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42 Chicago, IL Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 31–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 23
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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So, I've just turned 42, which has made me wonder why I even bother having a dating profile anymore. Perhaps it's a mix of blind optimism crossed with sociopathic masochism (sociopathic against myself, not others. I have no idea that what I'm doing to myself by being on here is damaging to myself and none of those around me... and I keep coming back for more!).

But who cares? Just a number. Yet, I find myself hoping against hope that there is still a chance at putting together a family and having a kid. I figure I probably got another 50 years left on this planet. I exercise twice daily, don't drink caffeine and have a job that keeps me young at heart. And I don't waste my time watching bad junk (just good junk). There's still time. There's still hope. I don't have to go it alone just yet.

Or... or I can get myself a cat, hole up in my apartment with a firearm or two, read nothing but political propaganda, take up smoking, shave only half of my face and only look out my window when I have a pair of binoculars handy. I think that's where we're all headed anyway.

Until then, let's break out the booze and have a ball... if that's all... there is....
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Basking in the glow of a job well done in completing my latest short film. Super proud of this one.

Getting nervous about and preparing for two major screenings I'm hosting where the actors from the films will be present for a Q&A. Way outside my comfort zone, but that's when I like it best.

Teacher, wedding videographer, film critic. Granted, not the sexiest mix of professions for a guy, but I'll bet I have more fun doing what I do than most other guys on here.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making short films, getting out of my comfort zone (hence the skydiving picture), using my time wisely, self-awareness, taking things in stride without being a pushover, working with kids, cracking wise, writing, speaking in public, recommending a movie for just about any situation.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I bear no resemblance to Don Cheadle.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
In order to keep this short and concise (not easy for a professional), I'm going to narrow this down to films that have had an impact on my life in one way or another:
Brazil, E.T., Stop Making Sense, Tree of Life, Joe Versus the Volcano, American Movie, Star Wars.

Books: Just finished the Jim Henson biography. Currently reading Picnic At Hanging Rock. Contact by Carl Sagan; A Confederacy of Dunces by John Kennedy Toole; Killing Bono by Neil McCormick; Into the Wild by John Krakauer; Harry Potter series; Andy Kaufman Revealed by Bob Zmuda. Life Itself by Roger Ebert.

TV: Modern Family, Arrested Development, Louie, Freaks and Geeks, Orange Is the New Black, Game of Thrones, Mad Men, Daily Show, Colbert, House of Cards, Breaking Bad, South Park, Monty Python, It's Always Sunny...

Music: Arcade Fire, U2, The Frames (and Swell Season), Neko Case, Black Rebel Motorcycle Club, Talking Heads/David Byrne, St. Vincent, Beck, The xx, Leonard Cohen, The National, The Feelies, The Beatles, Radiohead, Wilco. That song Gonzo sings in The Muppet Movie.

Food: Glogg slushies at Simon's is my new reason to live. Red velvet pancakes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
"Everything is better with beer and monkeys."
--Maya Angelou

Okay, but really (in no particular order)...
Movies (it's my passion and we all need one of those)
My job (I love it that much)
My friends and family (kind of a no-brainer)
Hopes and dreams (stagnant is boring)
Traveling (see "hopes and dreams")
A nearby city (I'd freak out if I lived in the middle of nowhere)
"Zoo Station"
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Get a cat or get back to taking guitar lessons? Hhmmmmm....

Do I really, really, really have to get a smart phone? (okay, fine!)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Collapsing after a long week of dealing with other people's children. But I will go out if provoked.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a weakness for the "Step Up" movies.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You really are serious about starting something new and aren't "set in your ways." That seems to be a tall order these days for people in my age group.

And if I write you, please don't write back if you have no interest in meeting. I don't like too much email back-and-forth. We're not getting any younger, so why waste so much time typing what we can just as easily say to one another?

And if all you have is a picture of your eyes, know this: It is not sexy or alluring, nor does it make you mysterious. It's batshit-psycho-crazy and you invade my nightmares every time you do it.