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userofakind

47 M Minneapolis, MN

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:41am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of Ph.D program
Job
Management
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I want to be with a woman who knows what she values and actively pursues those things but is also equally capable of investing emotionally in someone else with his own values, even if quite different. I find the potential reward for that lies in the paradox of discovering common values together that you never knew were there. My vision of an ideal relationship is one of mutual respect and interest for each other, even if it means embracing great differences. It is this ability to invest in someone who is different than you are that I find to be a rare and important quality. Perhaps this sounds strange, but somehow just knowing that this characteristic is present in a person, even if she is very similar to me, makes me intensely attracted to her. It has something to do with being willing to take big risks for an emotional connection.

I am a very open minded guy who, at the same time, is not completely disconnected from traditional ideas. I tend to welcome unlikeness with spirited curiosity and even feel that it can add a lot of depth to a relationship. The world, in my view, seems to have much fear of what is perceived to be significant differences between people, nations, religions, and food. If you prefer diversity and tolerance over judgment, then I would love to meet you! Also if you don't have contempt for the intellect, that would be good.

I've always felt a little funny about the term "Dating." Rather, I prefer to just go out and enjoy things with people as friends. If something more intimate develops, great. Whether you're on a date or not, that just seems to happen in any case if it's right. I don't get too hung up on etiquette and the particulars of how to treat a woman, because that's different for every woman. I am more interested in understanding and respecting the individual preferences of the person that I am with and showing her that I care about her desires.

In my view, humility and intelligence go hand in hand. I get excited when I find this combination in anybody.
What I’m doing with my life
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I have been extremely lucky in my professional and academic life and have enjoyed the opportunities it has given me. I was a director of a large architecture firm in India for close to five years; I just moved back to Minneapolis now where my family and great friends are living. Before India, I was at MIT doing research on special technologies for the arts. I designed the set of a high profile, contemporary opera. So that's the kind of thing that I've been into.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
-- Supporting those who keep screwing up! :)
-- Tolerating terrible travel conditions throughout the world.
-- Answering questions with concision and then expanding exhaustively on that...
-- Listening and talking when people want to listen and shutting up when they don't; in other words: conversation.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I get noticed for my conversational acrobatics as well as my charitable contributions to discussions which are barely alive on emergency life-support.

People notice that I pay a lot of attention to them, which perhaps makes it particularly noticeable when I don't.

Others tend to notice my interest in people. I really enjoy observing and understanding what makes other people tick, even if they couldn't give a shit about what makes me tick.

Last but not least, I get noticed for my patience.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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MUSIC: Western Classical, and now more recently Indian Classical music; Electronica, some Trance; Squarepusher, Ricard Strauss, Bach, Steve Reich; 1970s Symphonic Prog: Groups like Genesis, Jethro Tull, EMP; progressive Jazz; not much into TV.
BOOKS:
Recent reads include: Selected Poems by Hermann Hesse; A Canticle for Liebowitz by Walter Miller; Painting with Light by John Alton
FILM:
I love many old and foreign films from people like Ingmar Bergman, Stanley Kubrick, Felini. I have made films myself and tend to prefer film art rather than film as entertainment. But that's a typical filmmaker position. Anything from James Cameron is always good entertainment. :)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Lists. I love lists of all kinds, favorite lists, all time greatest lists, best of... you get the picture.
2) Cheese. Even the smelly stuff. I acquired this desperate need from the French.
3) My two kids. I don't exist without them.
4) Spell checkors :)
5) My Steinway... and my father's Steinway
6) Outside-the-box thinking, from anybody who can do it
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Knowledge, and how we can really know anything...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing anything but typical.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I fabricated another profile on this site which represents me when I was an insolent, angry, insecure, egotistical know-it-all teenager. After all, there were no Internet social sites when I was a teenager. I was curious if anybody would like that person. To my great surprise, some did.
You should message me if
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