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44 Providence, RI Man


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Strictly vegetarian
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Finnish (Okay), German (Poorly)

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What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've been living in Providence for a year and some change now. It's a nice little city, but I haven't really developed any roots here, as I spent most of last year on work and academics. I've got more time for recreation this year, though, and I intend to make the most of it.

I've bounced around a bit in the past decade or so. I lived in NYC for most of the 2000s, moved to England to get a Masters in 2008 in Bristol, moved to London in 2012 and then jumped back to NYC after my ex and I agreed to split up at the end of that year. The move to Providence was prompted by a job offer. I'm doing IT for a local university, which has been great for me getting back on my feet financially after the breakup and the move overseas, but at the end of this year I'm expecting to transition back to archaeological work.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm good at troubleshooting and I'm good with a mattock. If you need a few square meters of clay hacked out of the ground, come find me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Oh, it's shibboleth time! Well, then. I keep hearing from friends that they actually find interesting people by searching for the absolutely nerdiest things that they're into, and so I shall simply seed this space with search bait. Below are a number of games, bands, movies and what have you that I dearly love for one reason or another. I'm not trying to be hipster obscure here, just hoping to attract nerds of a feather. Especially with the gaming stuff, if you recognize things, you'll probably get a good idea of where I'm coming from and my place in the taxonomy of nerds (and it's not a hierarchical kind of taxonomy, mind, so feel free to enjoy whatever you enjoy!)

Fiasco, Monster Hearts (although I am utterly over playing it cold with folks at cons), Cthulhu Invictus, Prime Time Adventures, Dogs in the Vineyard, Heroine, Nordic Larp, American Jerkform, Microscope, Lady Blackbird, Witch: The Road to Lindesfarne, Urban Shadows, Dungeon World, Carolina Death Crawl, Grey Ranks, My Life with Master, Sagas of the Icelanders

Buckaroo Banzai, AtLA, Legend of Korra, The Tick, Aoi Hana, Shoujo Kakume Utena, Zero Effect, Ultraman, Muppets, Babylon 5, Oglaf

Dhalgren, Stars in My Pocket Like Grains of Sand, Love and Rockets (the comics), Kraken, The Privilege of the Sword, Earth Logic, Use of Weapons, Ancillary Justice/Sword

Emma Goldman, China Mieville, Samuel R. Delany, Robert Sawyer, N.K. Jemisin, Nnedi Okorafor, Umberto Eco, Italo Calvino, Vladimir Nabokov, Jane linskold, Gilbert & Jaime Hernandez, Kurt Busiek, Lauren Faust, Osamu Tezuka, Diane Duane, Alison Bechdel, Kate Beaton, Ian M. Banks, Nina Paley

Billy Bragg, Woody Guthrie, 2NE1, Stereopony, Trip Shakespeare, Shonen Knife, Hevisaurus, Girlyman, Alabama Shakes, Arthur Lee & Love, Sixto Rodruiguez, Morphine, Robyn Hitchcock, Annette Henshaw
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well, apropos of having a profile here, I've thought a lot about what I'm looking for in a potential partner. One thing that worked really well in my last relationship is that we were both bisexual, and my strong preference for any romantic relationships going forward is that any partners I'd have would neither identify as fully straight nor gay, and that's one reason why I prefer OKC over a lot of other dating sites as it is a good bit easier to navigate this preference here, although I do wish there were some features that made it easier.

I'm less concerned myself about polyamory vs. monagamy. I've been in both sorts of relationships in the past and I've been fine with both. I'd tend to lean toward the monagamous in practice, I'd say. My last relationship, of 13 years, was technically polyamorous, but neither of us acted on that, so in practice we were monogamous.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm probably at home with the cats, either catching up on one of the shows I watch regularly or doing homework. My times out of the house tend to occur on a Saturday or a Sunday. That's not a hard and fast rule, though.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Message me if you like. As per above, if you're straight or gay, you're not someone I'm going to be interested in romantically or make-outily, but hanging out over beers and squeeing over the current season of Korra? Sure!