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56 M Knoxville, TN

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Graduated from masters program
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English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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UPDATE...When I first got on here I was not single and got lots of questions which I left on here as they were interesting and challenging to answer. The questions were valid, but a bit judgemental, but nevertheless worth answering and I suppose since I am a teacher it was a chance to dive into a teachable moment....NOW SINGLE.....IF INTERESTED, PLEASE LET ME KNOW AS I AM FAR FROM INTRUSIVE OR INVASIVE........I am keeping my profile the same as it will give you some insight as to who I am.........Arent' you just tired of the fear, insincerity, insecurity, and immaturity?.....Don't you just yearn for people to treat people as gifts instead of "play-things?"......Can't you just relax and enjoy the ride???

I am an elementary school to watch the light come on in children and adults. I suspect that you will find me to be very stable. Most people say that I look younger than I am and I try to keep myself in shape. I am six feet tall and about 160 to 165. I exercise my physical, spiritual, emotional, mental and relational sides on a daily basis. I am passionate about the places that I invest myself in and the people who I have the privilege of crossing paths with.

I spend most of my week with kids and I am looking for some adult conversation with depth, a great friendship, and chemistry with the right person. I am searching for a friendship with some depth and fun.....I just need to get out more.....By the way, I love to dance and actually do have some would prefer that you IM me, wink, or drop me a note if you are interested in some fun and a great friend as being appropriate is really important to me. It would also let me know that you are interested...

BTW........I suppose if you consider the pics a little risque', then you would probably not appreciate my artistic, creative side that sees this as an expression and a revelation of a moment and a hopeful attitude stripped of all pretense rather than just pictures that are insinuative and lewd......

Update to the Update to the Update to the Update to the Update....It's another question. Who knew????? keep getting this. "Why did you stay in a this relationship when your boys obviously knew that there was something wrong and you are allowing them to see a bad relationship and they will grow up thinking that this is what it is like to have a healthy relationship?....... Geez.....So, here it is and the "novel" will follow. "It is what it is until it is not"...JMM

The boys have long known of the tension. I am a peacemaker so I have kept the household cordial, courteous, helpful, and stable. I am a teacher, so I have taken a bad circumstance and used it to teach my boys about what it will be like when they find one who will expend as much energy to them as they do to their future mate. "Everything has its own set of circumstances and the responses are always different based on one's perception and personal convictions for the circumstance." I have stayed because I wanted to be a "father" not a "weekend dad." You see "presence" is a powerful "present." I have wanted to be actively involved, participative, interested, and be some stability amidst her instability and bad behavior. She has had 3 more encounters that I have found out about since the first. After that, I quit trying. But, it was never about her after that and never about me as well. "It was all about them." In TN., it is either joint custody or the mom gets the kids no matter what she has done. We separated for a while and I almost lost them due to her venom. So, I came home and have provided my boys someone who can teach them, encourage them, facilitate growth and responsibility in them, and be there when they need to talk. We are very close. My last son just graduated from high school this year (2012) and is off to college in the fall.

I have discovered in a quick-fix, immediate gratification society that sometimes it is much better to wonder in the wilderness for a while than escape the evil and that this kind of selflessness over selfishness has tremedous rewards and sends uncanny, amazing messages. It has paid off with my boys. They have become fine young men who know how to critically think, socialize in an acceptable fashion, and decision-make based on both their hearts and their heads. They did not just hear it. They got to see how that happens and dialogue about it because I stayed in the "stuff." They needed a male role model in their lives. Far from perfect, yes, but intentional and intense about their well-being obviously. I know that this is crazy to most, but my head and my heart compelled me to model, not move to the exit. I have had the opportunity to provide, talk, teach, and trail-blaze along side them in the progression of their lives. The investment has paid off. You see it is not so much what happens to us that matters, but what happens to what happens to us that makes all the difference in the world. A bad situation is always a teachable moment and so in this world of paradox positive can come from negative and inequitable circumstances can become moments for escalated life education. One has but to dream of the possibilities and be persistent to realize that the worst things are not the last things. So, I took what was and have helped facilitate what it can become. I would change nothing except the moments that I was not with them.

