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volleyballguy85

29 M Fort Wayne, IN

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 12:05pm
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and very serious about it
Sign
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on university
Job
Student
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I'm terribly awkward, so don't expect me to be smooth and fly. That being said I'm a pretty genuine guy and I'm more than willing to put myself out there and tell you what I'm feeling. I love to laugh, love getting to know people, and love my friends so hit me up if you're interested in chatting! Also, if I look at your profile every single day it could be due to the fact that I'm a creepy, psychotic stalker, or...more likely I have the short-term memory of a puppy and forgot what I was doing five minutes ago. Unless we've been messaging, in which case yeah...I've been creeping all up in that profile.

I don't really go for the whole "masc" and "fem" stuff. I love dark beer, pizza, football, and working out, which I suppose are "masculine" traits. I've seen Wicked on Broadway, try to dress decent, and use my hands a lot when I talk. And I quote Mean Girls a lot. Basically I do what I want to and don't pay much attention to the labels. Guys don't usually figure out that I'm gay, girls always do. I'm not sure why but it's whatever.

If you don't have a picture of your face I don't want to talk to you. I'm not ashamed of my body, in fact it's quite likely that I'm more smitten with it than I should be, but I think it takes more confidence to put your entire self out there. I'm certainly not opposed to seeing your rippling pectorals but a face will win me over any day.
What I’m doing with my life
I will always find it intriguing that Martin Luther King Day is the anniversary of when I was fired for coming out. As my kindergartners were in the classroom learning about a man who fought to obtain equality for people of all races, I was in the office being told I no longer had a position with the school. The issues facing underprivileged racial groups and the queer community are not the same but even so I am appreciative of everything MLK achieved. The foundation he laid not only provided a better life for people of every color, it also paved a path that gives other groups an example to look up to as they follow in his footsteps. Thank you Martin Luther King, Jr. for everything.

I work as an optician with a local eyeglass company. Initially I was skeptical but I've found it to be very complex and stimulating, and the interactions I have offer the chance to grow emotionally and in my critical thinking. Plus I've always wanted to know how to fix my glasses when I break them. On top of that I play volleyball 3-4 times a week, assist a former professor at my alma mater, and work a second job with Barnes and Noble on the weekends. Starting grad school next fall, location TBD.
I’m really good at
As cliche as it sounds, listening haha. I'm the guy that people come to when they need to vent, cry, or gab about something amazing that's happened to them. I can usually make people feel relaxed and comfortable and it's important to me that they can trust me.

Sporadically updating personal webpages, to which I contribute posts of moderate quality. Sometimes my friend Brock thinks I can sing, and challenges me to Karaoke Wars: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMP1CG7EObrZ0AAenbWfGSw Sometimes I write reviews of books that I read: http://iheartbooks85.blogspot.com/

Making cocktails. I'm not a dynamic chef but I will provide you with some amazing drinks to accompany dinner. I've invented numerous concoctions.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm probably laughing. Even on my worst days I love to crack jokes with my coworkers or laugh about something awkward I did. One of my best friends tells me that I laugh like the Cowardly Lion from The Wizard of Oz so if you hear loud, raucous laughter in the room you know where to find me!

My posterior. I'm not sure why, but people are always commenting on it. Don't get excited, in my opinion it's nothing special and I'm sure everyone who talks it up is on crack. Just like Janice Ian.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Any books by Tamora Pierce. I could speak volumes about her work and the impact she made on my life. I'm a big fantasy buff so Robert Jordan, Brandon Sanderson, and J.K. Rowling are favorites of mine. The last six years of my life were spent working with preschoolers and elementary students so I also have a huge appreciation for children's literature.

I'll throw out a Top Five but let's be real most people have a wide variety of tastes when it comes to film, shows, and music.
Movies: The Illusionist, anything Disney, Lord of the Rings, Mean Girls, and any action movie that's so bad it's good.
TV: DOCTOR WHO, nuff said. Glee, Once Upon a Time, South Park, Charmed.
Music: Kelly Clarkson, Adele, Avalon, Jimmy Needham, and a little Timbaland.

Food: anything Indian, pizza, chicken cacciatore, protein shakes, spinach salad, Chick Fil-A (I'm ashamed that homophobia tastes so good), pretty much anything. I eat all the time haha. The last time I was at a party someone snapped a shot of me hording an entire bowl of Chex Mix. I love food.
The six things I could never do without
Volleyball, books, friends, huge amounts of food, and the occasional video game. Oh and did I mention food?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Food. It's one of my strongest motivations. If I do my P90X, I can eat junk food. If I make money, I can afford to buy junk food. If I eat junk food, I can always go to the store and buy more junk food. The other night I found myself on the couch with a frozen pizza, some pizza rolls, and a glass of red wine. I opened up my iTunes and closed my eyes as I listened to Kevin Rudolf's "I Made It," seemed like the most appropriate song for the situation.

Also, God. I've grown closer to Him every day and even though I'm not perfect, I keep getting up after I stumble. It's important that you share that belief in some fashion, even if you're Catholic or Mennonite or Protestant or whatever.
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing volleyball, hanging out with friends, or spending the evening with my dog. I'm pretty low key. I definitely enjoy going out and I'll do the bars from time to time but I'm not afraid to sit at home and watch a movie either. New, flashy, or exciting activities can be great but a truly comfortable person doesn't need that every single day of the week either.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
This section changes quite frequently, come back from time to time. I was once in a Christian show choir, it was like Glee with fewer guest stars. http://volleyballguy85.tumblr.com/post/30288605191/christian-kids-have-show-choirs-too-yo-yeah
And before you ask, no I can't sing like that anymore nor do I intend to pursue musical endeavors outside of my shower.

I flirt with the lady at Taco Bell because then she gives me free food, I'm basically engaging in a socially acceptable form of prostitution. And I'm good at it.

I'm a terrible gay man when it comes to the higher end of dressing up. I can match, I look great in a nice shirt and jeans, but I went to a wedding recently and it took a lot of help to get me proper attire. The numbers on the dress shirts had me especially flustered, don't even get me started on the shoes, and I learned how to tie a tie. That's why I look so dapper in my profile picture, I'm really damn proud of learning to tie that hahaha.

My first kiss is always absolute crap. Sorry folks. It's always so awkward cause there's that question of "do I go too light and come across as disinterested or do I go too heavy and come across as a floozy?" After that I assure you I'm quite stellar ;)
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 20–31
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
You're not a jerk. Or even if you are, if you're an interesting jerk I could at least get a laugh out of it.

I'm not big on "dating" and jumping into relationships but I've reached the point where I'm starting to think that if a friend turned into something more than a friend I wouldn't mind. Having someone special in my life would be nice :) Definitely a friends first kind of guy though, and we'll take it from there.