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42 Oakland, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:46am
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
In a nutshell... I'm a professional, an enthusiast, a musician, a parent, a friend, a lover, a fighter, a thinker, a doer, equal parts pensive introvert and outgoing charmer. Not necessarily in that order.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work a 9 to 5 (ish) job that I really enjoy for a local company that makes cool things. I hang out with my kid. I play bass in a band that's a little weird and a lot of fun. I listen to records, write, read, cook, enjoy art and music, try to get out on the town from time to time, live healthy and exercise every day without sacrificing the good, fun stuff.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
This and that and some other stuff. There's also plenty of stuff I'm not good at, but that never stopped me from trying.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People have told me that I'm tall, and that I have a deep voice and long eyelashes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Documentaries, foreign films, goofy comedies, mindless action flicks.

Noise / punk rock, rap music, metal, old blues, soul and jazz. Lots...all the time.

Farmers market produce, cured meats, Tacos, whiskey (neat), coffee (black), water (cold).

Recent reads (last 6 months): You Are Now Less Dumb by David McRaney; Thick as Thieves by Peter Spiegelman; Salvation of a Saint by Keigo Higashino; Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain; Coming Through Slaughter by Michael Ondaatje; Dune by Frank Herbert.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, silence, mini-me, snarky jokes, goals, leisure.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Too damn much. But I'd rather do that than be lobotomized or brain dead or something, and not think at all.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...Occupied (standing plans with a 6-year-old). The rest of the weekend and a few nights during the week are all mine (or yours).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm more of a romantic than I let on. Shhh...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you'd like to meet up for a drink or a coffee or a bite to eat, take a walk / hike, or go to a museum, art gallery...something mellow and casual. I'm not looking for a local internet pen pal, so if we email a couple times and we're cool, let's get together and find out if we can be friends.