Hello, my name is Daniel, and thank you for visiting my profile. I am sure you are a good person and may be having similar troubles finding the right person, and granted the process is arduous bordering on depressing with no guarantees that person is out there at all. It would be so nice if we were all able to easily match up with someone so no one would have to go through this mess. That said, I must differentiate between making friends vs. finding someone to have a personal relationship with. In browsing hundreds of thousands of profiles over the years, I see where most women seem to want friends or friends first, perhaps hoping something more would evolve from that, and if not they still might enjoy lasting friendships. I’m not like that: my friends are just that – friends, and nothing more - and I strongly value the very few close friendships I have. What I am looking for here is a long term, monogamous, committed, romantic relationship with one woman. Some might refer to that as friends with benefits or similar nomenclatures, but no, I believe it’s much deeper and more serious. Few women are interested in such a relationship as most desire marriage and children, which is fine and my best wishes in your search for an adequate husband and father for your children. But I desire to forego marriage and having children, including adoption and even if they are grown and independent. In my opinion, the total costs and risks of childraising today unfortunately tend to outweigh the positive experiences and other benefits they provide. To me, marriage changes people often not in the direction they’ve anticipated. Control issues, abuse, cheating, violence, 50% divorce rates, split families, relatives, the legal system, the community, etc., are issues I’d rather not deal with that marriage can trap people in. I avoid self-made problems such as drug use, smoking, snorting, chewing, excessive drinking, lack of basic hygiene, contracted social diseases from casual and unprotected sex, extreme obesity or anorexia, living in squalor, etc., and expect the same from a potential significant other. My goal is to live for a very long time, and going through life watching a loved one expeditiously self-destruct from those habits is not conducive to a productive long term relationship. Yes I’m a rather plain, staid, mostly introverted person who tries to be pleasant, kind, respectful, trustworthy, supportive and helpful. My heritage if necessary to know is half (non-mob) Northern Italian, about a quarter German and a quarter Scot. My interests and activities can be quite individualistic at times and not status quo or jointly participatory, thus I’ve not listed them. I’d never expect you to join me with them as you’d likely become bored, though I would appreciate you understand I enjoy and/or have to do them as part of my continuing personal development. I’m sorry I’m not exciting, debonair, or handsome, yet I feel my career and other projects are much more important in the scheme of things.

I’m searching for a woman in the 27-47 age range +/– a few years depending upon demonstrable maturity; who is sincerely interested in dating a guy and is not currently married or involved with anyone or any ex(s); medium or better height with proportional weight; has no at-risk relatives or ex’s; and is located within the Midwest US or plans to locate here. She should pride herself in basic manners and politeness, thinking, listening, observing, reasoning, and thoughtfully and insightfully conversing, opining, and debating issues when necessary; possess literacy, intelligence, and common sense, and not just "smarts"; and is savvy in using basic technologies and owns or has access to a car, phone, and computer. She should tolerate serious and highly intelligent people and recognize the need to continuously learn new things throughout life; and not be a neocon, corporatist, communist, hardcore capitalist, anarchist, fundamentalist, practicing hippie, hillbilly, or cultist. She should have a unique and detailed profile with a minimally Photoshopped picture on it, and already considered and discussed important life goals such as marriage, children, etc. She should be solvent without requiring joint financials, and does not require 24/7/365 co-habitation. Furthermore she must deplore stalking and violence; not be materialistic, emotionally insecure, or expect others to read her mind; not mentally or physically control others; not demand constant entertainment or attention; disdain open relationships, "boy toys", "sugar daddies", paid sex, and one-night stands; refer to or prejudice all men as dawgs, playas, pimps, etc.; and does not arbitrarily ration sex.

