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ventisquero

41 Birmingham, UK Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 14
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Education
Job
Law
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a commercial [public sector procurement] lawyer with a sense of humour. My job's my[...]

There should be a "What I'm not looking for..." question.

I don't (want to) understand people who think "travelling" makes them interesting when they haven't the wit to explore the potential of what's in front of them. [All things bright & beautiful: there's more on heaven and earth than travel philosophy]

"Polyamorous" is right up there with "travelling" you wild, adventurous characters. [But is something lost as well as gained in poly? Which do I value more? For now?]

[Female peeps] who write thousands of words about themselves ("I'm rubbish at talking about myself" [Reflexive? Tee hee]) and end with words to the effect "nutters [male peeps/me] need not apply" Apply?!!! You're on a free to air dating site. [There's no reason to feel insecure with me if you're prepared to find a place that's safe for you and talk, and persevere - at least a bit.]

[Don't upset] yourself. [Polite enquiry: h]ow come is it that according to [seemingly so many of] your answers so many of you bisexual females "never have and never would" have sex with a woman? [Can't have both or what am I missing?!?? Want to know *stamps foot* Might be useful:) I'm a lawyer, you can trust me...in the morning;]

I'm a good listener and thoughtful. [sometimes]
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working with people and living alone. [Sort of. *inscrutable face*]

[Not being stubborn. Live my life by it;]

[Learning to listen and process. Really! I'm nearly 40!! Sobriety has been good to me and is a gift that keeps giving. Not pious or holy abt it though.]
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Saving other people money. Wordsmithery. [Sitting on my arse]
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I can be obnoxious. [don't like to be though. Learning & practicin. Practicing & learnin]
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Cleva books that make me laugh. Should I list them to prove how sophisticated and erudite I am? Nah. [I decide how I feel and choose accordingly. More a (written) media/journalist peep than bookworm or scholar in truth. Quality over quantity though.]

Four Lions is one of the funniest and certainly the bravest film I've seen. Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy was disappointing... Not been to the movies since joining OKC... [Update: thought Bond v derivative but liked Boune Legacy, Hobbit ok (didn't like book), Pi disappointing (lived book), Lincoln I left early etc etc]

[Haven't seen, and would certainly like to, the new Gatsby. At a loose end anyhow. See what laughingly passed for my job!!]

Musically, "The melody chord unwinds me..." [And Jake Bugg.]
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
3 would be: family, opportunity & sleep.[security, learning, reflexivity - and I need much less sleep these days;]

[Looking at the above it appears I value principally security & change. Do you think these values conflict with each other?]
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Other people - including you [#lol] xx

[& work. Who doesn't, right?]

[Right now? Shiny new kit] [amongst other things]

[Me:)] [And talkin abt myself. Person-centred, see? Believe me if I get going, you having nothing to say won't be the problem..;]

I will take all the square brackets out of this profile eventually but it's helpful with my recovery at the moment and old habits... I am a lawyer (natural born one too:) And I'll complete de-personalising the pejorative language if you like:))
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In bed with a glass of orange juice and ...[my phone;]
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
You will have guessed that ventisquero [wine I was drinking at the time: red Chilean merlot I think] is not my real name and that I'm a shy guy.

[But discovered/remembered my 'extrovert' side and my voice during counselling with an insightful, compassionate professional peep. (I call her #yoda;)]

[I'm a recovering alcoholic and I originally wrote this profile while still drinking.

[I hope to set a more optimistic example to other vulnerable (alcoholic) peeps [as I did not remember having one to look to].]

[Twitter: @LouisTrimble911 (Not my name either!): F Scott Fitzgerald, The Lost Decade. FB?] [Just ask if you'd like to know my name - oh come on Dan, that's lame..;]

[I have shiny new kit syndrome. Working on it.:]
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are sincere; [compassionate?]

You bought your phone without using your dad's money;]

You know who I am; [and;/]or,[(joint&several:)]

You know I won't always catch you if you fall.

[What's this all abt? Don't upset yourself and get defensive;) Get secure instead, talk abt it - when you're ready, where it's safe for you to do so... ] http://www.newstatesman.com/lifestyle/2012/03/okcupid-users-data-dating

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