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44 Durham, NC Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:07pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Working on university
Entertainment / Media
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hey there, I'll make this simple for ya before you go any further... I moved to NC from Florida a few years ago. I live with my wife, NightShiftNurse. We've been together over a decade and I don't see that changing. Yes, we both have had accounts on here for years, I know mine goes back to when this was called TheSpark and had a Myers-Briggs equivalent (ISTP for the record). I suspect the messages she gets are a bit more forward and graphic, but that's fine. Anyway, neither of us are morning people, but if you're local and not a douchebag, feel free to reach out, we both don't mind expanding our small base of local friends.

I've always been pretty clear regarding my intentions, My story doesn't change and I don't mask how I feel. I've been all over the world, I'm well read and my opinions are well thought out and properly researched, often even 'peer reviewed'. I don't mind broaching even the touchiest subjects with measured debate, I'll make a convincing case however you should come prepared. I ran short on patience a while ago, thus the screen name.

I was brought up in very meager surroundings in the swamps of South Florida. Raised poor, but rich in experiences and good intentions from an early age. I learned to be respectful but resolute and to always look after women, animals and young children. I open doors for people and use "please", "thank you", "sir" and "ma'am" with sickening frequency.

When I escaped from the swamp, not nearly an adult, I never looked back. To this day I'm still better at looking forward than reminiscing. I traveled pretty extensively on other people's dime for nearly two decades, in that time I've lived low and I've lived well and finally decided to set down a few roots.

This is what led me to Durham, for no other reason than this seems to be the kind of place where people do that sort of thing. Only time will tell how deep those roots anchor me to North Cackalacky. If any of this offends your delicate sensibilities, please feel free to move on. Otherwise I've been known to be rather fun to be around.

Anyway, you can find me:
...on AIM, Google and Yahoo @ uberbstrd

Do you see a theme here? If you're curious, drop a short note, what could it hurt? I suspect I'll respond if only to be polite.
What I’m doing with my life
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Approximately a third of my life is taken up with making pretty pictures professionally, a little under a third is spent staring at the ceiling thinking up clever alliterations in a vain attempt at sleep. The rest of the time I do a handful of really geeky things that I'm just reluctant (read: embarrassed) to mention without a little prompting.

I'm terribly handy and spend a good deal of time reclaiming old wood and building random stuff in my back yard with my sweet, smelly bloodhound. I'd like to spend more time on my motorcycle, weather permitting...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Agitating people who try to impose their sensibilities and twisted morals on others or who choose to meddle in others' lives. Listening to people who need an ear and giving good advice to those that ask for it.

I used to be really good at traveling the world and getting paid for it. Around 37 countries so far, nearly all on someone else's dime. But flying has lost all its appeal, although I still love a good road trip. I have stories, but I rarely share more than the choicest morsels.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Usually the eyes and my sparkling personality... OK, they probably first notice that I'm visible from space or perhaps my self-deprecating sense of humor.

I make over-sensitive people cry, the less sensitive have tears of laughter. Just look for someone crying and I'm likely to be close by.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Top 5 books: 1. Stranger in a Strange Land 2. The Book of Five Rings 3. The Prince 4. Snow Crash 5. Kitchen Confidential

Top 5 movies: 1. Blade Runner 2. leon: The Professional 3. Love Story 4. Seven Samurai 5. The Tao of Steve

Top 5 living music acts: 1. SCOTS 2. Peaches 3. Pink Floyd 4. Hank III 5. Motorhead

Top 5 shows on my DVR: 1. Sons of Anarchy 2. Big Bang Theory 3. Good Eats 4. Walking Dead 5. The Daily Show

Top 5 meals: 1. Asian 2. Steak 3. BBQ 4. Breakfast 5. Pizza

Top 5 punctuation: 1. , 2. . 3. ! 4. ; 5. @ (I used the ampersat before it was cool)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A pocket knife, basic hand tools, pizza, a good pair of combat boots, my Left Hand, and a pencil to put in it.

I was told as a child to be a REAL man you need 3 things, a leather jacket, a lighter and a pocket knife. Since then I've come to realize, being a real man is a little less mundane.

One last thing, I suspect if you list god as being something you can't live without, that might just be the tip of the iceberg of things we're unlikely to agree on.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Drinking, playing pool, riding my bike and avoiding large crowds...

(Rarely at the same time)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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There is a little part of me who wants to be famous or maybe infamous. Luckily the rest of me has successfully subdued that part.

I'm not big on crowds, there is a certain density where I start becoming claustrophobic and just tend to leave. I'm more likely to be found in quieter bars and coffeeshops depending on the hour.

The smell of patchoulli makes me physically gag.

That OKCupid is either a huge social experiment or simple entertainment, not sure which...
You should message me if
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you have a high tolerance for snarkiness and have a grasp of the ironic. The screenname would be your first clue.

It would also be of benefit if you like laughing and spitting milk out your nose. Cause that's what's going to happen, bank on it. Unless you're lactose intolerant. In which case, I'm going to have to ask you to reconsider messaging me.