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umar1948

67 Tucson, AZ Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 47–75
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Sep 3
Orientation
Heteroflexible, Pansexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Pisces, and it matters a lot
Education
Dropped out of law school
Job
Other
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Status
Single
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Intelligent, enthusiastic, energetic, attractive maverick seeking bright, self-reliant, and experienced woman who is equally healthy, in-shape, assertive, adventurous, lusty, and emotionally available for a fun, interesting, easy, trusting friendship possibly leading to a relaxed, passionate, supportive, intimate romance. The rest is details, best explored at leisure, without assumptions or expectations, and open to promise.

I definitely express the energies of a Pisces and an ENFP, (If you lack familiarity with the Myers-Briggs personality profiles, you may find an explanation of mine here: http://www.personalitypage.com/html/ENFP.html). If you think that this stuff is a load of crap, then you will find it hard to fully appreciate who I am.
What I’m doing with my life
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At my age and stage of development, I am less focused on doing and more on being. Less interested in changing the world, I am learning to accept it more as it is, while letting my evolution have a beneficial influence. As Gandhi says: Be the change you wish to see in the world.

I have more close relationships than I did when I was younger. Perhaps it is because I have fewer needs to meet and more gifts to give. I am very grateful for what life has given me, and very aware that it is now time to pass those gifts on. Sometimes it is just as simple as being an excellent friend and lover.

Inexplicably, the foolish seeker who was my youthful self has become a mentor in my prime. If you had asked me anytime in the last 40 years what I wanted to be when I grew up, I would have told you that I just wanted to be a wise old man. I would not have been able to tell you that wisdom is less about getting it right and more about making it fun. I could not have guessed that my message would be to be more playful, less serious, more accepting, and to spend less time fixing myself and more time blessing the world around me and the people in it. Consequently, I am more vibrant and alive than I have ever been.

I am not looking for just one person to share my life with. There are too many facets of my personality for one person to align with, especially since some of them seem to be mutually exclusive. When you think about it, this is true for most people. Careers, hobbies, children, pets, social activities all feed us in different ways. When we are younger, modern life forces us into a variety of venues, and we may not realize that we are simply being provided opportunities to blossom in many ways, with different actors on those various stages. In my later years I realize that it is still important to diversify my experiences. Growing old together does not have to happen in pairs, because tomorrow is not guaranteed to any of us. I have already been widowed twice. Settling in may be easier, but so is lying in bed all day.

For some, getting older is a relief from that stretching of the personality, and they welcome the chance to just slow down and concentrate on a few cherished people and activities. For those like me, we welcome the cornucopia of options available when the requirements of a job and the demands of family responsibilities are behind us. Even as a little more conscious effort is needed to keep this older body flexible and strong, there is a renewed youthfulness that a broad horizon of opportunities invites me to step into. New things to do, new people to meet, new ways to be. Life becomes truly an adventure, and is more sweet because there is less time left to enjoy it.
You should message me if
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A woman in relationship with me will be independent and resourceful. She will have claimed her full power as a woman, and will appreciate that I honor both her feminine and masculine energies, as she does mine. She will be "a sadder but wiser girl." She will have recognized that the romantic fantasy of "love beyond all common sense, based on some sweet permanence, with only one" is an illusion, and she will have at least a few past loves to prove it. She will know, or at least have guessed, that the unspoken expectations and hidden agreements of conventional relationships may often interfere with the actual relating. She will value process more than product.

She is conscious and upfront about what she wants, and she respects, as do I, that any two people may see life accurately from completely different angles. Differences can cause unbearable friction, or they may be challenges for growth, or they might be the complementary energy that we each may be looking for. Luckily we both see this as an opportunity for negotiation rather than a justification for making either one of us wrong.

Being able to respectfully talk through apparent conflicts with a friend/lover will be important to her. She will be both challenged and comforted by my preferring to look at what serves each of us instead of what the old messages from family, institutions, and society says "should be". At the same time she will be glad that I respect her values, her boundaries, and the traditions that have formed her into the woman she is today. Since she is confident enough to take me as I am, she will be relieved that I will not be trying to change her to suit me.

She will prize the ease and trust which comes with the courage to be open and vulnerable, which I both invite and manifest. She is comfortable with her emotions, and likes to be with a man who can go to deeper levels of communion and understanding. Intimacy feeds her, and she can be fully nurtured by just holding hands. She can also surrender to receiving love with an honesty that almost hurts.

She will be happy to share me with the other beautiful people in my world, because she also has her own friends and passions that she does not need me to join with. Alternatively, she may be excited to meet the denizens of some of the landscapes I inhabit, or will be eager to introduce me to hers. Jealousy, envy, and possessiveness are foreign to her. When we are apart, she will be so involved with her own interests and activities, that what I may be up to will be of no concern to her. She is secure in her own self esteem and is therefore willing to believe that she is loved and significant in my life without requiring some great sacrifice or artificial demonstration as proof. Loving words, rapt attention, tender touches, and reliable support will mean more to her than expensive gifts or grand gestures.

While she herself may be organized and a planner, she will be stimulated by my spontaneity and willingness to shift direction and drop everything if an adventure calls, even if she chooses to not go along with me. Hopefully she will remind me to take a handkerchief with me.

She will blissfully receive the tender and affectionate attention for her which I have in ample supply. If she scratches her head in doubt about being involved with a whirling dervish of a guy, she will be assured by the fact that, when I am with her, the rest of the universe does not exist. Our love making will be deep, sensuous, and leisurely except for those times when her urgency demands some fiery passion. She will get used to being worshiped for who she is.

She will be delighted by my sense of humor and my chronic cheerfulness and energy. My irreverence may at times shock her, but most times it will cause her to laugh out loud. If she cannot keep up with my pace, she will at least let me run up ahead some of the time. She will not be bored with me. Most likely she will enjoy being on her own to enjoy her "me time." Luckily that is something I encourage because I need it too.

Because she is intelligent, she will enjoy the opportunities for inspired communication that being with an educated, well-read, always-learning man has to offer. The breadth of my interests, knowledge ,and talents and my ability to adapt to different social environments may astonish her at times. Just sitting on the porch enjoying the view or the evening sounds may be balanced with animated discussions about "things that matter". She will appreciate my eagerness to listen to her and to have my eyes opened and my mind expanded by how she sees things and what she has to say. Music will often be present, even if it is just the rhythm of my hands drumming. If she likes to move together with someone, she will find that I am eager to learn the steps.

She will be glad that I take care of myself physically and pursue a sustainable lifestyle. Although she can nurture when she wants to, she is relieved to know that I have others who I can lean on for support, healing, and growth. Taking care of each other becomes an optional joy, not an obligatory chore.

In short, if you are alive and passionate, if you love without fear, if you can freely share your soul and laugh about it, then I hope you want to meet me, because I surely want to meet you.

Just LIKING me will not work, however, since I do not have the upgrade and will not know who you are. If you cannot think of how to start the conversation in a message to me, send a " :) ", and I'll take a whack it it from my end.