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42 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:12pm
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
In a nutshell... I'm a professional, an enthusiast, a musician, a parent, a friend, a lover, a fighter, a thinker, a doer, equal parts reclusive introvert and outgoing charmer. Not necessarily in that order.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I like things, and I do stuff. I work a 9 to 5 (ish) job that I really enjoy for a local company that makes cool things. I play bass in a band that's a little weird and a lot of fun. I listen to records, drink whiskey and tequila (though rarely at the same time) and black coffee, enjoy art and music, and live healthy without sacrificing the good stuff.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
This and that and some other stuff. There's also plenty of stuff I'm not good at, but that never stopped me from trying.
The first things people usually notice about me
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People have told me that I'm tall, and that I have a deep voice and long eyelashes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Documentaries, foreign films, goofy comedies, mindless action flicks. Garage rock, rap music, metal, old blues, soul and jazz. Tacos, cured meats, whiskey (neat), coffee (black), water (cold), farmers market produce. Recent reads: The Proud Highway by Hunter S. Thompson; Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain by David Eagleman; No Country For Old Men by Cormac McCarthy; Root For the Villain: Rap, Bullshit & a Celebration of Failure by J-Zone; Salt, Sugar, Fat by Michael Moss.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, silence, mini-me, snarky jokes, tacos, whiskey.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Too damn much. But I'd rather do that than be lobotomized or brain dead or something, and not think at all.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...Occupied (standing plans with a 6-year-old). The rest of the weekend and a few nights during the week are all mine (or yours).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm highly skeptical of all this online dating stuff.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you'd like to meet up for a drink or a coffee or a bite to eat or go to a museum, art gallery...something mellow and casual. I'm not looking for a local internet pen pal, so if we email a couple times and we're cool, let's get together and find out if we can be friends.