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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30-46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:29am
6' 2" (1.88m)
Body Type
Average build
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
According to a Buzzfeed Quiz, I'm a 24 year old woman.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I went to school for art, which means that I work in the service industry. I have a 10-7(ish) gig in The Loop. My job not my life-goal, but it is my career, and I do enjoy it, and that is important me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm wearing eyeliner, most likely.

(Random women on OkCupid have e-mailed me to tell me that I shouldn't wear make-up. Please understand that I'm not going to reply to those messages. I like my look. It makes me feel like me.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.

I always have a book on me. I'm always reading. I'm usually reading fiction, but that's not a hard rule. There are no hard rules w/ literature.

I'm a sucker for sad. I thought Joan Didion's Play It As It Lays was as beautiful as it was devastating. I relate to Raymond Carver stories more than I want to. Murakami conveys isolation like no one else. Faulkner is a genius w/ words, but he'd suck if he was on Twitter.


I'm a big fan of horror. I like thrillers. I enjoy a good drama.


All My Circuits.



I'm a music dork. I once hosted a weekly radio show. I once edited an online music magazine. If you talk to me about music, my eyes widen and I start to babble. I won't do that here.

I like a lot of different genres. Depending on my mood, I'll be listening to Ambient Dub, Art Pop, Deathrock, Goth, Hip-Hop, IDM, Indie, Industrial, Minimal Techno, Pop, Rock, Shoegaze, Synth, or whatever else I'm feeling.

I remember the first time I ever heard Warm Leatherette by The Normal. It changed the way I listened to music.

I go to live shows often, maybe two or three a month.

Here are some favorites from the last year or so:
Spencer Krug
Mazzy Star
Chris & Cosey
Lana Del Ray (twice)
Gazelle Twin
Vince Staples / Earl Sweatshirt

I'm going to see Kurt Vile / Waxahatchee this week and I'm super-excited!


I'm not much of an epicure, but I do like French Fries and Tater Tots.

To drink, I enjoy a $10 bottle of red wine, b/c I'm fucking posh.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The feel of warm water when I wash my hands.
My cat, Familyyr.
The place between dream and wakefulness.
My liver.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm hanging out w/ friends, or writing, or at a show, or reading, or rocking a karaoke mic.

I was a bit of a club-kid back in the day and my 40-year old bones still enjoy a night of dancing. The beat goes on...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I write as a hobby and I sometimes use your profiles as character studies.

I'm a little ambivalent toward OkCupid. I'm not sure that this place is for me. And yet I've been here for years. While I've never found much romance here, I've made some great friends.

I don't have a concrete answer to the question, "What are you looking for?" I'm on OkCupid to chat w/ interesting people. I don't have an end-game. (I'm not looking for a random hook-up.) When I meet someone new, I like to let a connection evolve organically. Let's talk, let's drink, let's laugh, let's see what happens.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... You want to talk books or music.

... You want to go to a show. I could always use another concert buddy.

... You want to share your HBO GO password.