So first, I should make my intentions clear. I am truly interested in finding a long term relationship. However, I am just coming out of a 10 year marriage (she lied, cheated, then left). For the immediate future, what I really really want to find is a friend. Let's hang out and have some fun - really - that's not just a euphemism for a booty call. If romance happens, great. If not, more friends are always good. I feel like I really need to make social connections fill out my life as I move through this transitional phase.
I should also be clear in describing myself. I am a geek. A full on, Big Bang Theory style geek. I enjoy gaming, Sci/Fi/Fantasy movies, TV and books. However, I don't fit all the stereotypes. I can talk to women with no problem. I don't live in my mom's basement (I own my own house). I don't wear costumes. I don't play World of Warcraft. I pay close attention to my personal grooming and appearance. I don't live entirely on a diet of Mountain Dew and Doritios (though I will indulge occasionally). I even get out in to the sun occasionally. :-) I really just enjoy cultural elements that trigger my imagination, and I am comfortable enough with myself that I don't have to hide it. As with most geeks, I don't enjoy mainstream sports very much, so you won't lose me for the entire month of March to college basketball or every Sunday during football season. If you like them, that's cool. We can hangout while the game's on. I'll read, browse Reddit, or work on something. If you are nice, I may even bring around a yummy snack for you. :-)
Don't get me wrong, I am not completely one dimensional, I like to do lots of other kinds of things as well. I am drawn to quirky stuff. I love going to roller derby bouts at the Masonic. I am a big fan of Ferndale's DIY fair. I really like trying new restaurants during local restaurant weeks (Detroit, Ann Arbor, Plymouth). I like film festivals and interesting new exhibits at the DIA.
Professionally, I am a university professor in the social sciences. I've reached the top of the academic progression and I am very secure in my job. I teach classes on statistics, research methods, and criminology. My academic lifestyle gives me a lot of flexibility with my time, particularly during the day.
Physically, I am 6' and 210 lbs. I have accepted my fate as a balding male and I keep my hair and beard close cropped. The picture(s) I have posted are accurate. If you don't like hairy guys, you should probably just move on to the next profile. :-) I tend to dress casually as my job doesn't require that I "suit up," but I am very capable of dressing well for any occasion.
I have two awesome sons (7 and 15) of whom I share 50/50 joint custody. It gets complicated, but I am deeply committed to being a great father who is directly involved in their lives.
I am looking for someone smart, funny, grounded, fair, generous, and honest. I like to think of myself as being all of these things, so it seems reasonable to expect them in return. I am hoping I can meet someone who is securely professionally employed with no recurring drama in their lives.
I would like to say that looks don't matter, but of course they do. I'm not into supermodels or bikini babes. I like real women with curves. I also appreciate a partner who takes care of their appearance. Perfume/cologne makes me get all swoony. :-) I have learned from experience that bad oral hygiene is a deal breaker, as is smoking. I am, unfortunately, allergic to cats, so that could be a deal breaker too.