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urban_deer

42 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 27–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Oct 18
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Pacific Islander
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has a kid
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English, Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Time seems so finite at times that I get bummed out about how much I want to do. Friends, travel, learning, working- it's all just so interesting. On the other hand, the pleasure of sitting down and watching the world go by cannot be overstated.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a software engineer for a non-profit online library. I bike to work because being trapped in a car isn't that fun. I try to run a few times a week because physical activity helps me to think. I spend lots of time reading because books are such great objects. I tend to spend my holidays traveling abroad because the world is such a nifty place to explore.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I would be a decent triathlete if I could just work on my swim, but the ocean is full of weird things (both organic and inorganic). I can cook a pretty tasty vegetarian meal but will occasionally eat meat if it's exceptionally prepared. I can also discuss the value of Euripides' The Bacchae to western civilization and chew gum at the same time. I also know how to shut up and listen to other people.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm actually paying attention to what other people are saying.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Nabakov. Murakami. Howard Zinn. Raymond Carver. Paul Theroux. Rilke. Blake. Euripides. Graham Green. Paul Bowles. Bill Bryson.

John Coltrane. The National. Gillian Welch. Dengue Fever. Diplo. Black Star. Nick Drake. The Rosebuds. Balkan Beat Box. Wilco. Belle and Sebastian. Bright Eyes. Calexico. Arcade Fire. Verdi. Interpol. Johnny Cash. Miles Davis. Mumford & Sons. Silversun Pickups. Puccini. I enjoy everything from Indie Rock to Hip-Hop to Opera to Bluegrass.

The Third Man. Before Sunrise. Love Actually. Vertigo. The Cook The Thief His Wife and Her Lover. Shaun of the Dead.

A perfectly ripe, summer peach. Pie. Dosas. Fish Tacos. Sushi. Udon. Patatas Bravas.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Bicycle.
Laptop. Ugh.
Bookshelves.
Guitar. Although I'm terrible at it.
My Passport.
Friends and Family.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Crawling the web from an automated software viewpoint.
The Eurozone and how it may affect the US.
Which books I should get rid of. Which books I need to acquire.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends or at home torturing the dog with my terrible music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
...probably depends on how many glasses of wine.
You should message me if
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You feel like chatting about books, music, current events. Want to discuss the merits of Puccini vs Verdi? Doña Tomas vs Taco Trucks? Why Buffy the Vampire Slayer is a far more compelling feminist hero than Bella from Twilight? Aero bars vs Drops? I just like hearing from people who are passionate about things that are important to them.