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30 San Francisco, CA Man


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  • Ages 21-39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 23
Open relationship
Relationship Type
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Doesn’t have kids
English, French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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The Bay Area is my fourth home in the last 7 years. Before this, I lived in London, D.C., and NYC, and before that I went to school in New England and grew up in and around Chicago. I think I'll be here a while, unlike the other places I've lived in since college. The people are nicer, the weather is better, and I found a job I really love. (I still can't settle on a place to live, though--I've had 5 apartments since moving here in 2011, spanning both SF and Oakland.)

I like going to concerts, exploring the city, reading, working out, and checking out new bars and restaurants. I've been playing a bit of tennis and doing car- and motorcycle-related stuff. I'm not a car or bike nut by any means, but I love learning new things (especially if it involves fixing stuff/DIY) and I like things that go fast.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working with startups, trying to build something interesting.

Outside of work I travel whenever I can (I visit London about twice a year), hit up art museums (favorite in NYC was either the New Museum or the Whitney; favorite in London was probably Tate Modern), read everything I can get my hands on (within reason), and teach myself things (e.g. building a computer, fixing my car, etc.).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Organizing information. Dragging my ass out of bed. Trying to do too much. Learning things.

Avoiding deer while riding a motorcycle. Keeping said motorcycle on the road after avoiding the aforementioned deer, not so much.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My voice is deeper than you'd expect.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: all over the map, but generally punk, indie, electronic music, and a smattering of hip hop (though obviously not limited to those genres). Recently: J Roddy Walston and the Business, Hard Girls, The Roots, Tove Lo, Restorations, Death From Above 1979, Christian Loffler, Claude VonStroke.

Books: lots. Representative nonfiction: tech/law/culture (e.g. "Remix"), race/politics (e.g. "The New Jim Crow"), econ/psych (e.g. "Thinking, Fast and Slow"), journalism/history (e.g. "And The Band Played On"), LGBT/sexuality (e.g. "Sex at Dawn"). Plenty of fiction too.
Favorite authors: Salinger, Kerouac, Diaz, Wolfe (Tom), Kesey, HST, DFW, Didion, and others.

Movies: I love Pixar movies, especially Up and Wall-E. I don't know why but I'm not particularly fond of the Toy Story sequels. Other favorite movies: La Haine, American History X, Rebel Without a Cause, Igby Goes Down, Half Nelson, Wristcutters: A Love Story, Brick, The Wrestler, Entre les Murs (aka The Class), Drive, The Lives of Others, Her.

I don't watch much TV, primarily because I don't own one or have Netflix. The last show I really got into was Archer, mainly because I love H. Jon Benjamin's characters.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- In-ear monitors (think headphone/earplug combination)
- Music (playing (drums), listening to, watching live)
- Plain t-shirts or henleys
- Physical activity (lifting, cycling, running, tennis, whatever)
- Adventure (hiking, either urban or in forests; travel; car racing totally counts here too)
- Books
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My next big project/goal. Currently: prepping a race car with friends; also, learning some programming/machine learning.

Aesthetics, memetics, and what makes specific works of art/literature/music/movies "great".

The distinction between gender and sex. Biases. Heterocentrism. Racism. Other isms. Straight white (cis-)male privilege.

Why OKCupid thinks I'm a 96%+ match for anyone with a strong preference for strict monogamy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out! I like seeing shows or checking out new bars and restaurants with friends. Or, if it's been a tiring week, in reading or watching a movie (and then going out Saturday after getting some rest).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't have a uvula.
You should message me if
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you don't take yourself too seriously, but are still motivated to do awesome things.