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41 Chicago, IL Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 12:58pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Art / Music / Writing
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I don't have a concrete answer to the question, "What are you looking for?" I'm on OkCupid to chat w/ interesting people. I don't have an end-game. When I meet someone new, I like to let a connection evolve organically. Let's talk, let's drink, let's laugh, let's see what happens.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm at a coffee shop, or a library, or a bar, and I'm tapping away at a keyboard. I'm a writer as a hobby. This is where my passion is.

I went to school for art, which means that I work in the service industry. I have a 9-5(ish) gig in The Loop. My job not my life-goal, but it is my career, and I do enjoy it, and that is important to me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm wearing eyeliner, most likely.

(Random women on OkCupid have e-mailed me to tell me that I shouldn't wear make-up. Please understand that I'm not going to reply to those messages. I like my look. It makes me feel like me).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I always have a book in my bag. Here is a sampling of some books I've liked: The Bastard Out of Carolina by Dorothy Allison, Play It As It Lays by Joan Didion, The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle by Haruki Murakami, The Stranger by Albert Camus, Tender is The Night by F. Scott Fitzgerald, What We Talk About When We Talk About Love by Raymond Carver, A Scanner Darkly by Phil Dick, Snowcrash by Neal Stephenson. People seem to love or hate David Foster Wallace's Infinite Jest. I loved it.

The Sound And The Fury was the best book I've ever read. Can I go on OkCupid and admit that I love Faulkner w/out sounding pretentious? I didn't read him to be pretentious. I read him b/c I really liked his use of words. Faulkner was a genius. Although he'd suck if he was ever on Twitter.

I read non-fiction too. I just finished a book about psychology and neuroscience in relation to humor. It was fascinating.

I'm a big fan of horror. I like thrillers. I enjoy a good drama.

I dislike political documentaries b/c I dislike rhetoric and propaganda, but I love historical docs, like Ken Burns films. I also like whenever Neil deGrasse Tyson says anything.

Deadwood is my favorite show of all time. Boardwalk Empire is great. At bedtime, I pull up a random episode of MST3K from Netflix and I go to sleep while laughing at the show's silliness.

If you talk to me about music, my eyes widen and I start to babble. I won't do that here.

I'm into multiple genres: Post-Punk, Industrial, DeathRock, Minimal, Electropop, Indie Rock, Ambient, Hip Hop, Dream Pop, et cetera. Here are a few of my favorites: Tri Repetae++ (Autechre), Faith (The Cure), III (Crystal Castles), Liquid Swords (GZA), Disco Volante (Mr. Bungle), The End (Nico), Warm Leatherette 7" (The Normal), Tinderbox (Siouxsie And The Banshees), Alice (Tom Waits).

I love going to live shows. Here are some recent highlights: The Presets, Danny Brown, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Savages, Spencer Krug (as Moonface), Mazzy Star, Chris & Cosey, The Knife, Lana Del Ray, Janelle Monáe, Röyksopp / Robyn, Owen Pallett, Rhye, Gazelle Twin, FKA Twigs.

I'm not much of an epicure. But, in the spirit of list-making, here are some foods that I do enjoy eating: tatter tots, burritos, dark chocolate.

To drink, I enjoy a $10 bottle of red wine, b/c I'm fucking posh.

I also like the yellow and orange Starburst, but not the red and pink. If we ever meet in person and we split a package of Starburst, you can have all the gross red and pink ones.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The feel of warm water when I wash my hands.
My cat, Familyyr.
The place between dream and wakefulness.
My liver.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm hanging out w/ friends, or writing, or at a show, or at a gallery, or reading, or rocking a karaoke mic.

I was a bit of a club-kid back in the day and my 40-year old bones still enjoy a night of good EDM / techno. The beat goes on...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes use your profiles as character studies for my writing.
You should message me if
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... You want to share your HBO GO password.

... You want to get together for a drink and a laugh.

... You want to talk books or music.

... You write, draw, paint, make sculpture, dance, sing, play a musical instrument (including laptops), do theater, and/or have another sort of creative outlet. Or if you have an appreciation for people that write, draw, paint, make sculpture, dance, sing, play a musical instrument (including laptops), do theater, and/or have another sort of creative outlet.