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ronin_kakuhito

35 Madison, WI Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Overweight
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Education
Working on masters program
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Ancient Greek

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Game Design, Science, Cooking, Cycling, Walls of Books, Kink. Read below for details.

I'm now in Madison! I love how much flatter this city is than Bloomington.
TL:DnR version:
I am a feminist polygeek, which has two different (and true) interpretations. I'm a gamer, mostly table top, and a cook, mostly wonderful. I love to read, though since I am in grad school, I do less of that then I want. My sense of humor is sometimes obscure. I'm looking for people to go out with and to stay in with and to fill all the days with fun and laughter and late night discussions. I'm looking first for friends. If anything else comes of it? Awesome! But if not? New Friends!
Also, if you want to play a Parsley Game, I have at least one on hand all the time.

" And when things get tough, this is what you should do.

Make good art.

I'm serious. Husband runs off with a politician? Make good art. Leg crushed and then eaten by mutated boa constrictor? Make good art. IRS on your trail? Make good art. Cat exploded? Make good art. Somebody on the Internet thinks what you do is stupid or evil or it's all been done before? Make good art. Probably things will work out somehow, and eventually time will take the sting away, but that doesn't matter. Do what only you do best. Make good art.

Make it on the good days too."
-Neil Gaiman

I am, and every will be, a geek. I love science and science fiction and fantasy, and all of the things. I like to explore new subjects and reexamine old ones. I try not to draw a line between work and play, and were I religious, all of life would be my prayer. Instead of the numinous, I I seek joy and light and laughter, both for my self and to share. I believe strongly that joy shared is joy multiplied and that sorrow shared is sorrow divided.
I love games. In fact I am in school right now studying them. I have a reasonably large collection of rpgs, board games, and video games. My room is full of bookshelves, and they spill over into the rest of my house.
I'm finding my feet here in Madison. Eventually I'll have pets again. Right now I'm missing my rats and puppy, but the rats are with a good family, and the puppy was only mine to borrow. I cook. I'm always working on either improving a recipe or finding a new one. I'm not a vegetarian, but I can cook like one as needed. I am particularly proud of my pizza and my asparagus chicken.
I'm both outgoing and a little shy. I love being with groups, but I am not always aware of all of the standard social cues, so I often sit back and watch new groups of people for a while so I can figure out what the local mores are.
I'm poly and kinky and a switch, all of which feed and are fed by my love of play and exploration. I am an active feminist, an aficionado of models of consent. I trust early and often and perhaps too much, but the alternative is too terrible to be considered. Trust and you might be betrayed. Don't trust and you betray yourself. I love words. I love talking. I love listening. I love conversations that stretch out into the early hours of the morning.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am upsetting my whole life and tying to regain focus as a game designer and trying to figure out what to do next. I am looking for more people to walk through life along side. I'm seriously considering starting to dye my hair again soon. I miss emerald green hair. I am a year-round cyclist. I spend a lot of my time designing games. I don't sleep as much as I should.
I just got a new camera, so I currently take lots of pictures.
I am switching my diet to one lower in sodium and learning all sorts of new recipes on the way through.
I just made my first successful wild sourdough starter.
I'm coding a lot right now. And debugging code.
Current projects include:
A lightweight table top rpg.
A phone app to connect habit management programs with wearable vibrators.
I've reverse engineered the D&D 5th edition monsters and come up with a set of guidelines for DIY monsters.
I just discovered Mine Craft. A disproportionate portion of my day is now dedicated to building towers out of mine tailings.
Working on a Moon Colony Worker Placement game.
Trolling #GamerGate assholes so their time can't be spent attacking women and indy developers.
I just got my first article accepted for Wayfinder magazine!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a synthetic generalist. I do my best work when I am making new connections between fields.
I am told I am good at massage and that I have a calming presence.
I make friends with animals quickly.
I am a very good cook.
I'm improving my craft at painting little figurines for games.
I'm a good Game Master
I'm good at looking through the inconsequential trappings and finding the core. Not always so great at the part that comes next.
Cuddling. I am apparently warm and cuddly. I can live with that.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hair is varicolored in unnatural hues.
My headphones are big (I break the little ones. If you see me with my head phones on, feel free to "interrupt".)
I'm probably on a bike.
My shirt is almost certainly emblazoned with something geeky.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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+ video games, RPGs, and BoardGames

Books:
The Moon is a Harsh Mistress Robert Heinlein
The Chronicles of Amber Rodger Zelazny
The Dresden Files Jim Butcher
Blood and Iron Elizabeth Bear
The VorKosigan Saga Lois Bujold McMasters
The Earthsea Trilogy Ursula LeGuin
The Name of the Wind trilogy Patrick Rothuss
The Laundry Novels Charlie Stross
Snow Crash and Cryptonomicron Neal Stephenson
Geekomancy Michael Underwood
Libromancer Jim Hines
The Foreigner Series CJ Cherryh
Neverwhere Neil Gaiman
Diskworld Series Terry Pratchett (much better than Douglas Adams)
Two Knotty Boys series...

