I'm more interested in being and doing than in getting and
spending. Indulging my curiosity is one of life's greatest
pleasures; I'm always finding a new experience. I believe how we
feel is more important than what we think. I trust my intuition,
and make decisions based on values not just rules or logic. My
humor is off-center...I appreciate irony, and dislike cynicism. I
know when and how to be silly, as well as when and how to be
serious. The work I do -- massage therapy and carpentry -- I do
first for satisfaction, and secondly for money. I seek to follow my
nature in ways that benefit the people and the world around me, as
well as benefiting myself.
I'm active, fit, do enough running to be called a runner (it's my
cosmic telephone,) but I stop to pet dogs, too. I kayak and sail,
and generally enjoy messing about in boats and being on or near
water. I'm comfortable keeping my own company, but relationships
are most important, so I try to listen, pay attention to them, and
try to nurture them with respect, honesty, and trust. I'm willing
and able to express myself: my opinions, my aspirations, my dreams,
my fears. I'll give you an answer if you ask "what are you
thinking," and I won't necessarily wait to be asked to share what
I'll be interested in what you have to say, in your sense of humor,
in what you're feeling and doing. I'll support your dreams and
aspirations. I'll celebrate and commiserate with you; work together
or play together; share a quiet conversation, or a comfortable
What I’m doing with my life
Long ago and far away, I got an undergraduate degree in Library
Science; then an MBA. I used these degrees during a 20 year
corporate life. Now, my livelihood comes from working with my hands
and my heart. I'm self-employed: I do massage therapy, using
neuromuscular and deep tissue techniques. I also do basic
carpentry, home repair and maintenance, and small remodeling
Both crafts allow me to work with people with whom I connect, and
enhance their lives.
And I write.
The first things people usually notice about me
Well, I can't say for sure... I hope they notice that I'm
interested in who they are and what they have to say, and what's
going on in their lives.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read mostly fiction, usually looking for "a good story well
told", with character development, and dialog that rings true. I
admire a well crafted sentence. I'm also continually reading bits
of Chuang Tzu's "Basic Writings," and Lao Tzu's two collections of
reflections. I read 3 to 4 books a month. I like sweetly weird,
off-beat quirky movies that have interesting characters, that
involve simple twists of fate and that make observations about
Music: Van Morrison, Mark Knopfler, Bill Frissell, My Morning
Jacket, Anonymous 4, KUMD, KFAI.
Painters: Hopper, Sargent, Homer, Heade, Whistler.
Writers: Parker, Haaisen, Harrison, Sandford, Faulkner, Melville,
Conrad, Frost, LeGuin, Russo.
Food: Thai, Chinese, Pasta, ice cream on waffles, apples on
Golden Retrievers, stars, the Red Sox, Triumphs... Anywhere near
water, trees, wind, weather... Lake Superior, trails, Pike Island,
the Stone Arch Bridge, along the river and creek, the Riverview,
MIA, the Weisman, the Conservatory, libraries, The Literary Loft,
The six things I could never do without
Things, huh? OK, other than life's neccessities (I'll answer in the
spirit of the question rather than literally)... running shoes,
books, tools, boats, music recordings, transportation.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The way things are. They way things could be. Ways to help. What there is to be thankful for. My spiritual philosophy borrows from Taoism, Native American and Australian Aboriginal cultures, and Golden Retrievers. It's all a mystery -- I'm OK with not knowing 'til we get there, and believe in treating each other well while we're on our way.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't own a television.
You should message me if
You're a woman with a balanced approach to life -- intellectually,
physically, and spiritually active. You're emotionally honest. You
have a sense of compassion and a sense of adventure. You remember
who you are, even when life becomes confusing. You pursue your
passions and have fun doing it. You laugh out loud when someone or
something pleases you, you're comfortable keeping your own company,
but you value companionship, too. You're a friend, buddy, and lover
who shares adventures, interests, and, more importantly, values.