Find better matches with our advanced matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy

twobigcats

60 M Daly City, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 24
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Other
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

Similar Users

My self-summary
I don't like writing about myself, and I especially dislike writing anything self-promoting. This is not something "I'm really good at." So how to describe myself? Creative, funny, kind, caring, knowledgeable, outspoken, reserved, supportive, generous with my time and effort, loyal, unusually honest and direct. I have strong emotions, but I don't wear them on my sleeve. (Urghh, that was painful...)

I get pretty bummed by the state of the world: the awful things people do to one another and to the planet. (I'll spare you the gory list of particulars..) I'm at peace with my own life, but I can't be truly happy without meaningful connections with other people — OK, without love — and that's something I don't have right now. I'd like that to change (obviously)... I have a lot of love in my heart, and nothing would make me happier than finding a special someone to share it with. That said, I've just moved back to the Bay Area, and don't have much of a 'social network' here — real or virtual — so I'd also welcome new friends.

I'm 'retired', so I have the time and energy now to look for new things in my life, and to devote to building a relationship. When I was working, keeping my head above water in a demanding career was enough of a challenge that I couldn't really put myself 'out there' for the search for the arguably more important if less immediate things. No more.

The most important things to me in a relationship are good conversation, and making each other laugh: a chemistry of the mind and spirit, if you will. My outlook on activities is that they're less about mutual interests than just enjoying one another's company whatever you're doing. When I was in a relationship that was going well (sometime in the previous century) I used to look forward to going grocery shopping with my partner, because being with her made it interesting and fun. I'm willing to try new things, activity-wise, if that leads to 'quality time.'

With friends and partners, I'm mellow, easy to get along with, steadfast and faithful, supportive. I'm not Mr. Excitement by the prevailing standards, but if you like certain kind of intellectual energy and a sharp sense of humor I can be pretty interesting.

I believe in equality in relationships. Traditional gender roles, especially in terms of matters of authority, are not for me.

I'm a very smart guy. I mention this not because I have a big head about my big head, but because to my surprise and dismay it's been a problem in relationships. That is, I've had partners who thought of themselves as smart, and were used to being 'the smart one' in their relationships, and then became uneasy or insecure when being with me. Not that I ever put on airs. I don't. But just being myself, I guess I generate a certain intellectual something-or-other. I would have no problem being in a relationship with someone who is smarter than I am, but I'd probably have a problem being in a relationship with someone who didn't feel the same way.

MY INTERESTS, ACTIVITIES, ETC.
My primary hobby has been tinkering with that collection of shop tools, and with anything electronic or computer related, though I don't see myself doing anywhere near as much of that in the future.

I played a lot of rec sports when i was younger (basketball, volleyball, softball, tennis, Ultimate...) but I don't have the legs for too much of that kind of stuff anymore. I would love to find an old geezer basketball game somewhere, but I'm not too hopeful on that count. Though I haven't played tennis in years, I'm looking to get back into it, maybe join a geezers league... I enjoy watching my life-long fave teams on TV (Vikings football and Gophers basketball), but I'm no sports fanatic couch potato.

In addition to films, my cultural interests include modern/contemporary art and museums thereof. My two favorite museum displays are the Duchamp room in Philly and the Cornell installation at the Art Institute of Chicago. I also like 'outsider'/'visionary' art (Darger, Finster, etc. — AVAM in Baltimore is awesome), Hopper, photorealism, pop, Dada, and John Heartfield.

While I'm more of a culture person than a nature person, and I tend not to seek the great outdoors on my own, I do enjoy a bit of nature now and then. I love Muir Woods, the Marin Headlands (so eerie), the Pacific shore... Along similar lines, I don't have a strong passion for travel, though I almost always enjoy myself and find something interesting in new places when I wind up going somewhere for reasons other than just to go there.

ABOUT THE PICTURES
I've never had any kind of beard prior to the last few months. I let it grow out for the hell of it as was packing for my move and driving cross-country. I took the pics with it because a friend said "It's a good look for you." I'm ambivalent. I've since shaved it off, and I'll post a pic of my hair-free mug when I get around to it.

The pics with the motorcycle and scooter are meant to use props for humor. I'm not a 'biker' by any means. I mainly travel by (small) car. I have the two-wheelers not out of any love for that mode of transportation, but because I dislike taking a car into the city and hassling with parking. Why I have both a motorcycle and a scooter is a long story, but I'll probably get rid of one of them...

