First let me say that I am looking for a man who is the monogamous type. He (you) is not in an intimate relationship (of any kind) with anyone else now. And if we connect, this man will want to and be able to stay monogamous in our life together.
It seems to me that the culture of dating has changed significantly with the ease of keeping many people interested. The Internet has created this sense of "let's go shopping." So we never get the chance to slowly work on a relationship.
In my life, relationships have developed over time from friendships. There is nothing sexier to me than trusting someone. And learning how to think as a couple while maintaining independence from each other. That said, I have been "swept away" for months at a time with someone after feeling that instant click. It's a hard call.
I'm a college professor teaching digital media to mostly graduate students. I've written a few books on this subject, of interest to academics for the most part.
I balance my life with friends, lots of cultural and outdoor activities, and time to think while walking. I love Manhattan most of the time. I'm a Canadian Jewish woman who also appreciates nature-- mountains, forests, ocean, and wilderness-- as well as serious and fun cultural events with friends. A lot of my friends are artists who balance my career. I love to paint and am a pretty good videographer, editor, and designer. I also love to dance jazz, zumba, whatever I can! I think more clearly after a hike or a yoga class which I adore beyond words. I feel all smooth and fresh, calm and happy.
Fantasies? Maybe two homes-- one in southern Europe. One close to the coastline in Canada or the US. And NYC to play in, regularly! A partner who loves to travel and live in different countries to experience the place fully. Someone with a joie de vivre and patience for the difficult situations that come along. Warm, gentle and strong, FUNNY at times, and who appreciates every day as a gift. Or, should I say, who makes every day a gift!
That's it for now. If you are interested in these kinds of things and love animals, yes, cats too, then let me know!
And please remember, I don't respond to anyone who is not able to live a happy life with one person.
Bye for now!