I am not religious, nor do I moralize, but I do have a strong ethical code. I don't lie, I don't cheat, and I only steal from the rich to give to the poor :-)
I read voraciously, and have a plethora of interests, particularly political and social history. Growing up as a lonely only child, I'm very comfortable and confident on my own, but I light up in the right company. I prefer small, intimate gatherings where one can really talk and connect - the best, of course, happen when I am talking all night on a beach with just one special person. And I'm very mature - probably because of growing up by myself.
The outdoors are very important to me. I sea kayak, rock climb, trail run, backpack, hike and snowshoe, and am on my boat, on a rock wall or running on the trail every day of the week. I'm not a thrill-seeker, but I do tend to push myself - which might explain why I've had to be rescued by the Coast Guard twice while paddling in exceptionally rough conditions :-)
Although I enjoy human powered exploration of the outdoors, I'm not a big fan of travel - and that, I realize, sets me apart from most of the people here :-)
My most recent ex described me as "uncomplicated" and "stable" ... I never let my quest to better myself detract from my enjoyment of where and who I am today. I have few fears, believe in striving rather than hoping, and chase my dreams passionately without letting my happiness depend on achieving those dreams.
Never getting stressed. There's nobody better to be by your side when the chips are down.
Planning, making sure that the i's are dotted and the t's are crossed - while leaving room for spontaneity.
Surprising your friends - and mine - with how easily I can converse with them on the most esoteric of topics, from Stalin's indifference to the plight of the partisans in the Warsaw Uprising to the ins and outs of Californication (and I don't even have a TV!)
And, finally, how comfortable I seem to be in my skin.
Oh, and possessiveness and insecurity are foreign concepts to me.
If I had to create a list, I'd say I want somebody who is:
- passionate about something in their life
- fit, athletic and an athlete (and looks it)
- doesn't want (more) kids
- NOT into stuff (i.e., not acquisitive or defined by lots of expensive possessions)
- clean living, not a big partier (inconsistent with an athletic lifestyle)
- sexually open and experimental, although not overly into fetishes
- non-smoker, non-drug-user, at most a light drinker
- and (yes, I can be a little shallow), with a cute and well-rounded butt
And with whom I have chemistry ... which is always hard to pin down ...