Movies
Back to the Future
Blade Runner
Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure
Buffy
Alien
Lost Boys
Dune
Hudson Hawk
TMNT
The Avengers
Startrek (The new one, and most of the original 6)
the RDJ Sherlock Holmes
The Errol Flynn Robinhood
Conan the Destroyer
Scott Pilgrim
Thor 2. It traded about a quarter of Thor 1's pretty for plot. <3

Shows:
West Wing
Buffy
Babylon 5 (Even the 5th season)
The new Dr Who (I'm a fan, i have a few tee shirts, but it isn't you know, my life.)
Leverage
Criminal Minds (The creepiest show to cuddle to...)

Music
Pink
Tori Amos
Bare Naked Ladies
The Poxie Boggards
Cascadia
Nico Vega
Lady Gaga
Sarah McLachlan
Fiona Apple
Queen
KT Tunstall

Food:
Stove Popped Popcorn
Chex Mix
A medium Rare Cowboy Cut Ribeye
Pizza with Black Olives, Pepperoni, and Bacon
A good salad with romano and carrots and cheese and crutons and a little bit of ranch dressing.
Five Guys Hamburger and Fries

Video Games
Bravely Default
Starcraft
Escape Velocity Nova
Dungeons of the Necromancer's Domain
Baldur's Gate
Zork 1-3
Civilization 4
Master of Orion 1-3
King's Quest 6
The Secret of Monkey Island
Mine Craft

RPGs
Dungeons and Dragons (all editions including 4.0 and Pathfinder)
Don't Rest Your Head
Amber Diceless
Apocalypse World
Mouse Guard
Mongoose Traveller

Board Games
Shadowlord!
Diplomacy
Betrayal at the House on the Hill
Ikusa
Settlers of Catan (I promise if you don't like it not to make you play it)
Dominion
I'll play anything once, and have a fair portion of all the games:
http://boardgamegeek.com/collection/user/roninkakuhito
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Diet Coke
My Laptop/Tablet
My RPG collection
My Bike
My Bag of Holding.
A good IDE/Game Prototyping kit
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm currently in grad school. Working on game design. I spend all of my free time thinking about, well, game design and programming. And what it would be like to have a job with set hours each week.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Making dinner and playing games with friends, either Pathfinder or boardgames. Good food, good friends, good beer. And a bunch of funny dice.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Ooh! I thought of one. I don't drive. I have a license, I keep it up to date, but I haven't actually driven a car since I was 18. One of these days I should probably change that.

There is a Dresden Files Larp in the works. I'm not a larp person, but for that I would learn.
Especially in text, I am occasionally a little verbose... Though in person I like to listen to people speak. A lot.

I tend to be withdrawn with new groups of people at first. I'm not great at figuring out social dynamics on the fly, so I like to sit and see how a group interacts before taking too active of a role. So if I am quiet, I'm having fun, I'm just trying to make sure I don't mess up anyone else's fun.

I love the word "boink" for all things sex. It isn't that I don't like all of the other words, but "Boink" is full of laughter and joy and happiness.

I'm on fetlife as well: https://fetlife.com/users/2317678
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
This song brings back memories http://debsanderrol.bandcamp.com/track/walkthrough
You want to creep each other out reading the SCP Foundation's archives.
You want to talk about, play, read, or make games (RPGs and Board) or books.
You would like to help me work on new recipes (or help me eat the results at least.)
You want to help teach a non-dance to dance.
You want to help me dye my hair in interesting colors and patterns.
You give or need a good massage.
You want to go camping or something that is entirely unrelated to school work. I need to not do school on occasion.
You want to chat back and forth endlessly. Most of my work puts me in front of a computer, so I appreciate the chance to talk online a lot.
You want to skip the endless chat and go out and do something. Most of my work puts me in front of a computer, so I appreciate the chance to go actually go do a thing.