I have a positive outlook on life and my future is bright. I have taken the negative energy and bitterness that I could have had and transferred it to my boys and my students. Greatness is found in giving, not circumstances....JMM The status quo is not where I live and selflessness will potentially create a reciprocated committment in some cases. In the times it does not, it is still worth the attempt. I march to my own beat and my rhythm resonates with my life rhyme. So, I sleep well, content, and consoled internally as my commitent keeps me creative, alive, and fresh.... "It is what it is until it isn't and I choose to change what is into what is not".......JMM...It's just who I am. I hope that you see the paradox of selflessness over selfishness and that adversity is merely an opportunity for magnificient motivation in others. "A bad situation is always the chance to change the outcome"...JMM....I do not judge your circumstances or your decisions as you have to do what you must, so please do not indict me for mine......I would have to walk in your shoes to understand your stance. I hope this has put this question to rest like Sleeping Beauty who had her happy ending as well........I wish you well....

Update to the Update to the Update to the Update.....Oh, I love the questions...These are good.......Why are so many teachers unhappy in their jobs?.........What made you decide to become a teacher?
If you will indulge me for a moment, I will address the teacher unhappiness first as I love happy endings :)...........There are many reasons teachers can find to be negative, but here it is in a nutshell. Those teachers who despise their jobs have majored on the minors and missed the magnificent......

I stand at my door every morning and I look into their faces and their eyes to see if there is an ember, a glimmer, or a bright ray of light that displays itself. All of them get my best "Good Morning" with their name attached. I get a smile, ignored, or sadness, but nothing can stop me...........nothing..... For those with an ember of hope for the day I blow softly on the ember to see if I can turn the spark into a small flame of joy. For those with a glimmer of hope, I do my best window cleaner impression to wipe away the film that is keeping them from experiencing the full rays of life into their life. For those with that bright sunny smile I attempt to interject more light so that their day is even brighter and more beautiful and nothing can stop me from my task....There is that word "NOTHING" It is what I do. It is who I am. I eluded to this in the "novel." I have the privilege of giving without knowing whether it is working or not. I am not deterred. I am a "gardener." I plant seeds. I nurture them, water them with love and compassion, provide warmth and light, and then I hope that they grow. If you need immediate gratification, you are in the wrong place. This is a long haul, "road trip", if you will, that might have a dead end or deluge of delightful delicacies at the end of the meal. You just don't know. You feed them every ounce of sustenance that you have and then you must be patient,.....wait and watch. In the in between, I expend creativity, enthusiasm, encouragement, social skills, some good old fashion fun, and every ounce of energy I can muster. I stand at my door at the end of the day to see if the ember was fanned enough to start a fire, to see if the glimmer is turned into a solar flare of fun and excitement, and I watch to see if the bright light becomes blinding and the day became even more rich and full. If it was about me I would probably be negative, but it is all about them. And then I hope........... I hope that the next day when they walk in that the best 8 hours of their day was because they were and are in my classroom..... I teach not because of what is, but what can be. I have the opportunity and the privilege to focus away from what is going on in their present and emphasize their potential. I am parent, teacher, counselor, psychologist, mentor, friend, an ear, a hand, a smile, a warm hello.......It's a lot of hats, but hats that help facilitate character and expand their capacities............. It's not just teaching..... It is soooo much more. So, I teach so I can give because "Giving is living."......JMM....... I dream for the dreamless some days as I see futures they cannot see. I hope for the hopeless some days and provide encouragement that prompts some to hang around and hang out with me one more day so they can see what the crazy guy is going to do the next I am tough and tender and it is always about them.....I am tough in that I set boundaries for kids who have no internal compass and dish out consequences so that great character and behavior are escalated.....I am tender in that those who come in battered and abused in whatever way that happens to be get the comfort and care combined with the soothing salve of love that lets them know that they matter........I love my kids... I am called, committed, compassionate, and passionate about what I do and the way I do it.......Some days orthodox and other days off the wall, but always for the sake of the student......I major on the majors which means being present, personal, positive, professional, and persistent.....The "Sweet P's" of success that feed my soul and hopefullly theirs...I eat my green stuff everyday so that they can soak up and sponge up and grow up in ways that would ordinarily never occur.......I am a teacher; called and committed to the excellence of my students in every arena........That my dear friend can only be stolen by me and I will guard the fortress of my heart, mind and emotions for the sake of my kids (students) from the negativism that would thieve their future......I just can't help it. I am a teacher.....Hmmmm.........Wonder if that answers your question........

