UPDATE: Apparently my openness above has been translated by young men to think that I am "easy" :P Nothing could be further from the truth. If you are just looking for sex, I wish you the best of luck, but it's not gonna happen here. I tend also to live by the "half your age and add 7" rule for the youngest person I would date. So that's about 26 right now. It's just a life experience thing. And I have nieces and nephews in their 20s, so... that might just be ... weird.
Update: You know ... Fetlife has an option for "heteroflexible" ... I hate to be unavailable to incredible women who could be amazing people in my life. Every once in awhile ... (ok, maybe more often) I think "I really think I need a girlfriend..." :P Just sayin...
Update Update: I've decided I need to be a little more specific. I think it's my fault that people don't read into the subtlety of my words below, so I shall try to be succinct:
I have a partner of 20 years and other multi-year relationships (over 4 years invested in each,) so ... if this doesn't make sense to you, take a peek at the "polyamory" entry on wikipedia.
I'm not a dominatrix (the caption on one of my photos confuses some.) Having kink attire isn't the same thing as ascribing to a role in bdsm. If you really want to know, I self define as a "dominant bottom." ... If this makes sense to you, we can probably speak the same language. If it doesn't ... looking it up would be a good idea before asking me questions about it.
I'm becoming jaded to one sentence messages from people. "How are you today," is not really a great way to engage someone. Ask me something specific (or more than one thing) or tell me something about yourself that you think I may find interesting. We're not standing across from each other so small talk isn't really the best way to proceed.
I'm not interested in married men who are interested in cheating on their wives. I'm not interested in people who are going to be "in town on business" and are looking for a hookup. If I were interested in casual sex, I wouldn't be looking for it online ... serial killer potential and all ... so, if those are your hopes, I wish you much luck, but I just can't be that person.
The "girlfriend" message above is probably less than 5% of me. I adore women, but I don't need any man's help in finding one ... but thanks for the offer :)
If you are younger than 30, there needs to be something extraordinarily unusual about you for me to be interested ... in a "wise beyond your years" way. It's flattering to get attention from 20 somethings, but our life experiences are most likely too different for there to be a real connection, and the casual sex thought from someone in their 20s (no matter how nice your abs are ... and I've seen some very nice abs) isn't what interests me ... at least enough to invest more than a fleeting thought in it ;-)
I am brilliant, compassionate, and devilish.