I'm a city slicker with a bit of a sarcastic wit. I was born in San Francisco
. My two biggest loves in life are running
. I do a lot of running. I like to stay physically fit. I also do voluntary work at UCSF usually once a month on my free time. I like positive and funny people.
I live in SSF, I work in San Jose and I go to grad school in the East Bay. So I'm pretty flexible when it comes to coordinating a date in terms of location. As busy of a schedule as that sounds, I have a knack of making leeway in terms of making room for romance.
Update - 10/01/2015: So, just to get this out of the way, I'm an introvert & I'm not at all ashamed for it. However, it gets exhausting when I try to explain myself. Therefore, here's a link to shed some light on what introverts are (and what they are not):
What I’m doing with my life
I love running, helping others and hanging out with my friends. I used to be an amateur freelance photographer, but now I just take photos for fun. My friends ARE my family and I don't know what I'd do without them. I'm at that point in my life where I'm trying not to take everything personal.
I’m really good at
Listening. It sounds too good to be true, but it's true. One of my main focuses when it comes to interaction with people is the communication aspect of it all. With that, I'm really good and quoting stuff that was previously said. So generally, people who know me tend to try to keep their stories straight and consistent around me.
The first things people usually notice about me
People who barely know me or just got to know make the assumption that I'm this square guy. When I'm really not. I have a profanity switch that I can flip on or off at the drop of a dime and my whole shoulder is one big tattoo. A quote that best describes me is this: "You'll find I'm full of surprises."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm definitely a Charles Bukowski fan. There are other writers and
poets like Hunter S. Thompson, Haruki Murakami, George Orwell,
Robert Frost, philosophy from Nietzsche, Kant and I relate to
Darwin but I don't totally agree with his ideas, I read a lot of
Theists vs. Atheists debates, and The Catcher in the Rye.
I enjoy practically ANY kind of music, and I mean ANY (except
Beatles, ask me why if you're curious - lol). I'll listen mostly to
alternative, to classical, ska, to rap, to mostly old school hip
hop, trip hop, rockabilly music, big band, classical, etc. etc.
etc. I don't dig gospel or some country (except for maybe Johnny
Cash). I love the Smiths.
"What happens when people open their hearts?"
"They get better."
The six things I could never do without
1. My friends/family
2. Good communication
3. My self-respect/dignity
5. My dog
6. Living in the moment
I spend a lot of time thinking about
All the ups and downs that come with online dating. Quite frankly, I think a majority of my frustrations, disappointments and grief this year have originated from my dating adventures via online dating. I'm contemplating the thought on perhaps taking a break from this site.
As for dates, the ONLY thing I loathe talking about is stuff regarding past partners, ex-lovers, ex-whatevers in general, etc. I have zero interest on information regarding who one used to kiss, embrace, hug, etc. I think it's really none of my business. I never understood the point with talking about ex-flings in front of someone you are trying to date now. I like to leave my past right where it belongs: in the past.
On a typical Friday night I am
I generally hit the town (San Francisco) to either watch a live
band at a local bar/club, watch a movie, play billiards with
friends, check out any local events, etc. etc.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You'll have to ask me personally.
You should message me if
If you're actually interested in knowing who I am and knowing me from the inside out rather than focusing on the physical stuff first and personality stuff second, then you might actually grab my attention. Physical attributes are great on a person but I don't think they mean jack shit if there's no heart and personality from within to give it all meaning.
By the way, I don't believe in the "you can tell within the first 5-minutes" approach regarding chemistry or if we'd get along. I'm not a subscriber to the "if there's no instant chemistry, then hell, it must not be a match" philosophy. Chemistry takes time to build into something. If I went about life based off of initial impressions, I wouldn't have the great friends that I have in my life now.