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My self-summary
'neuroscientist', disco dancer, anxious body, sad femme-inist, sentimental commie, queer turk, listless hard worker

~ no "sapiosexuals" ~

[pronouns: she/her/they]

Generally favour non-normative relationships/friendships. Asexual and demisexual people, pls feel free to connect.

Also dig this chat up line from the Weerasethakul movie Tropical Malady :
"You're hot and wild like a forest fire"
(msg me if you are hot and wild like a forest fire)
What I’m doing with my life
Reading/researching neuroscience. My last research project was on the effect of chronic stress on hippocampal microglia and neurogenesis in the context of depression pathogenesis. scientists hmu

Desperately seeking PhD.

Reading and writing things

Cooking and eating meals that consistently include yoghurt, olive oil, garlic and onions. Sometimes for friends. I am really into dinners with friends and family and kitchens filled with music and people cooking together.

Talking to my friends online and offline.

Hanging out with my sister and other family.
I’m really good at
patience, affective empathy, honesty/oversharing, social awkwardness, making themed playlists, giving eye contact when listening (but not that well when I'm the one talking), talking on the phone, texting back... the essentials.

(also slicing brains and according to my bestie: "alienating people")
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like it when people read books/stories out loud to each other. This bit is quite long. Sorry.

Reading material: bell hooks, the will to knowledge, butler, jean rhys, banana yoshimoto, maggie nelson, woolf, my brilliant friend, story of the eye, middlesex, marquez, chris kraus, marie calloway, junot diaz, murakami, james baldwin, zora neale hurston, raymond carver, anais nin, flaubert, wuthering heights, le grand meaulnes. I'd really love good LGBT book recommendations.

music: nicki minaj, drake, shabazz palaces, princess nokia, kendrick, kanye, j dilla, rihanna, beyoncé, solange, dean blunt, lion babe, hype williams, JOHN MAUS, silver jews, julia holter, james ferraro, mbv, yo la tengo, slowdive, fka twigs, atlas sound, bill callahan, dirty beaches, william basinski, TOPS, fear of men, ramona lisa, chairlift, beat happening, fennesz, frankie cosmos, broadcast, asobi seksu, maria minerva, sisters of mercy, clan of xymox, frankie rose, madonna, swans, Arthur Russell, pet shop boys, tlc, Aaliyah

films: Celine Sciamma, Agnes Varda, Chantal Akerman (je tu il elle), David lynch, truffaut, rohmer, weerasethakul (esp Tropical Malady but Uncle Boonmee is also pretty sick), Daiseas, kieslowski, haneke, wong kar wai, mike leigh, terrence malick, wim wenders, love like poison, in the city of sylvia, suddenly (2002), belle de jour, me you and everyone we know, but I'm a cheerleader, clueless, heathers, ginger snaps, virgin suicides, pretty in pink...
guilty pleasures: dish and the spoon (made me cry...lol), the runaways (have soft spot for history of riot grrl and lesbian themes)

television: ultimate favourite and obsession - My So Called Life. Also Transparent, Buffy, orange is the new black, twin peaks, freaks and geeks, The Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl, RuPaul's Drag Race also The L Word tbh. And Sugar Rush.

food: I like pretty much all of it. I like all cuisines. My favs include: mexican, middle eastern, Mediterranean, french...also Silk Road.
The six things I could never do without
solidarity, honesty, good feminists, nonbullshit togetherness, nice books, nice music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
"what the fuck is wrong with me", education, dualisms, bodies, ableism, intersectionality, whiteness/white supremacy/racism, being a "white passing" or white Turk, 'freaks', femininity, queerness, 'neurodivergence', communism, utopia, performance, performativity, brains, adult hippocampal neurogenesis, the HPA axis, empathy, anxiety, anhedonia, socioeconomic origins of mental illness, stress, mental health, the way the state treats illness and disease as an "economic burden", oversharing, narcissism, "sex", intimacy, gender expression, social anxiety, autism, "pretty", sapphism, why I struggle to be concise, dreams (sleep dreams), whoever I have a crush on at the time
On a typical Friday night I am
there are too many people out there on a Friday night but sometimes I go out
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm unintimidating. I can be described as "nice".

dxed aspie (with high EQ)

People often paint pictures of me and I never even ask them to. Make you think.
You should message me if
You're not a cop.

You're not a fuckboi.

You dance.

You like talking on the phone.

If you only have white male writers listed in your books list then I will not message you back. I mean, is that really the best you can do? Sorry not sorry etc.

You want to have a chill nonplatonic or platonic friendship that involves watching queer movies together etc.

If you are here to date I'd prefer it if you are someone who is already experienced with queer dating or is at least willing to actually be honest about what you want etc. I literally don't care if you're a bisexual dude with 'cute' stories about your sexuality if you're gonna act like every other shitty boring dude who sucks at communication. I am allergic to most men...let it be known.

If you wanna just hang out in a tentative, friend/nondate kinda way hmu