Hi there

If I have just one important thing to say about myself on a profile like this is that I rather prefer to be honest than being pleasant. On various websites, datesites etc you find a lot of advice on how to write a profile to make yourself as attractive as possibly and for women this more or less boils down to portraying yourself to be:

a) happy happy joy joy :(

b) confident, if you don't belive in your self there must be something seriously wrong with you. - Of course there is something seriously wrong with me, I am human! Even worse, I am a woman!

c) positive, the glass i half full, carpe diem :(
-Life sucks, but at least it's interesting and a challenge.

d) sporty, outdoorsy, gym addict :(

e) extroverted :) :( - It's actually possible to be both ex and in.

f) easygoing :( - I am often accused of being to serious. HELLO! Life is serious business. This is not an indication of a complete lack of humour or playfulness.

d) uncomplicated :( - An uncomplicated HUMAN BEING? Come ooooooooon!

e) Whatever you do don't try and act clever or be opinionated. - In my case this shouldn't really present a problem or treath to anybody since I am not that intelligent, just interested in a lot of things, wellread and verbal.

f) not emotionally needy, don't show to much interest or enthusiasm, let men do the chasing, don't take initiative. - WTF isn't love, intimacy to be close to other human beings our deepest need after the obvious physical ones? ARE WE CATS? Do we really have to pretend not to need anybody at all?

This is the worst piece of crap EVER, fuck you guys if you can't stand being liked or needed! I want to be allowed to be my intense, emotional self, if I should get all starry eyed, it's a compliment, and it doesn't mean that you really deserve it, I am probably just projecting my inner wishes. You are not obliged to join my club you Groucho Marxist!

g) Don't calll yourself a feminist or if you must, emphasize how much you love and appreciate men, that you shave your legs regularly, love sex (with men), that your feminism only means that you want equal pay for equal work, and men decide what is equal. :(

Doesn't look too promising for me I'm afraid. :(
I guess I have to rely on my looks while they last as usual.:)

Please only contact me if you really have something to say except commenting on my looks or age. I love compliments as much as any girl but if that is your main reason for messaging me , you will probably be very disappointed, irritated or even angry. Spare yourself and me the aggravation!

Otherwise, I love a good, even a heated discussion on most topics as long as the tone is civil. I am warm and caring person who take an interest in my fellow beings and the world we share past, present and hopefully future.

I really, really appreciate people who are intelligent and polite, I find that combination extremely sexy! Add a bit of kindness and personal warmth and you are perfect!

I think this site is very entertaining, many of the tests are idiotic or just plain silly, it goes with the territory. But some of them can be amazingly accurate at times. You are free to ask wich ones of mine I think are mostly accurate.;)

I love trivia, to show off how cultured and educated I am and I think it's very funny to be able to discreetly pick interesting profiles minds by studying their test results and compare with mine.

All of it taken with a big bag of salt of course, just like the match stats!

The problem is my horrible personality. Just check out the results of my tests and see for your self. Please love me anyway!

I NEED IT! :P:P:P

I am wasting it brooding and reading too much. I am a negative, sceptical pessimist who belives that the bottom of the glass isn't even covered. It has a lot to do with outwardly things, like working my butt of to support myself and my children singlehanded, which is no picknick, even in Sweden.

I do have my life together, even if it isn't carefree and definitely not very glamorous. I live in a small countrytown and social life and entertainment on a more sophisticated level is non existent here. I am not very confident. Frankly, being overconfident is very silly in a place like planet earth. In fact I don't really trust the universe very much at all even if I always make sure to carry a good towel with me.

This doesn't mean that I am not fun to be around. You might even like me when you get used to me. I am an acquired taste.

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Gardening , feeling sorry for myself, clinging and writing pathetic poetry.

I don't look my age. I am talking too much and too quickly.

On the net: I am a sloppy typist, but I actually can spell, it's just I am always in a hurry when I write, kids, job , household, friends or family on the phone or knocking at the door, and yes I want to continue reading that book too.

Too many to mention, I am a voracious reader of EVERYTHING. I read too much, I eat too much and I do not listen to enough good music. I have teenagers in the house, that's my excuse.

books
cats
plants
make up
a bike
my ballbreaking kit

life, love, sex and death

Every second friday at home, doing household chores, looking after kids, trying to read or surf the net a bit, watching telly while I iron (I even iron sheets, it's almost like meditation), the weekends when my kids are out of the house I usually spend in my home town Gothenburg, trying to paint red as best I can. At least seeing a film, visiting friends, drinking, dancing, going to a concert or an exibition,a lecture,the theatre.

I am not admitting to ANYTHING!

If you think you can cope with my personality.
If you like communicating through the written word and are not too much in a hurry to see me "for coffee", let's be realistic, we are probably VERY far apart. So seeing each other can't be too casual. It is a much bigger deal when you travel thousands of miles.

Really interesting penpals are a joy to be cherished. Real friend even better. Lovers? Something we can never be deliberate about. THAT is a mystery!