Update to the Update to the Update.........More fodder for my feelings............ Here is the quote: "You know that your profile is too good to be true." Wow, that's even better than I thought. I suppose I have always wanted to be too good to be true, but then that puts me in the realm of fantasy. Just thinking out loud. I might need to "dummy-down" my honesty a bit.............ya think?????? I am who I am. I express myself the way I express myself. I suppose the doubters will continue to deliver. Now, I am far from perfect, but my heart is tender, my mind is keen, my spirit sensitive, and my emotions moved. Come to think of it maybe that is a bit unbelievable unless one understands the character of a true man rather than the society, norm male. I suppose if you constitute a connection that the reality will unfold..........hhhmmmmm........ Something to think about I suppose..........

Update to the Update: The new question?.......Are you really a giver?.........Giving is living........The only thing we leave behind is what we give away.........My goal is to out-give those I have the privilege of crossing paths with.....The response was......What do you get out of it?............People just don't get it......I "get" to give ......I don't "have to.".....Did you understand......."I GET TO GIVE"............

I understand that the world is full of takers and I will more than likely get very little back, but my response and reason for existing is not based on their response......If it just so happens that someone decides to give to me, then wonderful.....Reciprocation of and with the same energy and depth that I invest would obviously be what I would consider real love, but I suppose that this would be a bonus in the this age of "takers." .... But it's really why I teach.........I give to my kids without expectation of return.......sometimes I happen to get a magical, it.....But my basic rationale for giving is not to get.......but to invest, deposit, dispense........The potential of others is a powerful legacy to leave behind.

UPDATE:....I got asked: Are you for real?.....BTW, Meg Ryan asks Leopold the same thing in Kate and Leopold........So, I checked and yes I am.........laughing.......I think I would make a "real" great friend...........and I also do windows.......

I am very romantic and love intimacy that connects two people on a level of depth. I believe that this area keeps two people connected and keeps the relationship alive and fresh. I love rain on a tin roof, long walks on the beach when I go, snuggling on the couch, long soft warm get the picture.......I am a romantic. I love spontaneity and freshness in a relationship. I have never done drugs, drink rarely, but on occasion, do not smoke........My only addictions are long hugs, kissing, dancing, and dark chocolate.......pretty bad, huh? I play a little guitar and when inspired write some music.........It's a therpeutic hobby....

I am passionate, intentional, and very romantic and love to dance....I think I mentioned
What I’m doing with my life
Expending myself to others as much as possible as this is the only thing that I will leave behind......... standards and truth.
I’m really good at
Loving someone who knows how to love me back and loving those who refuse to love, accept, and gift me back some love.
The first things people usually notice about me
Are my eyes and my smile and then my wit and personality. I am not drop-dead gorgeous, but my face is not bag-over-the-head material either. I think you could probably look without turning to
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
As Good As It Gets....Kate and Leopold....The Bucket List.....The Princess Bride.......Cars...A Few Good Men.......Serendipity...These are just a few of the many I enjoy.......My music tastes are very eclectic..........Seafood, Chicken, veggies, and someone reminded me that I love great Cajun food........
The six things I could never do without
My kids, food, shelter, clothing, love. nice hugs, snuggling, intimacy.......the order is dynamic based on the need of the day.......
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how I can help other people.
On a typical Friday night I am
dancing, kayaking, dancing, weights/cardio, dancing, hiking, dancing, reading, going to watch high school athletics, watching a movie, golf, tennis, dancing, a "blankie" and a fireplace and maybe a glass of wine and some conversation with depth with a special someone......
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
that I love kissing and someone reminded me that I despise yard work.......Maybe that is because my yard is on the side of a
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–56
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you actually read this whole are looking for a stable, solid guy who loves to go dancing and would be a great friend, confidante, and lover to someone. If you want someone who knows the value of a female and treats women with respect, courtesy, and dignity. If you love music..............and if you like riding a motorcycle every now and then just to feel the breeze on your face.................