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40 M Chicago, IL

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Last Online
Today – 11:25am
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm a bunch of contradictions. I think we all are.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm at a coffee shop, or a library, or a bar, and I'm tapping away at a keyboard. I'm a writer as a hobby. This is where my passion is.

I went to school for art, which means that I work in retail management. My job not my life-goal, but it is my career, and I do enjoy it, and that is important to me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I've been told that I play a good devil's advocate. I make sincere attempts to understand points of view that I don't necessarily agree with. I strive to be nonjudgemental towards people.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm wearing eyeliner, most likely.

(Random women on OkCupid have e-mailed me to tell me that I shouldn't wear make-up. Please understand that I'm not going to reply to those messages. I like my look. It makes me feel like me).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The new Murakami book is out! It was a quick read. I want to talk about it, but can't w/out disclosing spoilers. If you've read Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage and you want to discuss it, message me!

I'm always reading something and I'm mostly reading fiction. Here is a sampling of some books I've liked: Play It As It Lays (Joan Didion), Lord of Misrule (Jaimy Gordon), The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle (Haruki Murakami), The Stranger (Albert Camus), Lolita (Vladimir Nabokov), Willful Creatures (Aimee Bender), Tender is The Night (F. Scott Fitzgerald), What We Talk About When We Talk About Love (Raymond Carver), A Scanner Darkly (Phil Dick), Snowcrash (Neal Stephenson).

The Sound And The Fury was the best book I've ever read. Can I go on OkCupid and admit that I love Faulkner w/out sounding pretentious? I didn't read him to be pretentious. I'm read him b/c I really liked his use of words. Faulkner was a genius. Although he'd suck if he was ever on Twitter.

People seem to love or hate David Foster Wallace's Infinite Jest. I loved it.

I sometimes read non-fiction too. I just finished a book about psychology and neuroscience in relation to humor. It was a fascinating book.

I'm a big fan of horror. I like thrillers. I love a good drama.

I dislike political documentaries b/c I dislike rhetoric and propaganda, but I love historical docs, like Ken Burns films. I also like whenever Neil deGrasse Tyson says anything.

Deadwood is my favorite show of all time. Boardwalk Empire is great. At bedtime, I pull up a random episode of MST3K from Netflix and I go to sleep while laughing at the show's silliness.

If you talk to me about music, my eyes widen and I start to babble. I won't do that here. I'm into multiple genres: Post-Punk, Industrial, DeathRock, Minimal, Electropop, Indie Rock, Ambient, Hip Hop, Dream Pop, et cetera.

Here are a few of my favorites: Tri Repetae++ (Autechre), Faith (The Cure), III (Crystal Castles), Liquid Swords (GZA), Disco Volante (Mr. Bungle), The End (Nico), Warm Leatherette 7" (The Normal), Tinderbox (Siouxsie And The Banshees), Alice (Tom Waits).

I love going to live shows. Here are some recent highlights: The Presets, Danny Brown, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Frankie Rose, Savages, Spencer Krug (as Moonface), Mazzy Star, Chris & Cosey, The Knife, Trust / EMA, Lana Del Ray, and Die Antwoord. Went to Pitchfork this year and I was blown away by Factory Floor, FKA Twigs, and Slowdive.

Janelle Monáe live was the best thing I've seen (and heard) all year.

Can we just talk about how amazing this year's Riot Fest lineup is?

I'm not much of an epicure. But, in the spirit of list-making, here are some foods that I do enjoy eating: dark chocolate, red wine (that counts, right?), tater tots, and burritos.

I also like the yellow and orange Starburst, but not the red and pink. If we ever meet in person and we split a package of Starburst, you can have all the gross red and pink ones.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The feel of warm water when I wash my hands.
My cat, Familyyr.
The place between dream and wakefulness.
My liver.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working, most likely. Else I'm hanging out w/ friends, or writing, or at a show, or at a gallery, or reading, or rocking a karaoke mic.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes use your profiles as character studies for my writing.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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... You want to share your HBO GO password.

... You want to get together for a drink and a laugh.

... You want to talk books or music.

... You write, draw, paint, make sculpture, dance, sing, play a musical instrument (including laptops), do theater, and/or have another sort of creative outlet. Or if you have an appreciation for people that write, draw, paint, make sculpture, dance, sing, play a musical instrument (including laptops), do theater, and/or have another sort of creative outlet.

I don't have a concrete answer to the question, "What are you looking for?" I'm on OkCupid to chat w/ interesting people. I don't have an end-game. When I meet someone new, I like to let a connection evolve organically. Let's talk, let's drink, let's laugh, let's see what happens.