Ursidé
42 Paris, France
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My self-summary
Hi there. A "self-summary"? I hated that kind of stuff during job interviews but ok, let's do this thing. Father, husband, friend. Used to be lover too, but my sex drive has been in the tank for quite some time now.. And somehow it's a relief.
Maybe it's not apparent from my answers to questions, so I'll put it in writing here: if I was a woman, I'd be called a sex-positive trans-friendly raging intersectionalist feminist. I'm a cishet guy, so I'll leave it at "anti-sexist leftist/anarchist".

INTP for MBTI fans out there.

Also, i've been diagnosed recently and am being treated for a kind of Bipolar Personnality Disorder.
Telling you this, i fell like i'm standing about stark naked in front of you. (In a way, that suits me fine, I'm kind of a perv that way.. >:-))
--- HEY GUESS WHAT ?
You can't? Well.
It seems I'm not Bipolar.
I'm "gifted" (?!?) with ADHD on top.
I'm now treated for that last part with Ritalin. That shit is really helping.
I could tell you how much better I feel, but u wouldn't believe me.
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Edit: i'm so laughingly bad at this stuff i sometimes wonder how I ever made out with a girl. Blind luck I guess.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to rethink it so it makes more sense. I'd love to be able to spend more time with my kids, like, a lot more time. Baring that, i'd like to go to work feeling like it's actually useful and making somehow people's lives better. That's not the case at the time, and the IT stuff i'm an expert at (which is my only marketable skill) is boring me to hell.
Thinking about becoming a librarian. Or à prostitute.
Wondering why a lot of my >90% matches here are in the 20-30 age range while I'm 42, and what it says about me.
I’m really good at
Not making the first step. Whatever the context, i don't want to be the 4th guy hitting on you today when you might prefer to be left alone.
The first things people usually notice about me
That i'm reading.
Also, i've been told i'm intimidating. I don't bite and i'm nice by default, but i'm shy/reserved at first, which is often mistaken with coldness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Ursula K. Le Guin, Ann McCaffrey, PK Dick, Jack Vance, Neal Stephenson, Bruce Sterling, Walter Jon Williams, William Gibson, Henning Mankel, Terri Pratchett, Fred Vargas, Dominique Manotti, DOA, Stanislas Lem, Glenn Cook, Nathalie Henneberg , David Brin, David Weber, Glenn Cook, Lois MacMaster Bujold, Frank Herbert, Iain M Banks, John Scalzi, John Brunner, J.K. Rowling, Robert Charles Wilson, Jack Cambell, China Mieville, Charles Stross..

There are several movies i watch about once a year: The Princess Bride, Bringing out the dead, Inside man, Man on fire, Shoot 'en up.

Cowboy Bebop, The Wire, Arrow, the Flash, Castle, Elementary, True Detective, The Blacklist..

The Dandy Warhols, Miossec, Noir Désir, FFF, Iron Maiden, Metallica, MGMT, The Prodigy, The Chemical Brothers, Bach, Strauss, Saint-Saens, Satie, Mindless Self Indulgence, Nine Inch Nails, the Cure, Depeche Mode, Mellowdrone, Max Raabe, Mano Negra, LTNO, Lords of Acid, Leftfield, Kraftwerk, Kat Onoma, Justin Sullivan, New Model Army, Johnny Cash, Jimi Hendrix, Jeff Buckley, Thiefaine, Godspeed You! Black Emperor, Front 242, Fields of the Nephilim, Empirion, les Elles, Divine Comedy, Dead Can Dance, Crystal Method, Bloodhound Gang, les Bérus, Bad Religion, Whipping Boy, Velvet Acid Christ, Underworld, Sttellla, Suicidal Tendencies, Spain, Stabbing Westward, Sonic Youth, Soko, Sisters of Mercy, RATM, Pixies, Pink Floyd, Nirvana, Orbital, Morphine, Nick Drake, Bauhaus,

Japanese, italian, korean, north-african, chinese, french, thaï, Indian, African..
The six things I could never do without
Books
Books
Books
Books
Smartphone
Computer
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What I want to do with my life.
Sexual healing.
If there's a place for male (heterosexual) prostitution.
What I can do to help against patriarchy.
On a typical Friday night I am
home (did I forget to say that I'm also a real party animal? :>)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Je suis assez doué pour simuler l'orgasme.
I have ONE always hard nipple (the one that was pierced).
J'ai le dos doux et lisse, sauf à un endroit sur le rein gauche. J'explique aux gens qui le découvrent (rarement, donc) qu'il s'agit d'une greffe de peau de chien.
I pilot spaceships in my spare time.
You should message me if
You find yourself without a drinking buddy during the week.
You're about to roll and light a fat joint, but think it'd be better to share it with someone and discover why i'm nicknamed "deep troath" by some friends (hint: it's not sexual.).
Vous avez des questions indiscrètes à me poser (j'adore les questions indiscrètes !!).
Vous avez un gode ceinture.
You want to tie me down and spank me.
You want to say hi.
You're looking for a swimming partner. (Beware, i'm *no* Weissmuller, and i swim at the Kremlin Bicetre pool and sometimes at Suzanne Berlioux (les Halles) )
Tu veux aller à un Neko Café mais pas seul-e.
Tu cherches quelqu'un pour boire des coups et parler cul sans complexes.
Pffffff j'en sais rien moi. Si vous n'avez rien de mieux à faire?
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