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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 26–52
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Online now!
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hi, hello. Won't you have a seat?

I have many qualities that you may discover if you were to chat with me or meet me. Of them I am glad to report; I have pheromones and, in person, people of all ages kindly treat me as though I'm attractive which is flattering. Maybe its because I look more 3D in person? I also enjoy listening to body language and vocal nuances. So do you? Cool!

I'm not really taking OKC that seriously despite the reality that I am ready for seriousness. I mean c'mon, the OKC experience is cracked out with horny daydreaming krazyballs men! Not that I'm 100% sane either. I read Madness and Civilization and I was transformed. I'm on OKC, aren't I? I'm getting confused just like you are. Isn't the OKC machine suppose to be a 4D printer for love and passion?

Screw rational thought. Who doesn't like to start with a little fun and passion anyway? Looking for unmediated human connection? There's an app for that and that app is this, the off button. Turn it off as soon as you can. I will too. Maybe we can put down our guide books too and just get lost.

Who am I kidding? We will always become more and more mediated which means we must become artists more than ever.

Lately I've been meeting women that I super connect with but that think I'm too much of a catch for them. Oh good ole 40's, what are you trying to tell me? So many twists and turns and it just keeps making me want more. You are such a tease, OKC machine!

In that vein of the not-so-serious, I don't mind admitting that when the Mr. Hyde to my Dr. Jekyll comes out, I'm singular and capable of some fun kinks and I get along fine with size queens. I'm also safe, and get tested on the reg and I'm Goofy, Giving, and Game. That's what GGG stands for, right?

I'm learning a lot about hearing 'no'. Not only is it an essential of consent culture but is also deeply personal. In most cases I can't actually know what that 'no' looks like from the inside so how can I take it personally? I've seen so many times that it paints a picture of me that is far from the truth and that's just us coming from different worlds. I'm sure my frequent 'yes' and occasional 'no' must also draws similar portraits in advance and that's another reason to hear no; the pictures just aren't coming out close enough to the truth. All of that is just to say if it's no, you can phrase it however you like.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying life at an accelerating speed.

Playing with my food.

Friending people.

Careering forward.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Things involving one or more of the following:

analytic mind
crazy heart
refined senses
physical youthfulness
broad vocabulary
lifelong irreverence
fidelitous hand and eye

Also if you hadn't guessed, I have privilege up the wazoo. I've had a million second chances in life. I grew up in Berkeley in the 80's so I got an early start hearing other voices call me out or call me in. At this point, I try to appreciate the privileges everyone should have and disregard the one's no one should have. And I worry about how we police. Philosophical anarchist for better or for worse.
The first things people usually notice about me
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At first the birds fly out from the trees. Then my silhouette emerges from the brush. It is unclear whether I have been fatally wounded or not. Then as I step forward into the light my chiseled specifics are apparent from under my torn bloodied tank top. I'm holding a puppy I saved from the rogue Ninja clan. Then we embrace and kiss for the first time. For some reason this epic battle that would ordinarily leave us both traumatized instead bonds us in passionate love.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Wallace, Lethem, Alexie, Ballard, McCarthy, Foucault, Jameson, July, Speigelman, Satrapi and various statistics and culinary spell books. Whedon, Jonze, Kaufman, Coens, Gondry, Wenders, Anderson, Verhoeven, Soderbergh,, internet gifs, Daft Punk, Com Truise, Pelican, Octopus Project, Earthless, Godspeed, Dj Qbert, Red Sparowes, Iggy Pop, Crystal Castles, Beasties(RIP), Cabaret Voltaire, Copy, Dr Octagon, Black Flag, Fever Ray, Ultravox, DJ Krush, Buckethead, Massive Attack, Orange Goblin, Trans Am, Pixies, Flipper, Thievery Corporation, Tones on Tail, Cut Copy, Electric Wizard, Jel, laughter, ecstacy, and white noise.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
a swiss army knife
a strip of duct tape
strike anywhere matches
a paperclip
a lemon
something to cover my privates
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
and so could you
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If I appear harmonious with your motivations: I'm enjoying both the casual thing and the less-than casual thing. I'm not in the driver's seat but I am certainly going to enjoy the trip. I might be a tad sexual but don't let that fool you; I would love to love and be loved. I know this will break even more comfort zones but furthermore, monogamy is possible in my future and so is non-monogamy. I've learned to trust both.

When I'm casual, I'm in it to learn about myself. When I'm not, I'm in it to learn about yourself and I'm sure that you are worth knowing. Usually both happen regardless of my motivation. To me these aren't life stages but are both ongoing. I have my reasons for doing this. I'm not just trying to steal a kiss.

If you are like many people my age take this into consideration: You should contact me if you aren't in the exact place in your life that I am or if you are but either way you can spare the time for adventure. You should at least sometimes see your regrets as motivational and your losses should at least sometimes teach you to appreciate what you still have. This and honing your priorities makes you the 40-something woman I want to be with. I personally believe that love is when you grow happier while with someone or some people. But if you aren't going to grow anymore because you are "been there done that", how are you going to expect love by that definition?

If you are under 30, but can relate to me, I'm inclined to be non-monogamous, at least initially. I'm a little cautious about the monogamy because the time from which to recover from bad choices is shorter for me than for you. Call me Satanic but that's my fuzzy logic.

I'm also an experienced guest star and love meeting new couples.

Aaaand new friends. How could I have left that out? I am very enthusiastic about making new friends. Plus I need someone that will take my OKC profile down after I die.