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45 Minneapolis, MN Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:53am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Working on masters program
Rather not say
Has kids

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Truth be told ... I really don't want to be on this site, but I do want the end result of finding my forever person...

I want to find a lady who is loving, gentle, aware and honest with her emotions.
I believe being able to laugh, just enjoy life and have fun together should be a core of the relationship. But, I want depth too, I want us to love each other in a true and authentic way. I want to laugh a lot, have fun and grow through life together...And above all someone who will work at growing our love together through the good and the tough times!

My friends would tell you Im a super fun guy, with a big heart and lots of interests!
I'm consistently told I'm kind, intuitive, easy going, deep, in touch, and very funny.

I have flaws, just like everyone else ... But I'm aware and honest about them and I'm always trying to grow and be a better man!

"how I am" with the people around me matters.
My Meyers-Briggs is INFP if you know what that means…if not its interesting reading:)

I love to joke and have a great time… yet, depth, empathy and my desire to really understand and communicate are at my core…. I regularly hear "I never realized someone like you really existed".

I'm looking for someone who will value a man who is Authentic, heart-felt, intuitive and analytical with a strength and concern for others. Im sensitive and deep but grew up in a boxing, martial arts and motorcycles world…but ended up working in non-profit helping children and families heal and become stronger. Now Im in a business world, but still focus on impacting and helping people. Deep and meaningful relationships are important
However, Ill do just about anything for a good laugh! Man, do I have some stories!

I deeply love my kids ... They ARE my centering, a pure Joy in my life, and an extension of my soul! We are a close and happy family. We do art, go on adventures and play a lot…Im truly happy here!

A few quick things about me -
Im addicted to white mocha drinks
I'm really curious about people - beyond surface stuff
I've bare boat sailed and traveled to a lot of GREAT countries
I'm a creative and artist at heart - painting, playing in bands etc.
I love to learn so I've worked in non-profit, retail, biomedical, Military, IT, Agriculture and owned my own businesses.
I'll play a round of golf...but I'm not a "sports guy".
I'll go for a motorcycle ride along the river..but I'm not a "biker".
I’m affectionate and passionate but, I'm not "driven by my sexuality".
I love the lakes and the outdoors ..... but, Im not a "hunter"(sorry, I don't have a bunch of animals I've killed mounted in my bedroom ;)
I'm not hyper fashion focused...but, I don't mow the grass in my shorts and black socks or have a pick up truck on jacks in the driveway

I am honest ....but, I ALWAYS try to be gentle and you should be too, or at least working on it.
Spirituality and Values are core to me, however, I'm not a "self righteous vigilante", no "bible thumpin", just trying to do and LIVE my faith..!
Im financially stable but care little about money and give because I know how hard it can be out there.
I'm weak enough to need my friends and strong enough to admit it!
About You:
I hope YOU are Heartfelt and empathetic rather than critical
Want a best friend and lover (through thick and thin)
Share your feelings and want intimate connections, not a living companion
Empathetic - Judgmental and Critical need not apply!
Love giving and supporting as much as receiving.
Passionate and a love of touch it’s a plus
Able to coexist with spontaneous, imaginative and adventurous ...its just how Im wired
Understand I Love Love Love my kids and they are at my center!

Attraction and chemistry are important but Im looking for internal beauty and character at the foundation

While I will work hard to build and maintain relationships I'm not real aggressive on this site... so if I spark your interest let me know.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Understanding and helping others - Its at my core
My Children - Being the love and strength my children need
Having Fun - Laughing a ton at stupid stuff …. often myself :)
Boondoggles - Getting lost, Exploring, learning and growing
Family - Laundry, sweeping, buying groceries, fixing "owies"
Music - I used to play in bands so just started writing again
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
"Being there" and really listening
Making people laugh
Painting my little girls toenails
Music and arts
Slicing a golf ball
Making people happy:)

Wanting to be a good man in everything I do...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Smile, sincere, genuine, strong
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: The wonder of girls - Everyones normal till you get to know them - secret messages in water
music: from 89Current to KQRS & tastes range from Classical, blues, Rockabilly, Funk, instrumental etc - played in blues and top 40 bands in another life
Foods …. Italian, French, American, Greek, Asian
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Children, Friends and family
Arts and live Music
Love and compassion
My 68 Camaro Convertible and Motorcycle
Jokes, laughter,
Love, Intimacy, touch
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- How to continue to keep my kids convinced Im a SPY
- "what is this in my hand" and "how did it got there" …. if you have kids you know what I mean!!
- How to support and love my children.
- what makes people life long compatible
- My latest business venture
.... oh and creating plans for my next boondoggle!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Live Music and dancing
Watching kids movies weekends
Painting or writing music
Glass of wine, music, fireplace
Fun places to eat
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The most private thing I'm willing to share would be a message to the woman who is missing in my life ...I wonder if your reading this….
"I know you are out there somewhere! I'm not needy...but I really need YOU my love - wherever you are....I hope to find you soon, but if not ... Ill keep looking and waiting until I find you"

….I know, I know it sounds a bit corny, but its sincere.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Kind - empathetic - have depth - want to know more
Im very approachable but not real aggressive on this site..just not my style…interested?...let me know:)