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32 M Philadelphia, PA

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5′ 9″ (1.76m)
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Catholicism, and laughing about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
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Relationship Type
English, French (Fluently), German (Okay), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
After a little break this is my second time around on here. I’m “reinventing” myself with a new profile name! (*canned television applause*) Picking a dating site profile name is the worst. People read into everything. So I went with a random Latin word that refers to some kind of plant.

All in all I’m a pretty happy person and I’m enjoying my life in Philly. I moved here two years ago after graduate school in New York. I miss New York, but don’t love that Philly lives in its shadow. I guess that’s the blessing and curse of Philly: “Thank god Philly is not New York!” and “Ugh, Philly, it’s not New York.”

But I have a great group of friends here and live in cozy little house (with a fireplace that is for lovers) and since I actually found a professor job (*victory horns*) I feel pretty stable and settled and stuff. I’ve been trying to find the right someone for a couple of years now, after a long term relationship. The okcupid thing has been okay. I’ve met some great people. My philosophy is, "slow and steady wins the race." (This is also my sexual philosophy. Just kidding! Maybe. Geez, take me out for a drink first.)
What I’m doing with my life
I do stuff that professors do, at Temple. I teach and do research and waste my time at committee meetings. I study mass media and Europe (France and Germany mostly) and national and transnational identity and stuff like that.
I’m really good at
Talking. Thinking. Sleeping in. Cuddling (while sleeping in).

Reading books. Reading about books. Movies. Talking about movies. Reading about movies. Reading about movies about books.

Eating and drinking wine. Skiing (in snow). Traveling (usually to Europe; or home to Chicago; or to northern New Mexico, where the air smells like pine needles. Zoning out at the gym. Walking for a long time around the city. Sitting on the porch and drinking scotch with my friends. Running. Writing academicky things (I actually enjoy this, sometimes). Yoga.

and long walks on the beach (*canned television applause*)
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm "young looking" to be a professor. Also, people ask about my ethnicity a lot. I'm mostly Polish/Italian, but people guess all kinds of stuff which usually means that they are racist.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Anything by Ian McEwan. Dave Eggers. Michael Chabon. Louise Erdrich. Jonathan Lethem. (can’t you just extrapolate from here?) Also, Harry Potter and The Interestings and David Sedaris.

Almodóvar, Bergman, Kubrick, Kar-Wai, Al Hitchcock, Frank Truffaut, Werner Herzog, Jean Rouch, Let the Right One In, Clue, Cry Woman, To Live, House of Yes, Ikiru, Through a Glass Darkly, We Need to Talk about Kevin (anything w Tilda Swinton), Bombay, Amour, Cinema Paradiso, The 400 Blows, Scream, All About Eve, The Lives of Others, Breakfast Club...

classical (Beethoven's 7th, Dvorak, Mozart's Requiem, Philip Glass, The Magic Flute, also: ballet) but also jazz, Rihanna, Dixie Chicks, The National, Magnetic Zeros, Radiohead, Beirut, Robyn, Tegan and Sarah, The XX, Sharon Jones....

all kinds of food. but I refuse to call myself a "foodie," which I think sounds like a sexual fetish.
The six things I could never do without
my family
decent coffee
a decent coffee shop
comfortable bedding
the NYTimes
world peace (just kidding!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the night sky. human nature. why is that person wearing that.
On a typical Friday night I am
eating dinner with friends and then drinking with said friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I wasn't very popular at space camp.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 24–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating