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valuska

41 M Milwaukee, WI

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:38am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Sagittarius
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Sales / Marketing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I've been rather reluctant to enter into the 21st Century. Ideal milieu would be sitting in my study writing a letter, on paper, to a friend. (Step 1: Acquire a study, Step 2: Acquire friends.) I tend to be cerebral, though not necessarily logical. Sensitive, yet not touchy. I value "vertical experience" -- depth and mindful of events and incidents, not merely the sheer number of activities. I value compassion, empathy, maturity, intimacy, affection, humor, curiosity, the ability to contextualize, and the ability to love.

I'm usually willing and able to do or try most things. I can be an inattentive driver, and prefer walking to steering. I will try and follow a train of thought as long as possible, and if I should reach the end of the hallway I'll simply turn around and walk that idea/image back down to the other end.

I am intelligent, self-conscious, and wondering.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working for a used bookstore the past twelve years.

Deciding when/whether to get back to the University and finish up that degree in film writing or editing. Both involve cognition and creativity, a realm I inhabit well.

Soul work.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Living inside my head.
Pacing.
Noticing.
Spontaneous dancing. (Fun to do, horrifying to witness.)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Maybe that I'm looking off to the middle-distance, which seems to be my default expression when considering something or someone.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I am a hopeless cinephile, an ardent student of film as art and craft, and spend a good deal of time watching and reading about movies. My longitude/latitude of film scholarship are Robin Wood and David Bordwell, the crossroad being where Form and Meaning intersect. My aesthetic wonderland of choice would be the 1970s. I marvel as Delphine Seyrig prepares dinner for three-and-a-half hours in JEANNE DIELMAN, and cry when Bill Murray goes jogging with Chris Makepeace in MEATBALLS.

On the fiction front: Laszlo Krasznahorkai's THE MELANCHOLY OF RESISTANCE, Milan Kundera's IMMORTALITY, Nizos Kazantzakis' THE LAST TEMPTATION OF CHRIST, Ian McEwan's THE CEMENT GARDEN. Plus, GATSBY and SLAUGHTERHOUSE-FIVE.
Non-fiction: HOLLYWOOD FROM VIETNAM TO REAGAN by Robin Wood, ON THE HISTORY OF FILM STYLE by David Bordwell, DREAMS OF CHAOS,VISIONS OF ORDER by James Peterson, RE-VISIONING PSYCHOLOGY by James Hillman, THE DREAD OF DIFFERENCE edited by Barry Keith Grant.

(Can't seem to find the italics key on this mofo, so upper-case it is.)

Musically, I seem to have tuned out once Michael McDonald left The Doobie Brothers so, yes, I'm mostly stuck in the 70s and 80s: Stevie Wonder, Sir Hall & Sir Oates, T. Rex, Blondie, Television, Steely Dan, Electric Light Orchestra, Barry Gibb, Paul Simon, Echo & his Bunnymen, REM, The Smiths, Fleetwood Mac, John Denver, ABBA, Tangerine Dream, Paul Williams, Giorgio Moroder...and Sam Cooke.

And I'm always on the lookout for a sushi buddy!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. close readings
2. autumn
3. cherry licorice
4. The Criterion Collection
5. my eyeglasses
6. cuddling
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
*Whether an honest sense of community is actually possible.
*How repellent and lazy contemporary movie poster design has become.
*Taking an uninflected concept, framework or image and placing it over another...then watching the fireworks.
*Combining my love of Elliot Gould with my fixation on men's facial hair into one grandiose fetishism.
*A canopy of clouds, a touch of frost.
*How to get my butt in gear.
*Exile. (The feeling/act, not the band.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Maker's Mark, mates and/or movies.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can listen to "Never My Love" by The Association 38 times in a row.
You should message me if
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There is an image, concept, dynamic, or archetype that really resonates with you. It gets inside you, feels electric, sad, nostalgic...makes your eyes go wide and your heart swim backwards.