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38 Montreal, Quebec, CA Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 1, 2014
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Other, but not too serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
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i am kind. i don't throw things, or rip things into tiny pieces. my bed is made, but my desk is a mess. i listen to music all day and think we are especially fortunate to live right now, music-wise. in most other respects, i think we live in a bit of a depressing and distressing time: a time in which time seems to be running out. but, then, trying to avert things like our own extinction at least gives us something meaningful to do while we're here (whereas the major achievements of our parents' generation appear to have been mutual funds and vinyl siding).

i feel that happiness rises and falls like the tides, and is best pursued indirectly. some people think i think too much, but that's just what they think (and, yeah, well, who's thinking now eh?). also, i seem to believe on some subterranean level of my being – and i think this is actually a fault of mine – that if it isn't smart, funny, or kind, it isn't worth saying.

je parle aussi français, et je serais heureux de t'écrire et de te parler en n'importe quel langue (à condition que c'est anglais, français, ou, um, tuvalu).
What I’m doing with my life
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i like the idea that we have "a life" to do something with. it reminds me of childhood invitations: "wanna do something?" or, maybe "a life" is like a small dog that you put in your backpack and take out and put on the table when you get some gelato. mmm ... gelato.

actually, i'm vegan these days. and have you ever had vegan ice cream? really, really you don't want to.

and i wouldn't put a dog in my backpack.

mostly, really, what i'm doing with "my life" is writing about things, teaching about things, and trying to change things. by "things" i mean mostly cities (which is what i'm supposed to know about), but also, well, everything. in other words, i'd better live a long time!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
filling out profiles on dating sites.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: delillo's "underworld," smith's "on beauty," ondaatje's "in the skin of a lion," whitehead's "the intuitionist," baldwin's "the fire next time" (and, honestly, everything else the man put to paper), the biography of angela davis and the prison writings of george jackson, nisargadatta's "i am that," krishnamurti's "total freedom," beck's "nothing special," marx's "capital," fanon's "wretched of the earth," and butler's "giving an account of oneself."

music: elliott smith, nick drake, tom waits, bjork, sun kil moon, bon iver, joanna newsom, do make say think, bell orchestre, julia kent, sigur ros, atlas sound, the books, the clogs, dead prez, talib kweli, the coup, alarm will sound, jim o'rourke (and gastr del sol), terry riley ...

food: it's so much about when, where, and how: a late-evening scotch in a friend's living room, brunch on a sunny sunday, an elaborate dinner that i've spent hours cooking for you (you've brought the wine), an espresso and a good issue of harper's ...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
6. a small collection of excellent books
5. nice, interesting, funny people
4. someone to flirt with
3. sunshine
2. activity (running, cycling, skiing, yogaing)
1. a little time to myself, to reflect, to meditate, to appreciate you
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
why the world is the way it is; how it could be better; why you aren't with me, dreaming, loving, undermining boredom, and overcoming the selves that drag like weights around our ankles and keep us from giving it all up for something so much better
You should message me if
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you're still reading this, you're inspired, you struggle against the cliché as if your life depended on it (it just might).