CLOSING?
Well I have gone on for a bit, haven't I. I've probably forgotten to note something really important, but hey, if you have questions, you can always ask via the magic of the Web, and I will answer them.
What I’m doing with my life
I don't really know. Got any ideas? My plans, such as they are, are to write a couple textbooks in my academic field and find some kind of creative media projects to work on, most likely pro bono. I moved back here mainly because I imagine there will be more opportunity for that kind of thing in this area than where I was...
I’m really good at
Problem solving, unless we're talking about my own problems, in which case i pretty much suck.

I'm 'handy': can do a lot of DIY stuff.

I'm pretty good at trivia games and Jeopardy style quizzes.

I'm really good at constructive criticism. No. Seriously. It's what I did for a living, and I was awesome at it. You can ask my former students: the ones who still speak to me anyway...

And, oh yeah, self-deprecating humor.
The first things people usually notice about me
... I don't know really. My voice tends to carry, but I'm usually pretty quiet in unfamiliar settings. I do tend to ramble on once I get going, though [see above :-) ]. I'd like to think the rambling contains its share of fairly intelligent discourse and witty banter. Perhaps the first thing people discover about me is that I make a lot of jokes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
MOVIES
I was a film professor, so I like all kinds of esoteric movies:
anything by Werner Herzog, Chris Marker, documentaries, experimental films, the Coen Brothers (they're from my hometown)... I'm mainly interested in 'serious' fims, but like to go to cheesy action movies for fun: stuff like Crank and Drive Angry...

TV
I usually have MSNBC on as background in the evenings. The only drama I'm following currently is The Newsroom, and I don't do sitcoms. I usually watch Project Runway and I've been known to watch American Idol in irony mode, just to be able to snark about it on the web.

BOOKS
Going into academia kind of killed reading for pleasure for me. Well, 'killed' is too strong, maybe put it on life support. My favorite novelisst are Kurt Vonnegut and Philip K. Dick.

MUSIC
I'm definitely a rocker: garage and punk, the Who, PJ Harvey, Gang of Four. Also Big Star / Alex Chilton, Laurie Anderson, jump blues, rockabilly, surf instrumentals (from Dick Dale to Man or Astroman), and Sinatra. I like some jazz, mainly in small to moderate doses. I love Bach, like the Kronos Quartet, and other classical's OK by me — both of my parents were symphony musicians — but I don't chose to listen to it myself very often. I like Steve Reich a lot.

FOOD
I am so boring gastronomically. I like stuff plain, sans sauces (a category in which I include Ketchup and mustard as well as the fancy Frenchy stuff). I'm not much for ethnic cuisines unless you count American-Italian — which i bet you don't :-). But one of the joys of being in the Bay Area is being able to get a burrito at Pancho Villa in the Mission. 'Formal dining' and/or 'nice' restaurants with elegant menus, mannered wait staff and expensive entrees tend to creep me out a bit. Two places I used to like to go in SF were Chow and the Taiwan on Clement (I always get chicken fried rice at Chinese restaurants, but the CFR at the Taiwan is especially good.)

I don't eat vegetables. Well, as a Midwesterner, I do like corn on the cob, but I've been informed that doesn't count. I have a whole comedy routine worked up about it:
**begin joke**
I am the founder, and AFAIK the only member, of PERP: People For Ethical Relationships to Plants. At PERP we believe green leafy plants are a higher, nobler, and more moral form of life than animals, so it is wrong to kill them and eat them. Plants do not kill other living things, they ask only for sunshine and rain. Like humans, all animals are drenched in the Sin of destroying Life in order to survive. Therefore: ham and cheese on rye = thumbs up! (Note: it's OK to eat the surplus things out leafy friends so generously leave for us: apples, oranges, tomatoes, grains... I'll take an OJ with that slice of Italian Sausage pizza please!
**end joke**
But I do have to say I have no idea how anyone eats Pepperoni: urghh!
The six things I could never do without
Irony
Pizza
My memory
I forget the rest.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Well, right now I'm spending a lot of time thinking about how i should fill out this damn profile. And it's making my brain spin.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
That's a stumper. I'll have to think about that one. Ooh, I feel dizzy...
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 45–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You think we might be able to have an interesting conversation and make each other laugh.

You'd be willing to go out with or be friends with Michael Moore: if he wasn't heavy, so into himself, driven, rich and famous, married, etc.