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39 Chicago, IL Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 33–45
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 1:06pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and dislikes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Someone real, looking to inspire, be inspired, and find real connection.

ME: Easy-going first, intense next. Well-traveled, educated, thoughtful. Easy to smile, easy to laugh. Self-aware. Happy. Conscious. Athletic. Resourceful. Graceful. Devil’s advocate. Zesty. (Yep, I said zesty.)

YOU: Intelligent, kind, expressive, secure, enigmatic. Generous in spirit and affection.

WE: Love our work but love our families and each other more; cook together often; complement each others’ active lifestyle but round it out with quiet time together and apart; understand that the right relationship requires nurturing; minimize drama; manage to maintain our own existing friendships and to gently merge our social lives; challenge as well as inspire each other; find 'fun' in mundane activities; become each others’ 'rock'; give back to the community; explore together geographically, philosophically, emotionally, sensually, gastronomically and intellectually; love each other fiercely.

Want to turn me on? Show me you are kind and thoughtful and engaged in your own reality; intentional in all aspects of your life (or at least have consciously prioritized), surround yourself with amazing friends, and have a healthy outlook on whatever in your past has shaped you into the man you are today. Let’s explore/conquer today, and do absolutely nothing (time well wasted!) tomorrow….or vice versa…I don’t care.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Besides work: Tabata, Yoga, Tennis, Tango lessons [Profile update - I've put Tango lessons on hold until I find my 'strong lead'], recovering from my first triathlon, enjoying the beautiful hats and scarves that a Chicago winter makes it possible to wear, spending quality time with quality people - which usually involves red wine and delicious food.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Baking and grilling. Homemade yummies always seem to brighten things up.

Added at the suggestion of a friend's boyfriend: holding your beer for you, without warming it up.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm often told that my laughter is distinctive and infectious.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Before it was taken off the air, my favorite Sunday morning activity included staying in bed and listening to Acoustic Sunrise. I love salty and sweet. Pandora radio. A hot coffee on a cold morning. Seeing the sun rise when running on Lakeshore. (The payoff for the early wake-up.) Campfire stories and s'mores. Patio dining/socializing. The company of dear old friends; unexpected chemistry with a new friend.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A comfortable/clean home setting
Weekend getaways
Human Interaction
Physical affection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My next journey.
I've been lucky to have experienced some new horizons in the last few years, traveling both solo and with friends. Exploring Alaska, the Canadian Rockies, Glacier National Park, the U.K, Spain, Portugal, Ireland, Yosemite, Grand Canyon (at a full moon), Zion National Park, Bryce Canyon, Slovenia, Croatia, Bosnia, Montenegro, Albania, Macedonia, Serbia, Costa Rica, Oahu, and my most recent trip was to play in the fluffy snow in Steamboat Springs, CO. The complete list is long; this considers only the last few years.

Also - grown men on Razor kick scooters. Downtown.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. are kind, well adjusted, know who you are and are secure in yourself. You are expressive, enjoy the life that you have created, make the best of situations, are intellectually involved and also emotionally driven. You manage to graciously and simultaneously embody being both driven and content. You have passions in your life that you either want to share with me, or just expose me to. You intentionally surround yourself with good people. Your most proper/chaste kiss can take my breath away. You don't mind me playing devil's advocate from all angles - and you give it back to me as appropriate. You'll play 20 questions with me just because it's fun. You are imperfect. And perfectly aware of it. You're some or none of these things but get why I'd type this paragraph. Your first email to me is more than 4 words and cleverly shows me that you've read this far....
...and you should probably NOT message me if...I was past puberty when you were born. While the attention from the younger set is flattering, realistically, we're not looking for the same things from each other.