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45 • Providence, RI • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 33–50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Online now!
- 5′ 8″ (1.73m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Strictly vegetarian
- Buddhism, but not too serious about it
- Graduated from masters program
- Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
- Likes dogs and has cats
- English (Fluently), Finnish (Okay), German (Poorly)
I've bounced around a bit in the past decade or so. I lived in NYC for most of the 2000s, moved to England to get a Masters in 2008 in Bristol, moved to London in 2012 and then jumped back to NYC after my ex and I agreed to split up at the end of that year. The move to Providence was prompted by a job offer. I'm doing IT for a local university, which has been great for me getting back on my feet financially after the breakup and the move overseas, but at the end of this year I am eagerly anticipating a transition back to archaeological work.
And while I'm a shit Buddhist, I do keep on working at it and have gotten better at practicing loving kindness in my daily life, although I'm nowhere near where I'd like to be.
Oh, and I have ascended in Nethack a few times. @
Played and Love: Fiasco, Monster Hearts (although I am utterly over playing it cold with folks at cons), Cthulhu Invictus, Prime Time Adventures, Dogs in the Vineyard, Heroine, Nordic Larp, American Jerkform, Microscope, Lady Blackbird, Witch: The Road to Lindesfarne, Urban Shadows, Dungeon World, Carolina Death Crawl, Grey Ranks, My Life with Master, Sagas of the Icelanders, Dog Eat Dog
Want to Play: The Clay that Woke, Steal Away Jordan, Night Witches, Dark, Dreamhounds of Paris, De Profundis, Afrofuture
Steven Universe, Buckaroo Banzai, AtLA, Legend of Korra, The Tick, Aoi Hana, Shoujo Kakume Utena, Zero Effect, Ultraman, Muppets, Babylon 5, Oglaf, One Way, Hark! A Vagrant, O Human Star
Dhalgren, Stars in My Pocket Like Grains of Sand, Love and Rockets (the comics), Kraken, The Privilege of the Sword, Earth Logic, Use of Weapons, Ancillary Justice/Sword, Hip Hop Family Tree, Lumberjanes
Emma Goldman, China Mieville, Samuel R. Delany, Robert Sawyer, N.K. Jemisin, Nnedi Okorafor, Umberto Eco, Italo Calvino, Vladimir Nabokov, Jane linskold, Gilbert & Jaime Hernandez, Kurt Busiek, Lauren Faust, Osamu Tezuka, Diane Duane, Alison Bechdel, Kate Beaton, Ian M. Banks, Nina Paley
Billy Bragg, Woody Guthrie, 2NE1, Stereopony, Trip Shakespeare, Shonen Knife, Hevisaurus, Girlyman, Alabama Shakes, Arthur Lee & Love, Sixto Rodruiguez, Morphine, Robyn Hitchcock, Annette Henshaw
Also, musically, I have discovered that Spotify playlists of 80s New Wave make EVERYTHING better.
I'm less concerned myself about polyamory vs. monagamy. I've been in both sorts of relationships in the past and I've been fine with both. I'd tend to lean toward the monagamous in practice. My last relationship, of 13 years, was technically polyamorous, but neither of us acted on that, so in practice we were monogamous.
I've also dwelt a lot on what I really want in a partner should I end up in a committed relationship again. I'd love to have a partner who I didn't just live with or spend time with, but with whom I was engaged in some sort of active collaboration. That could involve writing, gaming, dancing or building a blacksmithing forge together. Or it could be something I've never even thought of that you're into. That was something my last relationship foundered on. We never were very good working together.
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