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51 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:18am
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
A little extra
Christianity, and very serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
English (Fluently), French, Latin, German, Ancient Greek

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My self-summary
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Musician, librarian, curator, Anglican priest.

Reading that over, I sound like a character in a Robertson Davies novel or a Merchant Ivory film. But that would miss the post-punk keyboardist, theater in college part of the story. And it would miss the existential car crashes all (or almost all) grownups have on their record. And the hard-won hope.

Not at all comfortable with this sort of forum, but recently on the other side of a marriage, and although it probably is true that a great many people on this site are here to get over someone, I'm actually not. I'm here to keep living my curious life. Which means meeting new people. Well, all people are new every day. I mean, people new to me.
What I’m doing with my life
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My life and I don't always get along, and he's often off exploring cathedral archives in Europe while I work in the library and shop at Whole Foods. Sometimes we meet up and get coffee together. Occasionally we sing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading neumes, exegesis sacred and profane, holing up, snarking, worrying about whether I went too far in snarking, and fearing God.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books : A Warning to the Curious, The Sot-Weed Factor, The Once and Future King
Movies : Magnolia, Time Bandits, Withnail and I
Shows : The Sopranos, Breaking Bad, South Park
Music : Anything Scott Miller has done, Krzysztof Penderecki, William Byrd, Current 93 (et familia), post-punk in general
Food : Italian, Greek, sushi, pretentious and expensive French food
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, fine editions of Victorian/Edwardian supernatural fiction, beer, the book Shakespeare used to pray with, stimulants, Netflix. I could handle the Fight Club last scene end of civilization, if it weren't for the fact that it means the end of Netflix.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Getting bills paid, the cure of souls, musical integrity, archival order, and what exactly is up with this.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Reading my uncanny dinner companions.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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X marks the spot.
You should message me if
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You're as willing to arduously step out of your comfort zone as I am of mine. You are tolerant, wry, kind, and take it as a principle that people are fallen and profoundly broken but also infinitely lovable. You think that Britannia rules the waves.

Least important: you have opinions about MR James or Current 93...and they aren't necessarily mine.