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vbplayr2010

42 M Pāhoa, HI

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 34–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
May 27
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, Japanese (Poorly), German (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I guess this will just become a rolling summary that can show a progression as time moves on. It gives some context and hopefully a better picture.

******UPDATE********
I have returned to the bay to "settle" for a while. It's been a fun and adventuresome couple of years, but I am enjoying being near family again. I've still got the wanderlust, but for now I'm going to make my circles much smaller. :-)
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I had been a full-time "technomad", or geographically displaced professional. I traveled full time via a small rv / motorcycle. I have been enjoying this lifestyle for a couple of years now, and had planned to continue for the foreseeable future. However, I missed the bay and seeing my family regularly.

The couple of years have taught me many lessons, most important of which, is to keep an open mind and to enjoy the ride. Life is full of wonderful opportunity and nature and people can be so beautiful.

I've lived many different 'lives'. I've been blue collar, military, and white collar. I've learned 3 languages and have forgotten most of what I learned (Japanese, Spanish, and German). I've lived on three continents and have traveled the world doing my passion (part time), which was volleyball.

Community service is very important to me. I've worked with Habitat for Humanity, Earthcorps, SeattleWorks, Young Professionals of Seattle, etc., etc. Future plans include some time doing volunteer gardening, youth mentorship, and whatever else may present itself.

I have many interests and lately have been doing a lot of motorcycle touring, backpacking, hiking, and camping. I love the outdoors and enjoy the discoveries made on a road trip. I am comfortable in all environments, from black tie affairs to backyard bbq's.

I see so many references in people's profiles asking for honesty, integrity, loyalty, etc. This is amazing to me. Why is this such a rare commodity? I approach everyone with the same level of trust and with integrity. I always assume the best in others, which I have learned makes me naive and vulnerable. However, I would not have it any other way. I do not want to live a life of fear and caution and doubt about those I interact with. I will, of course, be a bit more selective from now on, but I will still always extend trust and faith in others. I am looking for someone who can do the same.

I prefer responses that are thoughtful and show depth and give me something to build a conversation upon. A response of "nice pic", or "nice eyes", etc. give me very little to work with and tell me nothing about you.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Discovery! (Of self and others)

I've spent the last couple years working and traveling all over the country. I've expanded my horizons and have had experiences I wouldn't have contemplated previously.

I have a master's degree in IT project management and spend a lot of days with my nerd hat on. I enjoy technology, but want to move to something that takes greater advantage of my passion for people and communications.

Current activities include web development jobs, business analyst consulting, and e-book writing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
This section is a bit awkward to address, but generally, I am good at whatever I set my mind to do. One of the talents I'm most proud of is the ability to adapt and to solve problems creatively.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Most people immediately comment on my eyes or my smile. How calm and laid back I am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Favorite books: Any of George Carlin's books, The Four Agreements, 1984, God's Middle Finger, Jack Keruoac - On the Road, Dharma Bums, Hunter S. Thompson, Michael Pollan, Whitman, Thoreau....any good book really.

Favorite movies: 180* South, Fight Club (not because of the fighting, but the psychology and anti-consumer message), Monty Python (any of them), Old School, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Into the Wild, Pulp Fiction, etc., etc.

Music: Radiohead, Blur, The Flaming Lips, Bach, Marilyn Manson, Ella Fitgerald, Blues, Bluegrass, Jazz, a wide array of music....

Food: I love all types of food, but sushi, Mexican, and Thai are probably the top of the list. Contemplating a "raw" diet...but will have to give a little room for a "cheat"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family, friends, food, water, my phone, internet connection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time thinking (period). It can be about anything, but a lot of self reflection, a lot of how to be better and how to help others be better.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't really go out, but on a Friday night (as of late), I am probably hanging out with my brothers or some other family. I also just might be found out at a campsite somewhere ready for a big hike the next morning.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Let's leave some mystery.....but all you have to do is ask.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I was made aware that I don't state what I'm looking for in a match. This conversation with a concerned friend sums it up:

Friend:
Ok, so I'm neediing some conversation here. What is your view of a perfect partner? Seriously.

Me:

A perfect partner is someone that accepts you for you...but doesn't. Meaning, they love you for who you are today without regard to who you used to be or who you might become. However, they wish for a life of growth together.

The perfect partner challenges, or better yet, inspires you to be a better person. Ideally, they don't do this through intimidation, or chastisement, or control, but by example.

A perfect partner is fun, can laugh at you AND laugh at themselves.

A perfect partner is intellectually curious and always hungry to learn.

A perfect partner is smart and knows what they know while completely accepting how much more there is to learn, I.e. not a "know-it-all"

A perfect partner is healthy in every sence of the word, spiritually, emotionally, and least important, physically (only because it must be recognized that health fails and we all eventually succumb to Nature).

A perfect partner is sexy, just has that look, that smile, those eyes, or whatever it is that just makes your blood boil.

A perfect partner is there. Period.

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If you like any of the following and are willing to meet and have a good conversation:

Volleyball, mountain biking, hiking ,camping, rock climbing, art, photography, sculpture, community service, reading, challenging self and others, Boxers, Real Time with Bill Maher, beach, mountains, healthy living, espresso, sushi, baguet w/havarti, chocolate-peanut butter ice cream, Pinot Noir, Henry David Thoreau, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Flight of the Conchords