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  • Ages 26–40
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My self-summary
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"There's the story, then there's the real story, then there's the story of how the story came to be told. Then there's what you leave out of the story. Which is part of the story too."

-Margaret Atwood
What I’m doing with my life
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When I lived in Vancouver I was running an experimental theatre and movement group. We focused on individual and community healing through art.

I'm in SF now doing my Master's in blah blah blah.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
grimly mocking my surroundings
caring about fictional characters
making art using only people's bodies
feeling comfortable in my own body
questioning the legitimacy of the nation-state
being warm and open
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
colourful clothing
animated facial expressions
speaking even when my voice shakes
sitting on the floor
that I've taken off my shoes

some fucking dick passing me on the street the other day felt totally comfortable sharing his opinion about my body and made a derogatory comment about my "kangaroo pouch"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Leonard Cohen


The New Yorker
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
sitting with a group of people in a circle

underlining things in books (I started taking pictures of all the things I've been underlining over the years and it's turned into a really cool, random, profound, silly, neat little thing that I have no idea what to do with)

reading out loud (giving and receiving)

that little bit of bum that hangs out the bottom of a pair of shorty shorts

social justice

liminal space
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to live here on relatively recently colonized land in a sane and respectful way.


Dancing in sweaty basements;

Sex and how to combine the sacred with the filthy

Why all the authors people list on OKCupid are men

Mystical poetry from the 13th century;
The spectrum between mental health and mental illness;
The politics of body hair;

The next time I can be in a body of water;

Bodily fluids;
How to maintain a regular meditation practice;
Aamer Rahman;
Celebrity gossip;
The military and prison industrial complexes;
The amazing work of Michelle Alexander
How to tell our stories without words;
Trees in the city and if they're suffering;
Kendrick Lamar;

how to slow the fuck down
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I used to have a big long list of Bourdieu-ian cultural capital listed on here but then one night I came home drunk and was all "Leonard Cohen and Beetlejuicefngjktnj! That's it!"
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for the expected and the unexpected reasons