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35 Madison, WI Man


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  • Ages 24–45
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5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Working on masters program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Ancient Greek

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My self-summary
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Game Design, Science, Cooking, Cycling, Walls of Books, Kink. Read below for details.

I'm now in Madison! I love how much flatter this city is than Bloomington.
TL:DnR version:
I am a feminist polygeek. Meaning both that I am a geek who is poly and I am a geek who has a broad range of interests. I'm a gamer, mostly table top, and a cook. I love to read, and have been catching up for lost time since I left grad school. All sorts of new favorites.. My sense of humor is sometimes obscure. I'm looking for people to go out with and to stay in with and to fill all the days with fun and laughter and late night discussions. I'm looking first for friends. If anything else comes of it? Awesome! But if not? New Friends!
Also, if you want to play a Parsley Game, I have at least one on hand all the time.

" And when things get tough, this is what you should do.

Make good art.

I'm serious. Husband runs off with a politician? Make good art. Leg crushed and then eaten by mutated boa constrictor? Make good art. IRS on your trail? Make good art. Cat exploded? Make good art. Somebody on the Internet thinks what you do is stupid or evil or it's all been done before? Make good art. Probably things will work out somehow, and eventually time will take the sting away, but that doesn't matter. Do what only you do best. Make good art.

Make it on the good days too."
-Neil Gaiman

Geek with nerdish tendencies (as me about my spread sheets). I love science and science fiction and fantasy, and all of the things. I like to explore new subjects and reexamine old ones. I try not to draw a line between work and play. I seek joy and light and laughter, both for my self and to share. I believe strongly that joy shared is joy multiplied and that sorrow shared is sorrow divided.
I love games. I love playing them, I love developing them. I have a reasonably large collection of rpgs, board games, and video games. My room is full of bookshelves, and they spill over into the rest of my house.
I'm finding my feet here in Madison. Eventually I'll have pets again. Right now I'm missing my rats and puppy, but the rats are with a good family, and the puppy was only mine to borrow. I cook. I'm always working on either improving a recipe or finding a new one. I'm not a vegetarian, but I can cook like one as needed. I am particularly proud of my pizza and my asparagus chicken.
I'm both outgoing and a little shy. I love being with groups, but I am not always aware of all of the standard social cues, so I often sit back and watch new groups of people for a while so I can figure out what the local mores are.
I'm poly and kinky and a switch, all of which feed and are fed by my love of play and exploration. I am an active feminist, an aficionado of models of consent. I trust early and often and perhaps too much, but the alternative is too terrible to be considered. Trust and you might be betrayed. Don't trust and you betray yourself. I love words. I love talking. I love listening. I love conversations that stretch out into the early hours of the morning.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am upsetting my whole life and tying to regain focus as a game designer and trying to figure out what to do next. I am looking for more people to walk through life along side. I'm seriously considering starting to dye my hair again soon. I miss emerald green hair. I am a year-round cyclist. I spend a lot of my time designing games. I don't sleep as much as I should.
I just got a new camera, so I currently take lots of pictures.
I am switching my diet to one lower in sodium and learning all sorts of new recipes on the way through.
I just made my first successful wild sourdough starter.
I'm coding a lot right now. And debugging code.
Current projects include:
A lightweight table top rpg.
Working on a Moon Colony Worker Placement game.
Being published for the first time (Wayfinder Magazine #12)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a synthetic generalist. I do my best work when I am making new connections between fields.
I am told I am good at massage and that I have a calming presence.
I make friends with animals quickly.
I am a very good cook.
I'm improving my craft at painting little figurines for games.
I'm a good Game Master
I'm good at looking through the inconsequential trappings and finding the core. Not always so great at the part that comes next.
Cuddling. I am apparently warm and cuddly. I can live with that.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair is varicolored in unnatural hues.
My headphones are big (I break the little ones. If you see me with my head phones on, feel free to "interrupt".)
I'm probably on a bike.
My shirt is almost certainly emblazoned with something geeky.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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+ video games, RPGs, and BoardGames

