Polyamorous genderqueer. Sex-positive feminist. I generally prefer that which could be called feminine. It's this capitulation to the patriarchy that I spend much time worrying about.
What I’m doing with my life
Tofu management. Loving, creating, consciously consuming, empathising, ruminating, unlearning, laughing. I'm a cook and my creativity is mostly channeled into the food I make.
I’m really good at
Wearing your clothes. Being étrange.
The first things people usually notice about me
Ink and my heels.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My favourite queens are Jinkx Monsoon, Alaska Thunderfuck, Adore Delano, Katya, Courtney Act and Milk.
Did you know that Rutger Hauer completely rewrote the Tears in Rain monologue from Blade Runner the night before the shoot? Neither did I. I've just discovered Auster and read The Red Notebook. Now I'm starting to notice all these coincidences in my life and I keep waiting from a phone call from someone claiming to be me.
I didn't use to be interested in horror but ever since my friend made me aware of how horror is about the Self and not the Other, my favourite movies are 'Ringu' (the original 'Ring') and David Robert Mitchell's 'It Follows'.
The six things I could never do without
There's a story about how when Budai (the laughing buddha) was asked by a follower what the meaning of Zen was, he simply dropped the sack that contained all his belongings to the ground. When he was asked how to practise Zen, he took up the sack again.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Dust motes in a shaft of the afternoon sunlight coming through a friend's window in Singapore in the early 2000s. Reducing consumption and voluntary human extinction. Menus you can't click on. Roko's basilisk.
On a typical Friday night I am
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
How I once dislocated my knee.
You should message me if
You want to hang out and talk about transcendental food experiences or perhaps you're polyamorous. Please don't use polyamory as your only reason, though. As my friend helpfully observed, it's like saying you're messaging someone just because they're straight.