Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
04/26/15 In this life I have found myself to be on a spiritual
journey and not so much a religious one. After many years of study
in the inerrant holy books, I discovered that I had to abandon the
idea that a God who has shown such a long history of psychopathic
behavior toward his creations could also be the God of love. This
was necessary so that I could live my life sanely and with
usefulness to others. And for me, within each version of myself, I
imagine a new vision of me that I can work to become. In this life,
I seem to be focused on eighth house issues of birth, sex, death,
resurrection via reincarnation and ascension. I have found my
immortality hidden within my breath and eternity hidden within the
current moment, that life and death are but gateways to the
I have wondered at what questions have been used to make us
enemies. We may have different answers, but the word "enemy"
doesn't seem to fit. It implies that some answer must justify my
not loving another as I love me, for having them only a different
answer than mine. A teacher explained to me that each partner holds
those parts of me that I have hidden from myself and I present to
them what they hide from themselves. We do this so we can discover
our hidden selves and come to love them.
04/21/15 I'm thinking that the search for a soul mate is an attempt
by me to believe my soul at an earlier time was willing to do the
work to have such a deep connection. That there was a time when my
soul was not lazy and didn't expect to get something without
working for it. My unwillingness to do the work today for this
connection more likely is just a continuation of my soul's ancient
3/12/15 Ladies...I came into this world a "real man", I was just a
smaller one. And I have given up hope that the many bubbly,
outgoing ladies found here will be able to overcome their
misogynistic conditioning which keeps them from daring to say even
a "hello" to a man they find interesting. We all have the exact
relationships we desire.
It is 2/20/15. After watching so many of us remain on here for
extended times and reading over and over that you ladies are
looking for honest, trustworthy, genuine, fun loving real men, I
can only assume that none of us guys are out here. It is very
likely that if us guys are here we also haven't often found what we
say we seek within the large number of women offering loving
kindness, honesty, and openness. Do we have poor picking skills
from our past-should we pick again with the old failing selection
criteria? Sane thinking would suggest we abandon what parents and
clergies and friends will approve of us for. Those in my age group
have lived the greatest portion of our lives using old rules. I do
not look forward to days filled with pre-chewed food, watching TV
from distant recliners, and quoting scriptures from books that tell
me I need to never fully engage in this life so I can have a later
life where my ego feels it is safe in a kindergarden heaven. The
approval of most of my neighbors is not worth having and I dare to
live my life without it. What will you get from a man like me...you
get a real man who is wise enough to not want to engage in sex with
every woman I have coffee with. I will not create prisons of rules
to keep a partner and I will not live in one created by another
even if they declare they live by some universal code of behavior
and thinking. Moral standards will always be relevant only to the
society we live in...they are never universal no matter what we
have been told by parents and clergy. I live without causing harm
to myself and others. I recognize fantasy within me and others
during our first coffees together. I do not have a picture in front
of my face of who I want you to believe I am and I have learned to
not have a second coffee with ladies that have a picture I am to
believe in front of them. I suspect those on this site have only
become willing to sit on top of the walls we have built to keep
ourselves safe from others. The rest of our days need not be spent
trapped behind the walls that safeguard us.
It is 10/27/14. I have begun to see that the close warm loving
relationships we are all seeking is more likely a fantasy about
something we haven't yet found, at least for the divorced of us. I
say this as so many of us have been searching for so long. Our long
searches imply that we have poor skills in searching or we really
seek someone we will not admit to ourselves or others. We all once
thought we had found the perfect mate for us with our last ones,
and I could not have been talked out of them being the only person
I would ever want or need until I died, despite red flags so
clearly seen by others. Perhaps if we are honest with ourselves, we
might admit that the games we played to "capture and keep" our
prior mates didn't work well then and will not likely succeed
again. Just maybe we will gain access to heaven by loving many
instead of loving only one or being loved by one who was a hostage.
I am adding this paragraph as efforts to become the gentleman my
mother hoped for offered in my text has attracted little interest.
I will now be willing to interact with any other fantasies you have
not found a partner for, with the caveat that no harm will come to
us. Maybe this paragraph will elicit more than a "hey there" with
its no follow on response.
***Old entry***Feeling loved by another is sweet, but what happens
within me when I love is why I search for a partner. This internal
condition changes my universe. I desire participation in the
changes love creates within you and I offer you participation in
the changes I create within me. I take full responsibility for my
interior mental and emotional self. If I do not hold you
responsible for my interior condition when it is good, you will not
have to be blamed should it change.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Looking for exciting business opportunities. Appreciating what the
universe has provided me. I play some golf, might skate the
Riverwalk. After many years of listening to La Donna e Mobile, I
recently found what the words mean in English. I might have found
them useful had I known this earlier in life. Vitas on youtube does
an incredible rendition of this piece, worth the view for opera
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am an excellent cook. I have now completed 1200+ questions. My
attempt to be known can fall into the category "really good at",
even though I was prompted.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My general sense of ease.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
histories of religions, Emerald Tablets of Thoth
Jazz, new age, opera...Vitas, possibly the world's greatest
counter-counter-counter tenor. I also am impressed with the power
and passion in Pink's song Try.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
There have been times when I was without whatever I had formerly
believed I couldn't live without and survived. Perhaps it is other
people in general I cannot live without, as without others in my
life I will become unsure that I am really here.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
04/08/15 Perhaps the permanence we seek within relationship along
with our desire for forever is but an imperfect spiritual longing
for the return to the unity of All That Is, from which we never
separated ourselves, but only became seemingly real when my unity
looked at itself, then considered only for an instant that the view
of myself made an object apart from what I had considered. At this
moment I projected myself as separate and splashed my projection
into a universe where I seemed to be real. The rest of the illusion
then becomes a subjective reality, existing only in my mind.
01/27/15 I am left wondering what I should believe within any
profile I view on here. A lady on a site wrote she was looking for
someone to chat with. I perked right up because I know some words
and I can do that. After four e-mails had been exchanged, I had
received two words and nine pieces of punctuation. Whatever should
us men use to predict what words might mean in a woman's
01/20/15 A friend reminded me today that for most of the men and
women here, there is a man or woman somewhere that is glad we are
gone, and they did not find the warm, highly energetic, caring
person now advertising. I also suspect that they daily light votive
candles to show their gratitude that I am gone.
My partner and l will have sane and sound ideas that guide any
sexual relationship. We each will be free of other emotional and
sexual links. We will want our emotional links to be heightened by
our sexual link, instead of using sex to create emotional links. I
will want no others in my mind, dreams or fantasies. My highest
idea is that our sexual relationship will be the external
expression of what we have in our hearts for each other.
Should one partner no longer find their heart's desire in the other
they will wander off to continue seeking their heart's desire in
another. And while this at first may result in feelings of anger or
pain of loss, this action actually safeguards both hearts from
I have never been fully certain of the love of others, but loving
them assures my heart that I am in the midst of love.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At supper with a group of friends sharing good conversation.
Tonight, 7/20, I am captured listening to LaBoheme, the music
featured in the movie Moon Struck with Cage and Cher. A powerful
movie that reminded me of the emotional dynamics within my 7 year
marriage to a Sicilian and her family. A wonderful movie and a rich
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm willing to star in the movie of my own life instead of spending
any time watching previews for the trailers of my fantasies.
You should message me if
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you are up for coffee and conversation, if we click we might shop
for dinner...we can cook it together. As a friend says "we might
even dance between stirrings".
You are willing to co-star in a joint movie of great lives.
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