The Moon is a Harsh Mistress Robert Heinlein
The Chronicles of Amber Rodger Zelazny
The Dresden Files Jim Butcher
Blood and Iron Elizabeth Bear
The VorKosigan Saga Lois Bujold McMasters
The Earthsea Trilogy Ursula LeGuin
The Name of the Wind trilogy Patrick Rothuss
The Laundry Novels Charlie Stross
Snow Crash and Cryptonomicron Neal Stephenson
Geekomancy Michael Underwood
Libromancer Jim Hines
The Foreigner Series CJ Cherryh
Neverwhere Neil Gaiman
Diskworld Series Terry Pratchett (much better than Douglas Adams)
Two Knotty Boys series...

Back to the Future
Blade Runner
Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure
Lost Boys
Hudson Hawk
The Avengers
Startrek (The new one, and most of the original 6)
the RDJ Sherlock Holmes
The Errol Flynn Robinhood
Conan the Destroyer
Scott Pilgrim
Thor 2. It traded about a quarter of Thor 1's pretty for plot. <3

West Wing
Babylon 5 (Even the 5th season)
The new Dr Who (I'm a fan, i have a few tee shirts, but it isn't you know, my life.)
Criminal Minds (The creepiest show to cuddle to...)

Tori Amos
Bare Naked Ladies
The Poxie Boggards
Nico Vega
Lady Gaga
Sarah McLachlan
Fiona Apple
KT Tunstall

Stove Popped Popcorn
Chex Mix
A medium Rare Cowboy Cut Ribeye
Pizza with Black Olives, Pepperoni, and Bacon
A good salad with romano and carrots and cheese and crutons and a little bit of ranch dressing.
Five Guys Hamburger and Fries

Video Games
Bravely Default
Escape Velocity Nova
Dungeons of the Necromancer's Domain
Baldur's Gate
Zork 1-3
Civilization 4
Master of Orion 1-3
King's Quest 6
The Secret of Monkey Island
Mine Craft

Dungeons and Dragons (all editions including 4.0 and Pathfinder)
Don't Rest Your Head
Amber Diceless
Apocalypse World
Mouse Guard
Mongoose Traveller

Board Games
Betrayal at the House on the Hill
Settlers of Catan (I promise if you don't like it not to make you play it)
I'll play anything once, and have a fair portion of all the games:
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Diet Coke
My Laptop/Tablet
My RPG collection
My Bike
My Bag of Holding.
A good IDE/Game Prototyping kit
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm currently in grad school. Working on game design. I spend all of my free time thinking about, well, game design and programming. And what it would be like to have a job with set hours each week.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Making dinner and playing games with friends, either Pathfinder or boardgames. Good food, good friends, good beer. And a bunch of funny dice.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Ooh! I thought of one. I don't drive. I have a license, I keep it up to date, but I haven't actually driven a car since I was 18. One of these days I should probably change that.

There is a Dresden Files Larp in the works. I'm not a larp person, but for that I would learn.
Especially in text, I am occasionally a little verbose... Though in person I like to listen to people speak. A lot.

I tend to be withdrawn with new groups of people at first. I'm not great at figuring out social dynamics on the fly, so I like to sit and see how a group interacts before taking too active of a role. So if I am quiet, I'm having fun, I'm just trying to make sure I don't mess up anyone else's fun.

I love the word "boink" for all things sex. It isn't that I don't like all of the other words, but "Boink" is full of laughter and joy and happiness.

I'm on fetlife as well:
You should message me if
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You want to creep each other out reading the SCP Foundation's archives.
You want to talk about, play, read, or make games (RPGs and Board) or books.
You would like to help me work on new recipes (or help me eat the results at least.)
You want to help teach a non-dance to dance.
You want to help me dye my hair in interesting colors and patterns.
You give or need a good massage.
You want to go camping or something that is entirely unrelated to school work. I need to not do school on occasion.
You want to chat back and forth endlessly. Most of my work puts me in front of a computer, so I appreciate the chance to talk online a lot.
You want to skip the endless chat and go out and do something. Most of my work puts me in front of a computer, so I appreciate the chance to go actually go do a thing.

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