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40 • M • Chicago, IL
I’m looking for
- Women who like men
- Ages 30–46
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last Online
- Oct 22
- 6′ 2″ (1.88m)
- Body Type
- Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
- Art / Music / Writing
- Relationship Status
- Relationship Type
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Likes dogs and has cats
- English (Fluently)
I went to school for art, which means that I work in retail management. My job not my life-goal, but it is my career, and I do enjoy it, and that is important to me.
(Random women on OkCupid have e-mailed me to tell me that I shouldn't wear make-up. Please understand that I'm not going to reply to those messages. I like my look. It makes me feel like me).
I'm always reading something and I'm mostly reading fiction. Here is a sampling of some books I've liked: The Bastard Out of Carolina by Dorothy Allison. Play It As It Lays by Joan Didion, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle by Haruki Murakami, The Stranger by Albert Camus, Willful Creatures by Aimee Bender, Tender is The Night by F. Scott Fitzgerald, What We Talk About When We Talk About Love by Raymond Carver, A Scanner Darkly by Phil Dick, Snowcrash by Neal Stephenson. People seem to love or hate David Foster Wallace's Infinite Jest. I loved it.
The Sound And The Fury was the best book I've ever read. Can I go on OkCupid and admit that I love Faulkner w/out sounding pretentious? I didn't read him to be pretentious. I'm read him b/c I really liked his use of words. Faulkner was a genius. Although he'd suck if he was ever on Twitter.
I sometimes read non-fiction too. I just finished a book about psychology and neuroscience in relation to humor. It was fascinating.
I'm a big fan of horror. I like thrillers. I love a good drama.
I dislike political documentaries b/c I dislike rhetoric and propaganda, but I love historical docs, like Ken Burns films. I also like whenever Neil deGrasse Tyson says anything.
Deadwood is my favorite show of all time. Boardwalk Empire is great. At bedtime, I pull up a random episode of MST3K from Netflix and I go to sleep while laughing at the show's silliness.
If you talk to me about music, my eyes widen and I start to babble. I won't do that here. I'm into multiple genres: Post-Punk, Industrial, DeathRock, Minimal, Electropop, Indie Rock, Ambient, Hip Hop, Dream Pop, et cetera.
Here are a few of my favorites: Tri Repetae++ (Autechre), Faith (The Cure), III (Crystal Castles), Liquid Swords (GZA), Disco Volante (Mr. Bungle), The End (Nico), Warm Leatherette 7" (The Normal), Tinderbox (Siouxsie And The Banshees), Alice (Tom Waits).
I love going to live shows. Here are some recent highlights: The Presets, Danny Brown, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Frankie Rose, Savages, Spencer Krug (as Moonface), Mazzy Star, Chris & Cosey, The Knife, Trust / EMA, Lana Del Ray, Die Antwoord, Janelle Monáe, Röyksopp / Robyn, Owen Pallett. I went to Pitchfork this year and I was blown away by Factory Floor, FKA Twigs, and Slowdive.
How amazing was Patti Smith at Riot Fest?
I'm not much of an epicure. But, in the spirit of list-making, here are some foods that I do enjoy eating / drinking: tatter tots, burritos, dark chocolate and red wine (the $10 a bottle kind, b/c I'm posh).
I also like the yellow and orange Starburst, but not the red and pink. If we ever meet in person and we split a package of Starburst, you can have all the gross red and pink ones.
The feel of warm water when I wash my hands.
My cat, Familyyr.
The place between dream and wakefulness.
... You want to get together for a drink and a laugh.
... You want to talk books or music.
... You write, draw, paint, make sculpture, dance, sing, play a musical instrument (including laptops), do theater, and/or have another sort of creative outlet. Or if you have an appreciation for people that write, draw, paint, make sculpture, dance, sing, play a musical instrument (including laptops), do theater, and/or have another sort of creative outlet.
I don't have a concrete answer to the question, "What are you looking for?" I'm on OkCupid to chat w/ interesting people. I don't have an end-game. When I meet someone new, I like to let a connection evolve organically. Let's talk, let's drink, let's laugh, let's see what happens.
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