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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 36–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Likes dogs
My self-summary
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I guess the first thing I am is an artist (writer/composer/director) of music/theater'ish performance and short videos. That might sound confusing, because it's not music/theater along the lines of Cats or Oklahoma! or West Side Story. But there is music involved, and monologs and dialogs and songs and visuals. Laurie Anderson might be the closest comparison--but that could be just because we share the same birthday.

By day, I work as a librarian, currently at a strange vocational school that doesn't really need a library, except for accreditation purposes, teaching research skills to people who don't always share my excitement about research. I love researching anything.

Far more importantly, I am an enthusiast of cities, clouds, trees, dogs, neon tetras, music, films, art. This might sound crazy to some, but I really love snow, blizzards make me happy. But not the shoveling part. I like the stillness of winter because it feels like time has frozen and people are usually nicer to each other. Does that make any sense?

I am always inquisitive and and inspired by the world outside my comfort zone. I kind of thrive upon that. That probably sounds really vague. Although the comfort zone is a nice place to hang out once in a while. I would say that writing this self-summary would not be considered to be in my comfort zone.

what else? oh, yes. I have a way of finding humor in most things... maybe not everything... maybe about 59% of everything. But sarcasm is something i try to avoid at all costs. I much prefer the absurd, which you can see if you ever attend one of my performances.

Yes, it's true. I am ultimately looking for a long-term relationship, but I would also be happy to have some new friends to pal around with. i don't expect okcupid to be this "all or nothing" thing for me.

I know there are like-minded souls out there. Which is why I am here.

I am happy to tell you more in an email or live conversation, but, for now, I am trying to keep this profile spare and non-memoir-ish.
What I’m doing with my life
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Taking piano lessons, and making a molecule of progress each week. Working on some art projects (stories, videos, and songs). Exercise on foot or in water or at the gym. Trying to remember to meditate. And then there's my job. And somehow trying to connect it all.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
ping pong. active listening. composing. day-dreaming. dog-walking. stirring things for my friends who like to cook. Getting better at organizing my carry-on baggage to get through airport security more expeditiously.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My tallness, I guess. I get lots of compliments about my glasses. But actually i tend to not notice what people notice about me. maybe i should pay more attention to this.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A random list that will probably change by the time I save this profile.

Books: Franny and Zooey, The Sense of an Ending, Kafka's diaries,
Warhol's diaries, Anyone's diaries, The Little Prince; The Oxford Rhyming Dictionary, The Brothers Karamazov, Art and Lies, The History of Love, Chronicles (Dylan), The Rest is Noise... gosh, I know I am leaving out the most important ones, but I can't think of them at this moment. .

Movies: Wings of Desire, Hannah and Her Sisters, Love Streams, Fargo, Grizzly Man, The Trip, Vertigo, Rosemary's Baby, Fanny and Alexander, The Philadelphia Story, Slow Motion (Godard), Mikey and Nicky, L'Avventura, The Shining, Inside Llewyn Davis, Stranger Than Paradise

Music: Dylan, Mozart, Leonard Cohen, Joanna Newsom, Velvet Underground, Bach, Schubert, Carla Bley, Marianne Faithful, the Stooges, 8th blackbird, Verdi, Ornette Coleman, Neko Case, Cecil Taylor, The Mekons, Hildegarde Von Bingen, The Beatles (especially The White Album), The Stooges, Steve Reich, Mitsuko Uchida, John Coltrane

"Tomorrow Never Knows" is currently my favorite Beatles song, probably because it's playing in the background while I type this sentence.

TV: I rarely watch live television (who does?), but I will go on Netflix streaming binges... like Breaking Bad, The Office, House of Cards. I like the Daily Show, too. And Rachel Maddow. And basketball.

Food: sushi, anything with salmon, or water, or chocolate, or Indian, or really anything without bleu cheese or mushrooms
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my various communities of friends, family and friendly acquaintances
dreams and dream interpretation
water, trees, clouds, stars, air
an openness to all possibilities
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what to do next, who to invite, and how to get there
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
hungry? surprised? waifish? open to most things?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm capable of getting lost, even with GPS voice navigation


I can be shy at first, but that dissolves pretty quickly with the right people.
You should message me if
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you do not mind me being me