Luckily, the answer to both questions follows thusly: You are on OkCupid in order to learn the Art Of Fanciness. And I can teach you.
I consider myself lucky to have navigated the rise and fall of a serious long term relationship. I've gotten a closeup view of long term monogamy (5 years) as well as how to transition from monogamy to nonmonoetcetera. It has afforded me the privilege of knowing What The Fuck I Want In A Serious Relationship (WTFIWIASR) at the young age of 26. I feel like most people my age don't have this experience, which partially explains why so many of my peers still aspire to be monogamous.