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unfeckless

54 / M / Straight / Single

Chicago, Illinois

His Details

Last Online
May 11
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Artistic / Musical / Writer
Income
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Confession: This is my 5th attempt at a self-summary and I suspect this may share the fatality of the previous deleted attempts.

To summarize the previous summaries:

In the 1st version, I took the “my friends would describe me as… “ approach, using words such witty, intelligent, ironic, creative, compassionate… it’s too embarrassing to recall what other words I may have used. Fortunately a writer friend who is also on OKCupid discovered the profile and more or less tore it apart. She told me that “everybody describes themselves as witty and creative intelligent. What is so unique about you? You need to tell them how awesome you are.” To which I drew a blank.

In the 2nd version, I went in another direction. I wrote that there was no self to summarize. My OKCupid friend told me that this sounded way way too self-deprecating. I said that this was sort of an in-joke between myself and everyone else out there familiar with deconstructive theory and Tibetan Buddhism. My friend said it was not a very funny joke.

My 3rd version was an attempt at reconciling the previous versions. I wrote about being an introvert who thrives upon being the center of attention; ... a liberal who hates politics because it's too political; a devout agnostic; a person who is either too shy or too meanderingly chatty. I wrote that in certain moments when I think I am taking myself far too seriously, my friends are often highly amused.

I then let my friend write a statement about my artwork (music, writing, performance/theater) as full of melancholy, humor and a sad, dark hope. I decided to leave that part in.

In my 4th version, I realized that all of the emphasis on my paradoxical Gemini nature in the 3rd version was just as hollow as the 1st version. So I started writing what probably would have been my masterpiece of a profile, my grand self-summary, but in a moment of distraction, I accidentally navigated off the site which deleted everything.

So this is the 5th version.

By the way, I think this Staff Robot thing is pretty fucked up.
What I’m doing with my life
.... um... good question. Can I get back to you later on that? kind-of, sort-of working on a book. And some songs. And working in a library. and somehow trying to connect it all.
I’m really good at
ping pong. listening. composing. research. day-dreaming. dog-walking. stirring things for my friends who like to cook. Getting better at organizing my carry-on baggage to get through airport security more expeditiously.
The first things people usually notice about me
i'm not the best parallel parker. my tallness. my not very loud voice. depending upon the season, day and hour, my hair. depending upon the frames, my glasses. my often bemused or quizzical expression.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
i'll tell you the latest, but these are not necessarily my favorites.
Books: Franny and Zooey; Kafka's diaries; Anyone's diaries; Crime and Punishment; The Oxford Rhyming Dictionary. At the time of this profile, I also finally finished Anna Karenina and don't know why it took me so long to get to it... and no, i won't tell you how it ends.
Movies: Cave of Forgotten Dreams, The Trip, Vertigo, Rosemary's Baby, Wings of Desire, Hannah and Her Sisters, Love Streams, Fargo, Fanny and Alexander, The Philadelphia Story
Music: Dylan, Mozart, Leonard Cohen, Joanna Newsom, Velvet Underground, Bach, White Stripes, Schubert, Carla Bley, Marianne Faithful, the Stooges, 8th blackbird, Verdi, Ornette Coleman, Neko Case, The Mekons (I've mentioned them twice now).
Today I think that "Visions of Johanna" is the greatest song ever written.
Food: sushi, anything with salmon, or water, or chocolate, or Indian, or really anything without bleu cheese or mushrooms
The six things I could never do without
mobility/travel, water, many forms of art, friends, iphone, sleep, Pandora
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what to do next, who to invite, and how to get there
On a typical Friday night I am
hungry? surprised? waifish? open to most things?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
insomnia, i'm capable of getting lost, even with GPS voice navigation
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 36–50
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
you do not mind me being me