type
- Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
- Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from university
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), French (Poorly)
Oh, and I'm from NZ and I spent about 5 years in London. I'm in Australia as of five years ago because my girlfriend at the time lured me here. And hey, the money's decent. :-) I'm fairly introverted in terms of new people and situations, but I certainly don't lack social skills: once I'm warmed up, I'm all good. But I tend to prefer lovers/partners who are more extroverted than I am, for obvious reasons.
Regarding relationships, I'm into polyamory, so I'm not exclusive, but I do know the value of boundaries and commitment. I am not, however, into swinging or orgies (but if you're keen, go to it). I also have a kinky side I'm exploring at present, although that isn't a compulsory thing I require from other people (bonus, though!)
I'm not at all girlie - am actually fairly butch in a non-macho kind of way - but I do like kick-arse non-butch women. Oh, and I don't do boys (much), or your boy if you're a couple looking for a Hot Bi Babe. I also have no problem at all with bisexual or "no label" women - in fact, many of my partners have been bisexual.
I'm extremely opinionated about many things, including queer issues, feminism and leftie (anarchist-leaning) politics. Don't worry, I don't do political rants constantly, although if you don't consider yourself to be a feminist (small or big "f"), and habitually vote conservative, it's probably not worth wasting our time. I do, however, manage to maintain my sense of humour about many things - in fact, I have a pretty good capacity for silliness too. I can also manage to keep my mouth shut in front of the parental units or the boss. But if strong opinions bother or embarrass you, I'm probably not a person you'd want to hang out with. I also swear LOTS. Again, not in front of grandma, but I'm also not apologetic about it.
I also have a Dreamwidth/LJ, so feel free to catch me there if I haven't sufficiently bored you already. :-)
Movies - again, those with GBLT or indie themes, always excepting "Claire of the Moon" (unless you want to mute the sound and invent your own dialogue). I think Bound has been about the best movie in the queer genre, although When Night Is Falling and High Art are fantastic. Bladerunner is probably my absolute fave movie, although I think most SF movies are crap compared to modern SFF literature, with notable exceptions like District 9 and Aliens. My next favourite movie, however, is probably La Dolce Vita, as pretentious as it may sound. I love its sporking of various personalities and levels of society, and it's still relevant today. I have a weakness for chop-socky kung-fu movies, as long as the humour is balanced by cool martial arts moves. Although I do love Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon and that's not exactly a laugh a minute. Tampopo and Wing Chun are also faves in terms of movies from that corner of the world.
Music - I like a variety, but not normally what's in the top 40, or country, or modern "RnB". I suppose my favourite genres are breakbeat, such as DnB and trip-hop (showing my age), and other electronica, dub, dubstep and certain kinds of indie rock and industrial, but I can do anything from Bach to Kylie, depending. Faves are NIN, Massive Attack, Radiohead, PJ Harvey, Red Snapper, The Upbeats, Shapeshifter, Tiki, Concord Dawn and many more.
I like FOOD. Particulary Asian cuisines or Mediterranean. Japanese and Vietnamese are my absolute faves. I don't eat much in the way of red meat tho' (no reason, just don't like the taste much). I love Assam tea, good locally roasted coffee (whatever local is) and I like nice wine, craft beers, cocktails and single-malt whisky (I'm a wimp, so I prefer the Speyside malts to peaty Islay ones).
Oh, and guys, DON'T BOTHER.
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