I get pretty bummed by the state of the world: the awful things people do to one another and to the planet. (I'll spare you the gory list of particulars..) I'm at peace with my own life, but I can't be truly happy without meaningful connections with other people — OK, without love — and that's something I don't have right now. I'd like that to change (obviously)... I have a lot of love in my heart, and nothing would make me happier than finding a special someone to share it with. That said, I've just moved back to the Bay Area, and don't have much of a 'social network' here — real or virtual — so I'd also welcome new friends.
I'm 'retired', so I have the time and energy now to look for new things in my life, and to devote to building a relationship. When I was working, keeping my head above water in a demanding career was enough of a challenge that I couldn't really put myself 'out there' for the search for the arguably more important if less immediate things. No more.
The most important things to me in a relationship are good conversation, and making each other laugh: a chemistry of the mind and spirit, if you will. My outlook on activities is that they're less about mutual interests than just enjoying one another's company whatever you're doing. When I was in a relationship that was going well (sometime in the previous century) I used to look forward to going grocery shopping with my partner, because being with her made it interesting and fun. I'm willing to try new things, activity-wise, if that leads to 'quality time.'
With friends and partners, I'm mellow, easy to get along with, steadfast and faithful, supportive. I'm not Mr. Excitement by the prevailing standards, but if you like certain kind of intellectual energy and a sharp sense of humor I can be pretty interesting.
I believe in equality in relationships. Traditional gender roles, especially in terms of matters of authority, are not for me.
I'm a very smart guy. I mention this not because I have a big head about my big head, but because to my surprise and dismay it's been a problem in relationships. That is, I've had partners who thought of themselves as smart, and were used to being 'the smart one' in their relationships, and then became uneasy or insecure when being with me. Not that I ever put on airs. I don't. But just being myself, I guess I generate a certain intellectual something-or-other. I would have no problem being in a relationship with someone who is smarter than I am, but I'd probably have a problem being in a relationship with someone who didn't feel the same way.
MY INTERESTS, ACTIVITIES, ETC.
My primary hobby has been tinkering with that collection of shop tools, and with anything electronic or computer related, though I don't see myself doing anywhere near as much of that in the future.
I played a lot of rec sports when i was younger (basketball, volleyball, softball, tennis, Ultimate...) but I don't have the legs for too much of that kind of stuff anymore. I would love to find an old geezer basketball game somewhere, but I'm not too hopeful on that count. Though I haven't played tennis in years, I'm looking to get back into it, maybe join a geezers league... I enjoy watching my life-long fave teams on TV (Vikings football and Gophers basketball), but I'm no sports fanatic couch potato.
In addition to films, my cultural interests include modern/contemporary art and museums thereof. My two favorite museum displays are the Duchamp room in Philly and the Cornell installation at the Art Institute of Chicago. I also like 'outsider'/'visionary' art (Darger, Finster, etc. — AVAM in Baltimore is awesome), Hopper, photorealism, pop, Dada, and John Heartfield.
While I'm more of a culture person than a nature person, and I tend not to seek the great outdoors on my own, I do enjoy a bit of nature now and then. I love Muir Woods, the Marin Headlands (so eerie), the Pacific shore... Along similar lines, I don't have a strong passion for travel, though I almost always enjoy myself and find something interesting in new places when I wind up going somewhere for reasons other than just to go there.
ABOUT THE PICTURES
I've never had any kind of beard prior to the last few months. I let it grow out for the hell of it as was packing for my move and driving cross-country. I took the pics with it because a friend said "It's a good look for you." I'm ambivalent. I've since shaved it off, and I'll post a pic of my hair-free mug when I get around to it.
The pics with the motorcycle and scooter are meant to use props for humor. I'm not a 'biker' by any means. I mainly travel by (small) car. I have the two-wheelers not out of any love for that mode of transportation, but because I dislike taking a car into the city and hassling with parking. Why I have both a motorcycle and a scooter is a long story, but I'll probably get rid of one of them...
Well I have gone on for a bit, haven't I. I've probably forgotten to note something really important, but hey, if you have questions, you can always ask via the magic of the Web, and I will answer them.