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31 Oakland, CA Genderqueer, Gender Nonconforming, Non-binary, Two Spirit, Androgynous

Genderqueer, Gender Nonconforming, Non-binary, Two Spirit, Androgynous

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 24-34
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 19
Queer, Pansexual, Bisexual, Sapiosexual
Native American, Hispanic / Latin, Other, —
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Sign Language (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a GenderQueer militant organizer who is guided by love.
I am polyamorous but am not opposed to monogamy after all without consent it is not polyamory. Though at this moment only in theory as it is that I am Single Single.

If you are a Cis-gender (I include HomoNormative people here too) or White person who does not actively acknowledge your privilege, which is the bare-minimum, I suggest you stop reading now its probably not going to work out. If you do not know what Cis-Gender or (White, Male, Cis, Able)*-Privilege means then do not message me at all.

I have been described as cold and detached. Though i love deeply when i love and work for compassion and understanding.

I wanna meet cool folks! Also I am not 30.... but I do not give my age because I feel it ...

I am vicarious, vivacious, and vicious

I am not Attractive|Sexy|Beautiful|Handsome by the social standards, in fact only a very few of you find me to be such and its not generally for my looks at least not solely or not my body as whole. <-Some of you may find me to be exotic, some sort of strange creature to satisfy your (either homo/ hetero- sexual) fantasies from a safe distance and degree of security from the other.

Whichever the case. Do not worry I understand where you are coming from I do, after all I am product this same society that values submissive|fragile women which I am not and distant|violent men which I am not. I am too masculine to be feminine and to feminine to be masculine. Also to Fat to capitalize on the fashion|marketing industry instrumentation of the Androgynous image. Too Queer for any Binary

On the same vain (not vanity) as a Trans* Person of color I am Sexualized and most people think I am hyper sexual for this reason. I do talk openly about sex and sexuality with no reserve but let me suggest that its the former that gives people this perception. Quite simply people think that I am exotic|fetish therefor i have must have sex all the time... Which may or may not be those people wanting explore my exotic flesh...

...This however is not true... The following can also be applied to “Romantic” “Love”

It was brought to my attention that I have not had "Sex" in what is now going to be four years. Not that I need reminding since well I do very much enjoy sex thus I know when the last time I "had" "it" was. I have come close once or twice with one or more people with whom I would have really really like to engage sexually with but alas.

There have been many other opportunities that have presented themselves. Which I have deliberately not taken for several reasons.

Number one: I am not an object with which to fulfill any fantasies. I am not desperate for sex nor do I need it as validation.

Two: I pick who I sleep/fuck/sex/cuddle/make love with not the other way around. Assuming they, both singular or plural pick me too... and Yes only the Finest Quality of Humans/Aliens/ Queer Monsters will do.

Three: For me Sex is like a drug both metaphorically and Biologically it produces the chemicals that synthetic drugs like morphine are based off of. Which means that I need to be stable in terms of my emotions and in control of my desires and the reasons why I WANT.

Four: I understand the power of sex. It has the ability to dived alter and destroy relationships. As an "activist" or Queer the potential pool of partners is rather small, as activist of color or Queer people of color the pool shrinks even further. Thus I put aside my wants... I do not want to add to the Divide and Concur affects of the intentional or UnIntentional MACTIVIST.

Now back to me in the beginning I said that not Attractive|Sexy|Beautiful|Handsome by the social standards. By no means am I saying that is how I view myself, but I am not exempt from those standards. Not within myself or with how I see you. I have worked hard on my insecurities and trust issues. I am not near finished with this work after all it has been my life up until now to unlearn. More challenging is that it has been thought for generation now. This means that I still have my moments of insecurity which may be projected onto you.

Now to end this let me purpose the following. Lets talk about sex. If you want to experiment with me I am down lets do it. BUT YOU HAVE TO OWN IT.

Here are the rules: we recognize what its that we want and why we want it. You do not hide your actions or ask me to hide them for your sake or mine. No more veiling your sexually charged and explicit messages behind DRUNKENESS.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a student of life. That is what I am doing with my life. Join me if you want. I got nothing really, I live and die all at once. i mean i guess what i do have is love.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
What am I good at? I have excellent oral skills. And a magical shape-shifting penis. And far reaching fingers. A decent collection of sex toys. I don't know. making up random things that i am "GOOD AT" This is the stuff I can not answer.

I do not like to say I am really good at things i like to do certain things like dancing, Photography, Fixing bikes, RIDING my BIKE! and poetry to name a very few. You can tell me if you deem it good or not.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
"You have some fuckin' style. You are a really snappy dresser."
According to an old roommate when prompted this question.

my hair since its all over the place
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I do not do favorites. And my my if I listed them, it would be a very long list. If you like to read or watch movies, we have probably seen/read at least one of the same things.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love! Love for what? Just love.
Probably food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I often spend a lot of time about simply musing. Musing about the musings of others. The process of thinking itself I often spend time thinking on.

“As an act of bravery, love cannot be sentimental; as an act of freedom, it must not serve as a pretext for manipulation. It must generate other acts of freedom; otherwise it is not love." Pablo Freire

“What we say and what we do ultimately comes back to us so let us own our responsibility, place it in our hands, and carry it with dignity and strength.” Gloria Anzalndua

"i am wrong more often than I am right and even when I am right I am often wrong"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
You will probably find me on my way to some other city for some conference. Or secretly wanting to be persuaded to do something if the aforementioned is not occurring
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I urinated in a classroom once to prove a point. In a bucket. In the class. During class. To prove a point. Ask me about it.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you find me at all interesting. Even if you do not, you should still message me because you are thinking about it. That is, if you were thinking about it. Not to assume that you were thinking about it.
If you want to:
Get food
Go on a cheesy date
Want take me out on the town
want to talk