As for your interests, I don’t mind them as long as I don't hate them, and would try to help you enjoy them as much as possible. However some things I hate in particular include casinos, today’s Las Vegas, and other gambling economy-supported locales; Disney and other nothing but corporate tourist traps; risky sports (including motor sports) and activities; identification with and/or participation in gangs, rap, hip-hop, ghetto, thug, etc., new country music or talent shows, and support or practice of their self-aggrandizing, lowest common denominator, female-demeaning, violence- & substance-advocating, utterly worthless and socially uncontributive self-centered juvenile cultures; pets that have rendered her domicile uninhabitable; people watching, reality TV, and other cultureless pop media; having to dance with her in order to prove something up front; and excessive partying, flirting, and teasing her days away vs. concentrating on life and a dedicated relationship. She should like or at least tolerate guys with long, wavy hair and not think any long hair on a guy is automatically a mullet, and refrain from calling guys with long hair within earshot "women" and think it's funny. She should also like or tolerate tastefully & professionally done tattoos, piercings, and leather, PVC, and similar clothing whether she or I have them or not, and is not into hardcore BDSM.

Consider for a moment my plight over almost 44 years. My previous dating attempts unfortunately have all been unromantic, passionless, worthless learning experience disappointments which wasted my time dealing with among other things their drunkenness, uncleanliness, and effects of various past chemical abuses. Although I can't procreate because I'm naturally sterile, I am virile. So yes I'm still a virgin. I could not in good conscious have had sex with any of those previously mentioned women just for the hell of it, to "gain experience" or to prove something, and thus have avoided terrible memories or potential consequences if I did.

I have few close male friends, and the only female friends I have are business associates and wives or girlfriends of my friends, who could provide positive references upon request. The lack of female friends is not by choice – there are just few single women in the Midwest that I would consider dating or that would date me, and it does not indicate some perceived misogyny. I don't scope out or flirt with women in public regardless of how pleasant or attractive they may be, as in my opinion it's pointless trying to cold-call approach them with the odds being nearly infinite that they would be interested in me. I know, my loss. Fantasizing about relationship scenarios with them is also a grandiose waste of time. I would never interfere with women involved in a relationship as I highly respect both parties and would rather see their relationship succeed and prosper vs. fail particularly on account of my actions. I have no interest in stalking people, and will not pursue trying to establish a relationship with someone if there is no definitive sign of sincere return interest on their part or if I detect flirting without it being followed up upon. I tend to only give a negative reaction or situation one opportunity, be it an intentionally non-returned phone call, email, etc., before moving along without further pursuit as my time is too precious to waste trying to figure out what went wrong or what the other person was thinking. This may all sound too negative, but again consider being successful in most everything you’ve done but have been rejected by 500+ women over 25+ years of "dating" and trying not to take each failure personally without feedback for future corrective measures.

Others I've seen going through similar failures have drowned their sorrows in alcohol, drugs, food, etc., cried themselves sick, or cursed the entire population of the opposite sex. I just eat those failures and try to repress them the best I can. I'm not depressed about it, rather increasingly more disgusted than anything for trying so hard for so long to be a nice, pleasant, mild-mannered guy doing good things and sacrificing any kind of social life and activities without the reward of even one decent relationship, and am equally as appalled by the lack of quality I see in womens' personals (yes the guys’ personals are probably no beauties either, but is that an excuse to stoop to their levels too?) Also it’s astounding to me why many women prefer bad boys or others that they know will be future risks to their mental if not physical health and well-being vs. considering a person who has listed their personality truthfully in detail with so little risk involved and much reward to be gained. Thus the purpose of this exercise is to screen out non-qualifiables and divulge pertinent information up-front so you don’t have to waste your valuable time figuring out who I am or think you could change me into something you want. I'm only interested in finding one woman - this is not like commercial advertising trying to sell as many products and services to the mass audience as possible, so please don't lecture me on negativity or inappropriateness because apparently your search methodologies have not been working well either if you're reading this.

Before you contact me, please re-read the above as I will not significantly deviate from my interests or requests, nor would I ever want you to deviate significantly either from whom you really are just to secure a relationship. If you see I have looked at your profile, I am likely interested in you and would like to correspond further. Thank you for browsing my profile & if by some miracle you are interested I hope to hear from you!