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40 M Chicago, IL

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:55pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm a bunch of contradictions. I think we all are.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm at a coffee shop, or a library, or a bar, and I'm tapping away at a keyboard. I'm a writer as a hobby. This is where my passion is.

I went to school for art, which means that I work in retail management. My job not my life-goal, but it is my career, and I do enjoy it, and that is important to me.
I’m really good at
I've been told that I play a good devil's advocate. I make sincere attempts to understand points of view that I don't necessarily agree with. I strive to be nonjudgemental towards people.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm wearing eyeliner, most likely.

(Random women on OkCupid have e-mailed me to tell me that I shouldn't wear make-up. Please understand that I'm not going to reply to those messages. I like my look. It makes me feel like me).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I just finished Life After Life by Kate Atkinson and Flamethrowers by Rachel Kushner. I thought both were great.

I mostly read fiction. The Sound And The Fury was the best book I've ever read. Can I go on OkCupid and admit that I love Faulkner w/out sounding pretentious? I didn't read him to be pretentious. I'm read him b/c I really liked his use of words. Faulkner was a genius. Although he'd suck if he was ever on Twitter.

People seem to love or hate David Foster Wallace's Infinite Jest. I loved it.

Here is a sampling of some other books I've liked: Play It As It Lays (Joan Didion), Lord of Misrule (Jaimy Gordon), The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle (Haruki Murakami), The Stranger (Albert Camus), Lolita (Vladimir Nabokov), Willful Creatures (Aimee Bender), Tender is The Night (F. Scott Fitzgerald), What We Talk About When We Talk About Love (Raymond Carver), A Scanner Darkly (Phil Dick), Snowcrash (Neal Stephenson).

I sometimes read non-fiction too. I just finished a book about psychology and neuroscience in relation to humor. It was a fascinating book.

I'm a big fan of horror. I like thrillers. I love a good drama.

I dislike political documentaries b/c I dislike rhetoric and propaganda, but I love historical docs, like Ken Burns films. I also like whenever Neil deGrasse Tyson says anything.

Deadwood is my favorite show of all time. Boardwalk Empire is great. At bedtime, I pull up a random episode of MST3K from Netflix and I go to sleep while laughing at the show's silliness.

I'm one of the millions of people that identifies as being "into music." I'm into multiple genres: Post-Punk, Industrial, Death Rock, Minimal, Electropop, Indie Rock, Ambient, Hip Hop, Dream Pop, et cetera. If you talk to me about music, my eyes widen and I start to babble. I won't do that here. I'll just list a few of my favorites: Tri Repetae++ (Autechre), Faith (The Cure), III (Crystal Castles), Liquid Swords (GZA), Disco Volante (Mr. Bungle), The End (Nico), Warm Leatherette 7" (The Normal), Tinderbox (Siouxsie And The Banshees), Alice (Tom Waits).

I love going to live shows. Some of the highlights from recent times: The Presets, Danny Brown, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Frankie Rose, Savages, Spencer Krug (as Moonface), Mazzy Star, Chris & Cosey, The Knife, Trust / EMA, Lana Del Ray, and Die Antwoord. Went to Pitchfork this year and I was blown-away by Factory Floor, FKA Twigs, and Slowdive.

Can we just talk about how amazing this year's Riot Fest lineup is?

Tater tots.
I also like the yellow and orange Starburst, but not the red and pink. If we ever meet in person and we split a package of Starburst, you can have all the gross red and pink ones.
The six things I could never do without
The feel of warm water when I wash my hands.
My cat, Familyyr.
The place between dream and wakefulness.
My liver.
On a typical Friday night I am
While eye-flirting w/ a pretty grrrl on Milwaukee Ave, I tripped over the curb and stumbled into the street. If someone made a movie of my life, I'm pretty sure I'd be played by Sandra Bullock.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I sometimes use your profiles as character studies for my writing.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
... You want to share your HBO GO password.

... You want to get together for a drink and a laugh.

... You want to talk books or music.

... You write, draw, paint, make sculpture, dance, sing, play a musical instrument (including laptops), do theater, and/or have another sort of creative outlet. Or if you have an appreciation for people that write, draw, paint, make sculpture, dance, sing, play a musical instrument (including laptops), do theater, and/or have another sort of creative outlet.

... You want to be the Charlie XCX to my Iggy Azalea. I need to karaoke "Fancy," but I also need a partner in rhyme to handle the verses.

I don't have a concrete answer to the question, "What are you looking for?" I'm on OkCupid to chat w/ interesting people. I don't have an end-game. When I meet someone new, I like to let a connection evolve organically. Let's talk, let's drink, let's laugh, let's see what happens.