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38 O'Fallon, MO Man


I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Yesterday – 11:40am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Catholicism, but not too serious about it
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Working on two-year college
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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What follows are some random musings on the kinds of things I think make a relationship great and if you agree with more of these things than not, you should send me a message, as I think we might do well by each other.

Do you believe that you are destined for something...Greater? Well, I believe that about you, too.

Ambition is attractive to me. I don't care all that much what your life looks like NOW, I am more interested in what you think it can look like tomorrow, and since I believe one of the things long-term partners should do well together is plan, and achieve, agreed upon personal and joint goals, I probably will have very little fear of what you think your life can be. If you want it, I believe in working very hard for us to get it for you.

Again, I find ambition, as well as intelligence and calculated fearlessness highly attractive.
An appreciation for someone else's sense of humor is a requirement for a long-lasting relationship, even if it may not be fully understood.
I'm a parent, so if you are too, I have no fear of that (apparently, there are men in the world who don’t do well with that aspect of a woman's life, if its there?? Don't know what that's about, but whatever...)
Power trumps money.
Love Conquers All (but you have to LET IT)
Spelling is important. Even if it's not used much for digital communication, I would like it if you at least know how to read, write, and speak (mostly) The Queen's English.

“Live Music” for me consists of a national-level band tour, or a DJ. If you're a local band and you're not playing at Pops or Trainwreck, I'm not going to want to be in the same room as you. I've heard too many dive-bar covers of Mustang Sally to care anymore. While I do appreciate music from a lot of different eras, my heart lies with electronic, instrumental, and dance-track type stuff. With RARE exceptions, I don't like Country.

Reality TV consists of PBS or Mythbusters, other than that, I don't watch it. If you do that's fine, and I'll sit with you if you want, as long as you can let me suffer in silence. If conversation is required, your living room will quickly become an analog for Mystery Science Theater. In all honesty, I don't watch a lot of television (I don't own one currently) and what I do watch is mostly news. (or Game of Thrones..damn right the Northerners will never forget...Chalisi and her babies can't sac King's Landing soon enough in my opinion.)

A hundred years from now, you and I will both likely be dead, and unless we were EXCEPTIONAL at it, no one will care what we did, who we did it with, or how much (or more likely, how little) we got paid for the doing. With that thought in mind, your ambition doesn't scare me, your possible failure, even less so. What do you REALLY want your headstone to say?

It doesn't much matter to me what your Zodiac sign is because I don't put much stock in it other than as a fun intellectual distraction, but if it matters to you, I find myself generally and historically attracted to sun or water signs. A much better indicator of whether we will get along is probably your M-BTI score; with that in mind, a fellow N-type to engage with would, I think, be quite a nice change of pace, I'm NOT a Sense-or type by any stretch, and while I would value what's different between us, sometimes (I promise) you just won't “get me”, and I would bet that you will feel that way, too. Initially, that can be make a relationship dynamic, interesting, fresh and new, and while that's always fun, this is about long-term...right?

The relationships I've been in in the past have been with women who outwardly were quite warm, loving, and passionate, but had a tendency to be a bit more reserved in close or intimate company. Now, I''m seeking rather the opposite. If you are quiet, cool, and calm in mixed/public company, (even if you can fake Extroversion as a learned skill with the best of them) but seem to “come alive” in the presence of very close friends and intimate partners, probably we will get along. If nuance and inside jokes are things you do well, if you are a fellow iNtuitive personality type, I would like to chat with you

Home: Function defines form. I don't want to live in a museum, (I don't think kids should have to live in one either) and the things in it are generally do NOT exist for the purpose of Display. Rather, I prefer a home to be feel lived in, and while I am a fan of organization and neatness, if we're busy and the floor didn't get vacuumed over the weekend, that's ok with me, I know we will get to it...eventually. If this isn't also your idea of home, I'm not The One.

If you are uncomfortable without the “armor” of clothing, if you don't know how to be (or dislike) being admired for your natural form and physical beauty, I'm likely not the man for you. Don't get me wrong, I will highly value your mind, your intellect and your and non-physical beauty, but to me that's exactly HALF of a really great relationship. Right?

I enjoy politics and Public Policy as an intellectual hobby. I'm generally pretty liberal, and while I'm not opposed to dating someone of a more Conservative mindset, it's not something I'm actively looking for as a relationship priority. If you think you can handle me at my liberal best, that's fine, but I doubt seriously that you are going to change my mind on anything. I'll throw down if you want, but be prepared to lose a lot of arguments (I'm pretty good).

Currently, I'm a smoker (yeah, yeah, I know). I promised my daughter, at her unENDING insistence (and good on her) that this is the year that I will quit, but it hasn’t happened yet. If you know that you would be uncomfortable with my current inability to lock myself in a hotel for a week and purge myself of this damnable habit, well, again, I'm likely not your guy.

If you play Chess (or if you want to learn), message me. If nothing else comes of it, I'll give you a good game while we decide it's the only thing we have in common, and I'll leave satisfied with that.

At my core, stripped of all else, I'm probably a hedonist. Libertine debauchery is something else I enjoy as an intellectual endeavor, and it can produce some wonderful “applied results” if approached in a lighthearted and playful, and mature way.

Stuff I want to learn/do on a regular basis, want to help?

A stringed instrument
A Martial Art
Ballroom dancing
Rock Climbing, fishing, other outdoor stuff (but NOT really a fan of mud and dirt)
Ice Skating and Springboard Diving
Lets read a book together, doesn't matter what it is. I read fast, and find a lot of different material interesting.

If interested in and qualified for, the listed position, please send a copy of your resume to our Human Resource Department (where it will likely be ignored based on the subjective impression we get from the font you used).

Can you tell what I think of most Human Resource Departments lol?

If any of this sounds like I'm someone you want to get to know, just shoot me hello. I'm looking forward to hearing from you. If not, Good Luck with your search.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
part time student, more than full time employee, part time parent (although in a perfect world my priorities would be dramatically different)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
stratigec thinking/planning/execution. It's part and parcel to being an INTJ..or so the internet tells me lol. Whatever, I'll take it, it could be worse.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I honestly have no idea. The people I trust to make these kinds of judgements tell me that they never know quite what my preception of a given event/thing/person will be, but that that they have learned to never be surprised at my ability to surprise them.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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see above, It's late and I don't feel like moving it down here lol
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughter
air, water, etc
love, affection, sex
cellphone, laptop, internet
My daughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
my long-term goals and achievements, and who I get to share them with after I get them.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
probably still at work, wishing I were NOT.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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hrmmmm...I'll have to think on that and get back to you...
You should message me if
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you read everything, think I might be interesting to get to know, etc.