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trotwood

35 Brooklyn, NY Man

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  • Ages 25–39
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Last online
Yesterday – 12:49pm
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism
Sign
Virgo
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Education
Income
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
David Graeber comes as close as anyone (and far closer than I can), to articulating my belief system. It goes something like this:

"It would have to proceed from the assumption that, as the Brazilian folk song puts it, 'another world is possible.' That institutions like the state, capitalism, racism, and male dominance are not inevitable; that it would be possible to have a world in which these things do not exist, and that we'd be better off as a result. To commit oneself to such a principle is almost an act of faith, since how can one have certain knowledge of such matters? It might possibly turn out that such a world is not possible. But one could also make the argument that it's this very unavailability of absolute knowledge which makes a commitment to optimism a moral imperative: Since one cannot know a radically better world is not possible, are we not betraying everyone by insisting on continuing to justify, and reproduce, the mess we have today? And anyway, even if we're wrong, we might well get a lot closer."

From "Fragments of an Anarchist Anthropology"
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
theater writing, theater directing, play reading, yoga bending. i also read the bhagavad gita on occasion.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. I have good directional (as in a map) sense. Yoga. Reflection.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Me, not looking them in the eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Miranda July (books and movies); Joan Didion; Charlie Kaufman; The Heart is a Lonely Hunter; Cavafy; Virginia Woolf; Joyce; Young Jean Lee; Lynn Nottage; Nina Simone; Abigail Washburn; Anne Washburn; Antony Hegarty; Mina; Radiohead; Zadie Smith; Arthur Miller; Terrence McNally; Tennessee Williams; Contact; Carl Sagan; David Foster Wallace; Jonathan Safran Foer; Kavalier and Clay; Sally Mann; ZZ Packer; Nan Goldin; JS Mill; After Virtue; Henry James; Arcade Fire; Junot Diaz; Perfume Genius; David Graeber; James Baldwin; vegetarianism...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This isn't a very Buddhist question now is it?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
i spend a lot of time thinking about what the founding fathers would think of the U.S. were they able to visit us all today. and by that i mean, how fun it would be to ride next to thomas jefferson on a transcontinental flight. VERY, i think. this answer will also suffice for the "most private thing i'm willing to admit on here."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
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