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60 F Albuquerque, NM

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Hispanic / Latin
5′ 1″ (1.55m)
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Mostly anything
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Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
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Has dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Chinese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I was fortunate to be born in Puerto Rico, the Island of enchantment, and for 10 years I have been living in the land of enchantment. I have 1 dog, black short hair Chihuahua. This was new for me since growing up in a farm, we never had animals inside the house. She has brought me much joy, maybe it is good to try new things, explore different avenues. I am not much for planning, at least not in great detail. I am a spiritual person and accept all paths to God.

I have lived in Puerto Rico, New Jersey, Ohio, California, Peoples Republic of China and Florida before coming to New Mexico. I have been in NM since 2003. I speak English and Spanish, have forgotten most of my Mandarin.

At 40 I went back to Puerto Rico and continued the same relationship I had with my parents before I left for college at 17: good with my mother, adversarial with my father. That changed one Saturday afternoon. I had come to visit for the weekend, my oldest brother came in as well, he drove a van. My father asked if we could go to the corner store and get him some corn for the chickens, we both went, bought a 49 pound bag of split corn and went back. I jumped out of the van, grabbed the bag of corn and carried it towards my father who was still sitting on the front porch. I asked him where he wanted the corn and he pointed to the floor next to his seat, I dropped it there and watched him try to pull it up and his eyes filled with tears as he realized that his baby girl was now stronger than him. At the same time I realized the man I had been fighting with was no longer there.

After that we had a very good relationship and I deplore that we wasted so much time, that we missed so many good times. We don't know what we don't know… I don't want to waste any more time in fruitless conflict, I would like to find a good friend I can cooperate with, talk to, perhaps share nice outings and vacations or just cook a meal or work in the garden together. Simple things, but in life the simple things can be the most difficult. Humans are not frozen in a particular mode, life happens, people change, the person who was ideal 20 years ago can easily be an enemy today. But there are couples who have enough compatibility to adjust and stay together through life, to be friends, partners, collaborators. That is what I am looking for and what I am willing to be.
What I’m doing with my life
Working, planning for retirement. Hopefully, looking for love and God in all the right places. My maternal grandfather was an angelical man whose only vice was smoking cigars. He taught me to care for people, particularly the children, the sick and the elderly. He died when I was 14 and later I was disillusioned with people who did not live up to his standards and decided to stop believing in God. It took me 14 more years to look for God again, opening up to other religions and finding that God is not a Catholic trademark or Christian for that matter. I hope that I can make my grandfather proud and once I retire I will be able to better follow his example, maybe back in Puerto Rico or in another country.
I’m really good at
Cooking, shopping, problem solving, remaining calm under pressure, writing... I am a good listener and people often seek me for help or advise and children, dogs and old people like me.
The first things people usually notice about me
My smile, my humor, my openness. I have been describes as charismatic, approachable and having a "sympathetic face" whatever that may mean.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
My taste is eclectic. I love Indian, Persian, Italian, Chinese (mostly northern), African, Mexican, Peruvian, of course Puerto Rican food, music and movies. I will hope to get to know and love more cultures before I die. Music has to touch the heart. When I was in China, where the official religion is atheism (Religion is the opium of the people) I was asked why we prayed, we talked for a while about it without getting anywhere and finally in frustration I handed the young man a prayer that had been translated to Chinese and asked him to read it. Chinese has a musical quality to it and as he read it, the room went quiet. When he finished there were tears rolling down his cheeks and many other. I was never asked that question again. Oh, before you ask: What was the prayer?

"Intone, O My servant, the verses of God that have been received by thee, as intoned by them who have drawn nigh unto Him,
that the sweetness of thy melody may kindle thine own soul,
and attract the hearts of all men. Whoso reciteth in the privacy of his chamber, the verses revealed by God, the scattering angels of the Almighty shall scatter abroad the fragrance of the words uttered by his mouth, and shall cause the heart of every righteous man to throb. Though he may, at first, remain unaware of its effect, yet the virtue of the grace vouchsafed unto him must needs sooner or later exercise its influence upon his soul. Thus have the mysteries of the Revelation of God been decreed by virtue of the Will of Him Who is the Source of power and wisdom."
- Bahá'u'lláh
The six things I could never do without
Health, Mind, Appreciation of life, Appreciation of Nature, Music, Love
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Different things at different times. The chaos that we are currently living. The injustices of the world that do not make any sense. Pierre Teilhard de Chardin said “The future belongs to those who give the next generation reason for hope.” I love to be able to give anyone today that reason for hope.
On a typical Friday night I am
The same thing I do on a typical Saturday or Sunday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Privacy is a matter of context. Americans have lots of privacy laws, in other cultures strangers may ask you lots of those questions that are covered by laws here and share a lot more than you would care to know. If you want to know ask or if it comes up in the conversation I will tell you. One of my best and worst qualities is being candid.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 55–70
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
If you are looking for a friend or if you think we can be more than friends, or just want to be keyboard pals.