Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Engaging in playful banter with those around me i. e. family,
friends, restaurant staff, bored OkCupid browsers, etc. makes life
so much more fun for me. Those who know me casually think I'm a
playful, and amusing guy - and yes, I can be that in some
situations. Those who know me well however, will tell you I can
also be quiet and introspective - and that's true at times
I really am 58 years old, I got a divorce about three years ago,
after a very long marriage, and I have no children. I remained good
friends with my ex-wife until she passed away two years ago. I'm
fortunate to be able to mostly work from home (which is great!),
and I've been self-employed almost my entire adult life. I miss
being in a long-term relationship, except for with my cat (Bonnie),
and as talented as she is, she just doesn't get my sense of humor.
All she does is give me this look like: 'You talking to me? Well, I
don't see anyone else around here.' Purred with a Robert De Niro in
Taxi Driver accent. Yeah, I know, she's got big-time feline acting
chops. Now if I could just get her to improve a little on her
singing and dancing skills, she would be a triple-threat.
I'm an avid tennis fan, but I don't watch or follow any other
sports, or play video games. I would love to find a hiking partner
to explore the various local hiking trails with. By myself, I can
go days without turning on the TV, but I would very much enjoy
sitting by someone's side and watching shows or movies or whatever.
You could probably get me to do about anything by dangling the
appropriate carrot (men are sooo easy in that regard; it's really
appalling!). Me: "So, what would you like to do today, Baby Cakes?"
(I don't really use the term 'Baby Cakes' but it seems to work
here.) You: "Let's go spend the entire day shoe shopping, and then
later..." Trust me, I'll soon be headed out the door, car keys in
hand, a smile of anticipation on my naive face.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Just finishing the rough-draft of a manuscript; an amusing and
witty work of fiction - or so I'm told by those I pay regularly.
I'm currently sculpting a 24" Vitruvian Man (Leonardo da Vinci
drawing with four arms and four legs). I'm also interested in using
polymer clay to replicate the form and bright colors used in large
blown glass vases (blowing glass is a former hobby of mine). I
create digital artwork, using Photoshop with a pressure-sensitive
Wacom drawing tablet and a 30" monitor. Oh, and I love creating
artful home accessories and furnishings (functional art) - though a
number of years ago I 'lost' most of my major pieces - sad story,
best explained later.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a creative kind of guy, so in art and design areas, I pretty
much shine. Anything athletic has always been very easy for me to
excel at. I'm a Jack-Of-All-Trades and can handle most common tasks
quite easily. Whether it's configuring the latest electronic
gadget, reformatting a computer, or making minor household repairs.
And of course, if I don't quite know what I'm suppose to do, well,
I'm probably going to try and just fake it in front of you and hope
for the best - it's a guy thing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I seem to smile at people quite easily, and I don't even realize
I'm doing it. I may be out shopping, lost in thought, and as
someone approaches me, I see them smile at me, and I realize 'oh, I
must be smiling again.' It's kind of nice really, a silent bit of
pleasant communication between two strangers.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love business biographies, and have read extensively about most
of the established tech companies, and their founders. However, I
enjoy feeding my spiritual side too and just recently finished Soul
Survivor: The Reincarnation of a World War II Fighter Pilot. A
completely fascinating read!
I also really enjoy watching 'The Great Courses' DVDs. Have you
seen these? They are fabulous! The Roman Empire, Great Pharaohs of
Ancient Egypt, and Great Artists Of The Italian Renaissance, are
some of the ones I've watched recently - so many great courses, so
My all-time favorite movie is Good Will Hunting. I thought Fight
Club was amazing! Shawshank Redemption was sooo good too! An older
big-time favorite is The Graduate (Ben: "No, it's not. It's
completely baked.") I'm a Drama fan, but I'm not a black &
white classics kind of guy. Should I admit I like romantic
comedies? I do. My least favorite genre would be Fantasy, Science
Fiction is good - Foreign films, not so much.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Besides all the (really) important stuff i.e. family, friends,
love, happiness...yada, yada, yada:
... Art. I love being surrounded by beautiful pieces, whether I'm
creating them, arranging them, or buying them.
... Music. Especially while I'm out hiking in nature, I never wear
ear buds. I prefer to hang my phone on a lanyard (around my neck)
and I enjoy the tonal quality of the small speaker when it's close
to my ears like that.
... The Gym. Love doing cardio on the elliptical (daily), and
hitting the weight machines, but I'm not into the "free weights"
... Smart phone. Mine's an iPhone and I would feel completely
less-than-smart without it.
... 30" monitor. Size matters! Hooked up to my MacBook Air with a
bluetooth keyboard & touchpad and I'm happily good-to-go.
... Hiking. My favorite adage is: "Think Outside - No Box
Required." Plus, I find that hiking enables me to turn off my
over-active brain, and just be in-the-moment.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My days (and nights) all seem to blend together, probably because
I'm self-employed and work from home. I don't really focus on what
day it is, or even what time it is. An exception to that is I'm
always aware that the (Golden Eagle) access gate to hike the
Pleasanton Ridge closes at 6:30 PM. My iPhone alarm reminds me at
6:00 and I then decide: Am I going hiking tonight?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Don't know why, but I don't have any gray hair. Very odd at my age,
I know. I have been asked before if I "color" my hair...which makes
me a little self-conscious about it now. I could start adding some
gray coloring, I guess? Maybe I could get that 'distinguished' look
going? Hmm. Probably not.
You should message me if
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You should message me if: You want to earn a Gold Star! Yes, it's
really that simple. Wow, what a great reward, huh? Plus, you also
get the awesome feeling of courageous accomplishment! (I love that
Hmm, too much pressure? Can't think of what to say? No 'problemo' -
just rate my profile 4 or 5 stars and OkCupid will (not-so-slyly)
send me an email letting me know...and I'll do the rest. For that,
you will earn a Silver Star for 'Bravery' (of course, duh).
Who knew contacting a potential life-partner could be soooo much
fun? And rewarding too, because I don't just give out crappy "Bonus
Points" - I give out Stars!!! (that's just the way I roll....)
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